Newsletter February 2020 “Putting Heart and Love into All We Do”

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❤️Putting Heart and Love into All We Do

Bringing heart and love to all we do
and to all our interactions
increases the love vibe in our heart –
even if the task is menial or the other is unloving.

This article and the above quote came about as the old idea of the “mother lovingly cooking supper for her family” recently came across my awareness. I had always brushed this idea off as silly or inconsequential, but as the thought entered my mind this time so did the connection it had to what we are all now encouraged to do – to bring heart and love into all we do. Of course, today, we would modernize that idea to include all who cook (or do any tasks) for their loved ones: father, aunt, brother, sister, etc.

It seems that many of the sayings of our parents and grandparents, like “don’t waste,” “don’t abuse or misuse,” and “don’t be greedy” were wise words to live by – although at the time we weren’t (or at least I wasn’t) given reasons of why we should follow these guidelines. These were wise principles to live by, as we now see the repercussions of the waste, misuse, greediness, and abuse modern society has fallen prey to.

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With our newfound understanding of energy, vibration, and the Universal Laws of Attraction and Cause and Effect, we now realize that all our thoughts, intentions, and actions – and the energy we bring to whatever we say or do impacts how we feel, how life plays out for us, and how it affects others.

Energy and vibration are not tangible – not in a way that we can see, but in a feeling way they do affect everything. We cannot see love. We cannot see hate. But we can feel them. We can feel others’ energy outputs.

When we walk into a room where people are having fun and being light-hearted, we feel the light-hearted energy. And when we walk into a room where people are serious or arguing, we can feel the energy of that too.

So, as we go about our daily life, let’s bring heart, love, and light-heartedness to all we do. Even when doing tasks that require the brain and concentration, like surgery, accounting, driving, etc., we can still start these with a heart-felt intention – to bring the best to the task at hand.

The Value in Bringing Loving Feelings to All We Do

When we bring loving attention to any task our heart expands.

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With heartfelt love, and blessings I wish you all many expressions of love throughout the rest of February

Rosemary ❤️

©Rosemary McCarthy, February 22, 2020.

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Relationships: Partnering Up Consciously – Separating Consciously 2/3

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The more we evolve, the more we will be able to easily trust that our hearts are showing us a true picture when choosing a spouse or life-partner (or even friends or a business partner).

(Link to Part 1,  As We Continue to Evolve All Our Relationships Will Improve found here

We will no longer need to be so wary of our unconscious influences luring us into chaotic situations or have to be so vigilant at continuously examining our emotions, desires, or motives.

Nor will we have to be so cautious of others’ motives. As we will be working at higher vibration capacities, our radars will be well attuned to the vibrations of others and if something is off we will cue into it quickly.

The greater our connection to our True Self the more we feel guided towards partners based on true soul parings where we encourage each other to be the best we can be.

This article is based on  Ch 5, “Relationships” in my book, Your Journey to Peace …  About Book here

And because our strength and self-confidence comes from within, we are not invested in changing our partner or making them acquiesce to our desires.

We also understand that our partner gets his or her strength and guidance from their True Self, and if that guidance is calling them to move on from the relationship we will not be so inclined towards drama, anger, revenge, or the plethora of negative responses breaking up has caused in the past.

As we continue to evolve, choosing our spouses and life-partners consciously will st rt to become the norm.

Separating Consciously Will Also Start to Become the Norm

In our most recent history an intact family provided the foundations we needed to grow emotionally healthy, and when divorce or separations occurred, even if the family life was not perfect, the children felt like the rug was being pulled out from under them.

The sense of security children feel when a family is intact and they are surrounded by at least some love and caring echoes God’s unconditional love for us.

When a family breaks up, the sense of loss is somewhat due to changed circumstances, but much of it is due to the drama and emotions surrounding how most separations and divorces are dealt with – at  least how they have been in the past.

