To be happy and feel good we need to attend to our body, mind, emotions, and spiritual connection. To the subtler parts of our existence. We need to keep these parts of ourselves in balance – at least most of the time, as a sustained unbalanced life will not serve our ultimate peace and happiness.
Modern society has devalued the importance of the subtler aspects of living: of taking the time to reflect and connect to what makes us feel peaceful and happy and of listening to the urges of our soul. Instead, we have been encouraged to follow a work-for-gain lifestyle and embrace the competitive market place that goes along with it.
When we ignore the subtler, reflective, and feeling parts of ourselves, which convey our soul’s guidance, we fall into the trap of following what society has deemed important. Unknowingly, we get caught up in social and economic forces that do not have our best interest at heart, and fatigue, stress, and apathy often set in, causing us to undermining ourselves from becoming our Best Self.
These social and economic forces are part of Humanity’s history that has been based on false realities. Of separate motivations grounded in fear, greed, competition – on me-against-you.
Fighting for our survival became paramount in our existence. We were reactive, rather than responsive.
Although today most of us do not have to fight for our physical survival, we have translated this survival mode to one of business – of getting ahead.
And we have maintained the competitiveness and reactive states of that survival mode.
Rather than responding calmly and only addressing what is currently happening, many of us react to others and situations aggressively – often bringing in past issues or unaddressed emotions from our past.
Our business, competitiveness, focus on getting ahead, and our reactive states have left no room to connect to our subtler and reflective natures.
This article/blog post is based in concepts from my books
“Your Journey to Peace … “ and “Why We Are the Way We Are”
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With the reflective and feeling parts of ourselves disregarded, we lead unbalanced lives. We have become disconnected from the subtleties of our True Self.
This can cause us to be uncompassionate. Selfish. Unable to see how our attitudes and behaviors affect those around us.
An unbalanced life undermines our peace and happiness. And we are usually in denial that we are behaving in ways that hurt us or those around us.
The classic example are workaholics, who spend all their time focusing on success, money, and/or power and leave no time for relaxation, family life, or spiritual growth.
Workaholics are usually unaware or in denial of the consequence of their single-mindedness on themselves and the effects of their pursuits on others.
Or, they may have their eyes wide open and simply not care about anything or anybody else at this point in their lives, which is of course their own choice. They just may have to face the consequences – at one time or another.
It is the unconscious driving forces from Humanity’s and our personal past histories that creates a distorted picture of reality causing us to allow for imbalances in our lives.
We are now starting to understand that we do not have to be greedy or in competition with others. That there is enough love, success, and material goods to go around – for us and everyone. That the Universe operates under the principle of abundance.
However, to be open to the universal gifts offered we have to maintain a connection to universal flow. This connection is weakened when we are unbalanced. And when we live unbalanced lives the important things that ultimately fulfill us suffer.
This is usually related to health, family life, career, or our happiness and ability to connect to the subtleties in life. To feel joy. To feel peaceful.
We need to ask ourselves whether or not our life choices and decisions will bring us peace of mind, contentment, and ultimately make us happy.
Most of us have at least – at one time or another gotten caught up in the business of life and feeling the necessity of being in competition with others.
In his transformative healing sessions, Gerry Clow reminds us that as a society we have tipped the scales way off center as we have replaced the subtler aspects of life with the harsher ones:
“Most of our lives we are reactive, rather than reflective. We spend our time searching, not sourcing; looking, not listening; finding, but not feeling. We involve ourselves in life, forgetting often how to evolve ourselves in life, not realizing it’s essential – and healthy – to be on both pathways at the same time.” (1)
We inherited these attitudes. But we now know how destructive they are to our personal happiness and spiritual growth. It is time for us, individually and as a collective, to realize the importance of living conscious, balanced lives so that we can all become our Best Self. To do so we must:
- Make the necessary changes to bring about living a balanced life.
- Support and promote balanced life philosophies for others.
- Let go of our competitive and combative ways.
- Place importance on empowerment for everyone—instead of yielding to those who wield control and power over us.
- Make time for the subtler aspects of living.
- Ensure we are connecting to and engaging our True Self—and following its guidance.
© Rosemary McCarthy, June 2019, updated October 2019
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