Understanding Our Emotional Wounds
We have mostly been unaware that Unconscious Influences run our lives – without our consent.
(Link to Part 1 below)
Our past experiences and emotional wounds – those we remember and those we do not – are embedded in our cellular memories, and along with our innate personalities affect how we feel, how we react, and what we do, or don’t do.
How we approach life is also based on what we inherited from our ancestry and Humanity’s history – from our familial, generational, cultural, and religious / spiritual backgrounds.
Whether positive or negative, these Unconscious Influences and the heart-beliefs these create are deeply embedded in our psyches. We often don’t understand why we, or others, act the way we do.
This article/blog post is based in concepts from my books:
“Your Journey to Peace … “ see here for About Book
and “Why We Are the Way We Are” see here for About Book
(Book cover images below)
This is because negative underlying influences lead us to believe that to be happy and feel emotionally and physically safe, we must navigate the world in protective and defensive ways.
Our Unconscious Influences float about in our psyches
like sparks of love or daggers of fear.
They will influence how we feel, act, react, live, and love.
Humanity’s history has been to allow – and even promote a thought-based system based on fear and lack to run our lives. Main stream society was repressed, and so we became fearful and a paradigm of lack set in. Fear caused us to not question the status quo.
We were always overruled, as we were at the beck and call of the powerful and wealthy for our survival. So, we buried our ideas. We buried our real feelings and emotions. Burying became the norm.
And so today, much of what we feel, say, and do is based on Unconscious Influences that were never addressed, or questioned, but that run our lives.
We think that our feelings and our responses are based in truths, but often they are not. What we feel and how we respond often comes from learned patterns of behavior that became habitual.
Buried feelings and fear-based thinking
cause a disconnect from our True Self.
From its love and sense of empowerment.
The connection to our True Self
is as necessary for our spiritual well-being
as breathing is to our physical well-being.
Disconnected from our True Self, we are disconnected from our heart-space, and unable to experience the Oneness we are a part of. Being disconnected from our heart-space, we are unable to meet others at theirs, and can only meet them at a head-to-head level. At this head-to-head level we are unable feel the Oneness we share with others. We feel adrift in the world.
Disconnected from our heart-space, we often feel hurt because we are not connected to the love within. What other people say and do affects us because we are needy for love. Not knowing what to do with the hurt, we project it outwards and get angry at the other, blame them, and/or are judgmental of them. Or, we may become overly passive, creating more emotional turmoil within us.
All these ways of responding create push-and-pull scenarios with others. Conflicts ensue, keeping us feeling further alienated from the love within, and from others.
The ways we navigate the world and deal with others are just symptoms of the deeper, unaddressed issues we have not been taught how to acknowledge and override.
- Feeling hurt is a symptom of neediness.
- Getting angry is a symptom of frustration.
- Being judgmental is a symptom of lack of confidence, or of coming from a place of
- separateness rather than Oneness.
- Blaming others is projecting our fears and frustrations outwards.
- Being overly passive is a manifestation of a lack of confidence – of self-worth.
As well as being unduly influenced by how we have been taught to approach life,
we have not been shown how to love unconditionally.
What we experienced, witnessed, and/or attitudes we inherited from our past has lured our psyches into believing that conditional love is the norm.
The protective, and divisive attitudes and reactionary states that rule our lives leave no room for unconditional love. Unconscious Influences and the habitual patterns of behavior they create and our inability to feel and give unconditional love is what keeps us from being our Best Self.
To Become Our Best Self, We Must Consider Two Elements
- A) Connect To, and Anchor in Our True Self
- B) Dismantle What Is in the Way of Accessing Our True Self.
Next week I will further discuss these two important factors to becoming our Best Self. To keep updated follow my Facebook page, or sign up for my monthly newsletter – both links below.
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~Rosemary McCarthy© May 17, 2019
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