When there is  drama, conflict, blame, revenge and the many negative  attitudes and behaviors that often come about in the midst of divorce or separation, that sense of love and security is eroded. Even when a family is not perfect and there is some conflict, an intact family still offers a sense of security to the children.

As we become more evolved individually and are more closely connected to our True Selves, our separations will occur without the dire effects that has been so common and fueled by hurt, anger, rage, revenge, and blame.

We are already encouraging our children to look into their hearts and trust their inner guidance, and so their connection to their True Self is stronger than in past generations. This gives them an inner-strength that follows them everywhere.

 

As couples are inspired to separate or divorce with integrity, they will honor the promises made and will be able to agree on shared child rearing duties, day-to-day obligations, and fair distribution of finances.

The children will then be much less inclined to internalize the effects of the break-up and succumb to dysfunctional attitudes or behaviors, or pass on the effects of unresolved issues regarding their parents’ separation onto their own children.

This blog post is a continuation of Part 1,  As We Continue to Evolve All Our Relationships Will Improve. Found HERE  

 ~ Rosemary McCarthy© February 11, 2020.

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As We Evolve – ALL Our Relationships Will Improve (1/3)

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Relationships are the vehicle that best allow us work out our issues.

Our pains and fears. Our neediness. Our aggression. Our protective devices. 

Where we most play out our reactionary styles.

This is especially true in our familial relationships – especially our significant others.

 

This is a quote from Your Journey to Peace … About Book HERE

Our Couple Relationships

What most of us look for in our intimate relationships is companionship, and for the other to love, help, and support us in life.  In our younger days we may look for the right person to build a family with.  We may also look for a partner to offer us security. And from a human perspective this is all fine.

However, from a higher, spiritual perspective, the purpose of all our relationships is for soul growth: to connect more fully to our True Self and the love and sense of empowerment it holds. In fact, all our interactions with others offer us opportunities to come from that place of love – and to offer the qualities of love to others.  (Qualities of love explained in book).

Our relationships are the best vehicle to work through our unprocessed hurts and pains from our past, because the intimacy required and day-to-day life our differing personalities, ways of approaching life, and the various persons’s protective strategies often clash. Unconscious influences, like neediness, defensiveness, controlling tendencies, etc. then naturally arise.

Our couple relationships often hold expectations that often cannot be met. Our communication skills are often weak. With presumed, unvoiced, or misunderstood expectations and poor communication we may have hurt feelings or react badly in frustration. Our unconscious, habitual responses rear their ugly head. Instead of coming from a place of love and understanding conflict ensues.

Our relationships are actually set up to trigger our unconscious influences

by the other pushing our buttons.

This is the reason our relationships are so difficult!

In fact, we hold soul contracts with those closest to us to help us work through the conflicts that naturally arise. Our unconscious influences create  barriers to living from a place of connection to our True Self, and the love and the sense of empowerment it offers us.

To connect more fully to our True Self and the love it holds we must overcome these barriers. From our soul’s perspective, our relationships are created to bring our unconscious influences to the surface for healing.

Issues that come out in our relationships are opportunities to work through our unconscious, habitual and defensive responses we erected as denial and protection mechanisms from our past.

These show up as neediness, greed, and/or unloving or aggressive tendencies. Acknowledging, understanding, and working through our habitual responses is always a good thing, as in doing so we remove the barriers to love.

Removing the barriers to love:

  • We can feel love more easily.
  • We can express love more easily.
  • We are more confident.
  • Feel more empowered.

Coming from a place of love we create harmonious relationships.

We can often even heal conflict-ridden ones. 

With a little self-reflection and the courage to look to understand why we feel, react, and act in certain ways around those close to us, we can heal this disconnect to our True Self.

Our habitual responses are ego / fear based. To connect to our True Self we must be heart based. To feel joy, be happy, feel empowered, and create harmonious relationships we must be heart based.

Working towards healing our relationships is most often recommended. Of course, abusive situations are never to be tolerated.

The Chemistry We Feel With Another Can Have Many Purposes

The chemistry we feel with another is a soul calling. It may guide us towards our life-partner, or not. Sometimes the chemistry people feel with each other does not necessarily have to end in a long, or even short-term relationship.

A heart connection with a strong chemical attraction may be a left-over energetic pull from a past-life association. We may not be meant to act on the connection we feel, and the lesson to learn through the energetic pull we feel towards the other is to rise above the chemistry and use discretion in choosing a partner.

We may have an unfinished lesson to learn with the other and we are only to get together for a time (a reason or a season), for a specific purpose or to learn a lesson, and then move on.

We must always ensure that when entering into a relationship that we will feel loved, safe, and be treated kindly and with compassion so to avoid conflict and drama. Taking the time to get to know someone before becoming emotionally entangled helps avoid drama and hurt feelings.

Relationships create emotional entanglements and the unraveling from those based in neediness or left-over energetic pulls that hold drama usually carry much unpleasantness, emotional pain, and confusing pull-push scenarios.

As We Evolve, ALL Our Relationships Improve

As the effects of this Shift of consciousness Humanity is going through continues to encourage us to find joy, lightness in living, compassion and understanding towards others, and the impetus to overcome any unconscious influence we hold that undermine our self and/or create conflict with others, all aspects of all our relationships will improve.

Current relationships will become healthier, as the conflicts that are rooted in neediness, seriousness, agendas, aggression, control, protective mechanisms etc. will begin to dissolve.

As we start to become more mindful, those of us entering into new relationships will choose our partners more consciously. We will feel empowered enough to seek out people whose character, lifestyle, and values complement and align with ours.

These pairings will have many less conflicts than those based in neediness, controlling tendencies, or any other unconscious influence, but when conflicts do arise they will be resolved with calmness and integrity.

Children will benefit greatly from these attitudes. Many young parents today are already parenting consciously and embrace many of the concepts in Shefali Tsabary’s ground-breaking book, The Conscious Parent.

– Rosemary McCarthy© February 3, 2020.

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The Universal Law of Expansion – Part 2/2

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When we evolve to the point that we evoke the Universal Law of Expansion, it not only affects our individual lives, it also affects the collective.

For Part 1 see HERE 

(This is the 7th article in a series of 8 on Universal Laws. More info at end).

Everything that is emitted from us – positive or negative affects the collective. Every thought, intention, word, response, and behavior, holds a vibration. Vibration is fluid. It cannot be contained. It expands out from us. 

When we raise our vibration we raise our consciousness. And when we raise our consciousness to the point that we engage the Law of Expansion, all of the positive vibrations have gone out into the world. So do all the long-term positive effects of our expanded, more loving, and inclusive consciousness.

However, both our individual and collective growths have starts, stops, spurts of growth, spurts of inertia, and the seemingly two-steps-forward and one-step-backward movement. We see this in the world today – and it can be confusing.

This article is based on my writings.

See below for more information on this and my other books – all aimed to better ourselves.

The Law of Expansion and the Collective

There are many stories and legends in ancient history that show how Humanity tried, and failed, in its efforts to overcome the auspices of duality’s hate, greed, control, brutality, etc. Inevitably, the many steps forward were repeatedly followed by more steps back.

Enlightened periods, like the Renaissance and the 1960’s, shone through.  Since the world wars it has seemed that we have been on a positive trajectory with more steps forward than backward. Or, so it seemed until recently.

It may seem that even the Western world is in more chaos than ever with all the hatred aimed at groups of people. The inequality, biases, and abuse of power towards women, minorities, the gay community, the poor and underprivileged etc., may seem more blatant than ever.

However, it was always there, but hidden, and is actually all coming up for healing. Just like with individuals, we can only heal what we are aware of.

We are actually at a pinnacle of our evolution.

It is our cosmic time to wake up – individually and collectively.

To wake up from the false paradigm Humanity fell into eons ago,

which was based on the aspects of fear, instead of the qualities of love.

We unknowingly perpetrated this fear, blaming, controlling, divisive, power-based me-against-you way of being to such an extent that it became our default position – that until very recently, we bought into.

We are now addressing the issues of injustice and inequality this controlling, power-based system that now runs all aspects of society created, and are attempting to move towards healing the various aspects of it and ways that it manifests in the world.

Everywhere we turn people are calling for fairness, justice, and equality for all, especially for the marginalized, for transparency from those in power positions, and reconcilliatory measures for individuals or groups of people whom we allowed, or caused, to become disenfranchised.

It has been a long road to get from the brutality of the past towards the masses to this forward momentum of compassion and fairness for all. Recognizing that Humanity is approaching the sharp turn upward can encourage us when we see or hear of unfairness, inequality, cruelty, or chaos still manifesting in our world.

The Universal Law of Expansion

One day, our individual and collective futures will hold only steps forward!

With every attitude shift away from those based in fear, judgment, and hatred to those based in love, acceptance, and compassion we move in the direction of the exponential function, until finally, we find we expand into the fearless, limitless beings we were meant to be.

(This is the 7th article from a series of 8  on Universal Laws that was first published in the Starlit Path Magazine from March 2018 to December 2019. Here is the link to the magazine). Links to individual articles below).

©Rosemary McCarthy, first published Sept 2019, updated May 2020..

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Links to posts on the other Universal Laws

Link to full post on Part 1/8 – An Intro – Understanding Universal Law HERE

Link to Part 2/8 – Universal Law of Openness HERE

Link to Part 3/8 – Law of  Authenticity HERE

Link to Part 4/8 – Law of Attraction HERE

Link to Part 5/8 –  Law of Cause And Effect  HERE

Link to Part 6/8 –  Law of Balance HERE

Link to Part 7/8 –  Law of Expansion HERE

Link to Part 8/8 – Recap of Universal Laws HERE

 

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Law of Expansion - Universal Law 6 (of 6)

The Universal Law of Expansion – Part 1/2 (and Part 7 in series of 8 on Universal Law)

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We invoke the Law of Expansion when the other Universal Laws are well integrated into our being.

(Link to Part 2 below – as are links to the other 7 articles in this series on Universal Laws)

Positive momentum gathers within us as we embrace the cosmic principles set forth that affect us when the universe was created, and as this force feeds off itself, we start to become empowered in all areas of our life, until finally, we expand into all that we can be.    

Although through our free will we can ignore the Universal Laws and their principles, we can only tap into Universal flow and the power within it when we are aligned with them. (This is the 7th of 8 in my series on the Universal Laws for the Starlit Path Magazine. All previous ones can be found on my blogs. Links below)

Here is recap of each of the Universal Laws I already wrote about. (I started the series with a general article Understanding Universal Law – also found on my blog).

  • First, the Law of Openness denotes the need to be open-hearted – in a state of receptivity.
  • Second, the Law of Authenticity indicates that we must come from an honest place within ourselves.
  • Third, the well-known Law of Attraction maintains the principle that like attracts like.
  • Fourth, the Law of Cause and Effect clarifies that we are the cause of our experiences, not at the effect of the world around us.
  • The fifth is The Law of Balance and it suggests that we have to make peace with all parts of ourselves as well as the world around us.
  • The sixth, which I am discussing today, is the Law of Expansion where we evoke the exponential function into our lives as we create upward momentum in our spiritual growth.

This article/blog post is based in concepts from my books

“Your Journey to Peace … “ About Book  here 

and “Why We Are the Way We Are”  About Book  here

(Book cover images below)

(I grouped the Universal Laws into six different categories, and these are just general guidelines. There are others, and some people divide them up into more details, or use different names, but most of what we need for our personal understanding and growth is contained within these. My 8 in the series comprised of an Introduction and a Conclusion).

The Law of Expansion and Individuals

As we continuously apply ourselves to aligning our thoughts, attitudes, words, and behaviors with positivity, the qualities of love, and the themes of the Universal Laws that apply to us we become more positive and loving.

And as we anchor in the confidence from all the little emotional and personal gains we make, we become more secure in the process.

Our efforts do not necessarily have to be hard work. It is often simply the letting go of what is blocking us from becoming all we were meant to be. Lighter attitudes allow us to align with universal flow. Denser attitudes create blocks to it.

Therefore, it is the shifting away from dense anger-based and divisive, judgmental, prejudicial attitudes, our propensity to blame others, and all other me-against-you concepts – to lighter love-based attitudes that uphold ideas of unity, acceptance, fairness towards all, the taking of responsibility for our attitudes and actions, and of embracing me-and-you concepts that break down the blockages to us growing emotionally and spiritually.

The Universal Law of ExpansionOur emotional and spiritual growth as well as our personal successes may also come about with a combination of things falling easily into place, then we struggle; of spurts of letting go, then falling back into old habits or ways of being; of hard work, then times of inertia.

Sometimes we may feel like we are hitting brick walls.

When this happens, we just have to be patient with our self. Upping our spiritual practices helps.

Letting go and growing emotionally and spiritually is mostly done on an internal level, often without any outward signs to signify our advancement. It can be frustrating. Cosmic forces are always at work, and sometimes it is simply cosmic timing that is holding our growth and/or success at bay, such as with the lunar cycles and the cosmic / astrological forces, which affect us on many levels that we are not aware of.

All of our efforts to better ourselves, even the ups and downs as these often encourage self-reflection which helps us gain more insight into our psyche, play together in concert.

And once we have incorporated the themes of the Universal Laws into our everyday life in a way that transforms our way of thinking and being in the world to be congruent with the love and Oneness inherent in the universe, we are primed to step into our full potential and expand into all we can be.

The Universal Law of Expansion

All of a sudden, things may just seem to fall into place and all aspects of our life come together. We have gained enough upward momentum to engage the Law of Expansion, and as we ride the wave of the exponential function our life takes a sharp turn upward.

I continue these themes as I discuss the Law of Expansion and the Collective in Part 2. See HERE

(This 7th article is from a series of 8  on Universal Laws that was first published in the Starlit Path Magazine from March 2018 to December 2019. Here is the link to the magazine). Links to other 7 below.

©Rosemary McCarthy, first published Sept 2019, updated May 2020

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Links to posts on the other Universal Laws

Link to full post on Part 1/8 – An Intro – Understanding Universal Law HERE

Link to Part 2/8 – Universal Law of Openness HERE

Link to Part 3/8 – Law of  Authenticity HERE

Link to Part 4/8 – Law of Attraction HERE

Link to Part 5/8 –  Law of Cause And Effect  HERE

Link to Part 6/8 –  Law of Balance HERE

Link to Part 7/8 –  Law of Expansion HERE

Link to Part 8/8 – Recap of Universal Laws HERE

 

 

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Everything Stems from Either Love or Fear – Part 2/2

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In part I, I discussed how we are either coming from a place of Love, or from a place of Fear. I discussed the Aspects of Love – and gave an  illustration depicting them. I also discussed the aspects of Fear a little and gave an illustration that depicted some of the many ways Fear. shows itself in our lives.

Link to Part 1 Here

Here I will continue discussing how all our negative thoughts, premises, ideas, or reactions come from fear – and the importance of shifting to a love-based way of approaching the life and the world.

To recap, here are the two Illustrations

Everything Stems from Either Love or FearEverything Stems from Either Love or FearFEAR

Fear is at the root of all of our issues.

We do not recognize it as such, as it masks itself in many different manifestations that aim to protect us, but they ultimately keep us from being able to access joy, find our empowerment, and become our Best Self.

They also create conflict in our lives thereby distancing us from others. We may get hurt feelings because someone ignored us, withheld a compliment, or didn’t include us. This stems from a fear that we are not loved, appreciated, or good enough.

Not having inner confidence, we may fear failure and in turn get defensive at an innocent comment about where we are in life.

When we are not in touch with our own power-base, we may fear pursuing what we want and become judgmental of the successes of others.

We may fear poverty because of long-held perceptions of the poor, and thereby strive tirelessly, ignoring the urgings of Spirit.

We may feel a lack of love or connection in our lives and be fearful of being alone and thereby fall into relationships that are unfulfilling or abusive in some way.

This article is based on my writings.

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Experts suggest that children of parents with addictions often tirelessly aim to control their environment as their home life was never predictable. However, this often backfires as the controlling attitudes usually create disharmony in their current home life, as succumbing to the underlying fear of instability creates another bad situation.

As well as the results of our attitudes or behaviors that arise because of not addressing our issues, all these manifestations of underlying fears create more of a misalignment with our True Self, and this distancing creates more neediness that aches to be satisfied. A vicious cycle ensues.

We do not recognize these manifestations as fear, because the original hurts we are seeking to protect ourselves from, or the limiting attitudes we hold because of the outdated ideals or biases we grew up with, are buried deep in the recesses of our Emotional Bodies.

Our fears can manifest as neediness, or may be played out through our Perceived Needs, Hidden Agendas, or Protective Mechanisms―all aiming to avoid further hurt or feelings of disempowerment.

As we attempt to protect ourselves from further onslaughts against our fragile psyches, we project the manifestations of these unconscious influences onto others, acting in aggressive ways.

These may manifest as us being judgmental, aggressive, controlling, manipulative, defensive, or passive-aggressive. If our reactionary states are passive, we turn any perceived onslaught inward and bury further hurts and angers.

However, when we honestly look at the issues in our lives and use tools that can uncover the original buried emotions, we can connect the dots between these outer demonstrations and the associated inner-fears they were derived from that manifested in unhelpful, inappropriate, or harmful ways. This stresses us, distances us from feelings of inner-peace, and creates conflict in our relationships. We all want healthy and harmonious relationships.

Connecting the dots of unaddressed emotions to attitudes and behaviors that are not serving our highest good is the first step to shifting to more positive ways of thinking and of being in the world. To feeling peaceful and to healing our relationships

When we overcome the effects of unaddressed emotions our confidence grows. We find our passions. We have more energy. And our life becomes generally more harmonious, and our relationships improve.

(From chapter 1, “Your Journey to Peace, Bridging the Gap Between Religion, Spirituality, Psychology, and Science)

~Rosemary McCarthy© updated December 9th, 2019.

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Everything Stems from Love or Fear – Part 1/2

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Although we are not aware of it, all of our thoughts, feelings, attitudes, reactions, and actions stem from either Love, or they stems from Fear.

Coming from LOVE we are happy, contented, feel empowered, have harmony in our life, and are able to create healthy relationships.

Coming from FEAR, we may often be frustrated, feel disempowered, are tentative,  aggressive, blame others, and we often experience conflict in life and our relationships.

When our mind is calm and we feel happy, light-hearted, worry-free, and we are able to embrace our passions we are aligned to our True Self. To Source. To the love within. Connected to this love within, our attitudes and behaviors reflect the qualities of LOVE.

(Below, Illustration 4 shows some of the aspects of LOVE)

When our mind is in overdrive, we cannot focus, or, we are consumed with worry, blame, judgement or any other negative or disempowering thoughts or feelings. When in these states, we are disconnected from our True Self.

Disconnected from our True Self, we are at the beck and call of our mind and its unease, worry, judgments, etc. Thoughts or shadows from the past affect our current awareness, so our attitudes and behaviors reflect the qualities of FEAR these engender.

Connected to our True Self, we feel calm and deal with life as it is presented to us today. We are connected to the peace and love within, so our attitudes and behaviors reflect the qualities of LOVE.  Thoughts or shadows from the past do not affect our current awareness.

(Below, Illustration 5 shows some aspects of FEAR)

We are all born connected to this love within. To our True Self. However, over the years we have gathered impressions from our life experiences, or from what we have witnessed.

This article/blog post is based in concepts from my books “Your Journey to Peace, …” and from  “Why We Are the Way We Are” (info at end of post)

See here for About “Journey …” (available in Print and E-book Format).

Archetypes Act As Conduits to Help Us, and to Strengthen Latent Qualities Within Us

If in the past we experienced or witnessed mostly loving, compassionate, uplifting, non-judgmental attitudes and acceptance of others we will have a positive outlook on life as our connection to our True Self will have remained quite strong.

However, if growing up the attitudes and behaviors we experienced or witnessed were mostly unloving, and the people around us were controlling, judgmental, or cruel and their aim was to disempower, we will likely have a negative attitude about life as our connection to the love within will have been weakened. However, a negative past can be overcome.

Sometimes being around negative and unloving people creates such an impact on us that we reject the negativity and become positive and loving. Or, one person in our life may have positively influenced us so much so that the spark of love was kept alive within us

Unhealed emotions from past negativity still stuck within us need a voice. This is most often released in dysfunctional ways.

Unaddressed emotions affect our self-esteem. Our level of confidence. The will to do. We may be indecisive. Depression, lethargy, bad habits, or even addictions may surface. We may become overly passive and/or passive aggressive. Or, we project our unhealed emotions out into the world as aggressive behaviors. Conflicts ensue.

Everything Stems from Love or Fear

Love 

Connecting to and Expressing Love’s qualities is at the heart of our peace and happiness, our harmony with others, and the cornerstone of healthy and harmonious relationships.

Everything Stems from Love or Fear

Fear

Fear is at the root of all of our issues. We do not recognize it as such, as it masks itself in many different manifestations that aim to protect us. However, these create confusion within us, keep us in limitation, and bring disharmony to our relationships. 

Everything Stems from Either Love or Fear

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Rosemary McCarthy© updated November 29, 2019.

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Newsletter September 2019, I Have Evolved So May Have You

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As I wrap up Book 2, Overcoming Unconscious Influences,*  of my new series I discuss some of the nuances to becoming our Best Self. I explain that we must not only forgive those around us for what they have or have not done, but we must also allow for them to have evolved past who they were then – just as we have likely evolved from who we once were. *(Title has recently been changed from Becoming Your Best Self).

Unless we see others as they are today – not through echoes of how they may have been in the past when they hurt us, acted badly, or they were negative, judgmental, or aggressive, we are keeping how they were alive in us. We are keeping the hurt alive in us, or, we are allowing the negativity they spewed a space in our being.

To evolve, we must relinquish our emotions and judgments around negative attitudes and behaviors: ours – those of others and those from both the present and the past.

We are living in a time of great evolution. Of personal, spiritual, and societal evolution. As individuals, we are meant to evolve. However, we all evolve in our own way and on our own timeline. And the social structures that support the ideas that flow out of evolutionary moves forward follow – at least in democratic societies.

As humans we have always longed for love, fairness, compassion, and inclusivity. It is a memory of what once was – before form. We have been frustrated why others can’t extend these, and baffled why society can’t create the structures that support them. Our frustrations reflect what we know can be, should be, but what is not.

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 ~  Rosemary McCarthy©, Sept 20, 2019

See here  for information on the book this article is based,  Why We Are the Way We Are (as well as on Book 2, Overcoming Unconscious Influences – due out Dec 2019, and book 3, Relationships in an Evolving World — due out winter 2019/20).

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Giving and Receiving Unconditional Love

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Deep within us, we hold a distant memory of the unconditional love we once held—a memory from our beginnings, and which we all still long for.

The history of Humanity has been based on conditional love. This has manifested within our families, community support systems, and even in our religions.

Conditional love has created conflicting messages within us because while people may extol the virtues of love, they do not always uphold them.

We tell our children we love them or want what is best for them; however, this is often influenced by our limited perspectives based on our narrow perceptions, or we unconsciously inflict our neediness or Perceived Needs onto them.

This article /blog post is from my book, Why We Are the Way We Are,

This is the 1st book in my new ‘Our Journeys to Peace’ Series)

About this Book (and the next 2 in the series coming out shortly) found  here

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We have been told that God loves us but also that he is vengeful.

Our psyches have thereby become riddled with conflicts about love. Conflicting messages about love keep us confused about love.

Confusion about love—what unconditional love is.

How to give it—How to receive it,

Is why our relationships are so difficult.

When we are being negative in any way or closed off; when we are angry, judgmental, despondent, pessimistic etc.; or when we are needy, we are distanced from universal flow, and by default we are stuck within the restrictions of our human limitations. Our power-base is weak and feelings of unconditional love are almost inaccessible.

Neediness and Expectations Are Sources of Many Relationship Issues

Neediness creates expectations. Unable to tap into the love within us and our sense of empowerment, we expect others to fill the void.  This causes expectations from others – that often go unvoiced. When someone does not provide what we expect or something we had hoped for does not happen, we are disappointed, hurt, depressed, or angry, and we react involuntarily.

It is the same when we give. In our neediness and low sense of self-worth, we often give with expectations of reciprocity and appreciation. Sometimes this is conscious and we expect tit-for-tat, but often we unconsciously expect certain outcomes, but in either case we are hurt when they are not met. Our offer is not coming from a place of strength or love. It is not coming from unconditional love.

When our expectations are not met, we may also feel that we are being taken advantage of, or, we come to believe that life is not fair. Unmet expectations cause us to blame the other person for our frustrations causing conflict in the relationship.

When expectations are not voiced our hurt feelings seem to come out of the blue—with the other person the receiver of an unexpected onslaught of emotions.

We will still feel justified by our reactions—simply because we feel bad, however, we gave with presumptions—presumptions that the other person had no idea about. We live so much in our inner world that it seems alive—obvious. But it is not.

Others do not know what is going on in our minds, what our emotional world holds, and what presumptions and expectations we have, unless we voice them.

Our unvoiced expectations are just below the surface of our conscious mind whirling around in our Emotional Body looking to be satisfied. Based in neediness, low self-esteem, and a disconnect from our True Self, these expectations are attempts to satisfy what we cannot find within our self.

 

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 ~  Rosemary McCarthy©, October 30, 2019

See here  for information on Why We Are the Way We Are (as well as on Book 2, Becoming Our Best Self, and book 3, Relationships in an Evolving World).

here for this Blog Page  and here for my other blog page – both with articles on various subjects related to our personal, collective, and cosmic journeys.

here for my first book, Your Journey to Peace …, 

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The Universal Law of Balance – Part 3/3

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In Parts 1 and 2 I discussed how the Law of Balance affects us on the cosmic and human levels, here I continue by discussing how it affects our spiritual life.  

For Part 1 See  here   Part 2 here

(This article on Universal Law (in 3 parts) is from a series of 8 articles on Universal Law. Links to the other 7 are below)

We know know that it is through our heart-connection that we access the spiritual world, so we must ensure we open our hearts and keep them open so that we can develop a strong spiritual connection. (I discuss the Law of Openness in my books – links are below)

The Law of Balance and Our Spiritual World

Our spiritual life needs the appropriate amount of attention for us to function effectively in the world. A healthy spiritual life is vital to us becoming our Best Self, so we have to nurture it.

Spirit speaks softly. It whispers to us through our hearts. To feel its peace and receive its guidance, we have to take some quiet time every day so that we maintain the connection. We cannot align with its peace or easily hear the guidance or messages Spirit sends us if our mind is busy and scattered, and our body tense and stressed.

This article/blog post is based in concepts from my books

“Your Journey to Peace … “ About Book  here 

and “Why We Are the Way We Are”  About Book  here

(Book cover images below)

Prayer, meditation, yoga, chanting, journaling, reading holy books, or any of the various daily spiritual practices keep our connection to Spirit strong. So does getting lost in beautiful music or art, spending time in nature, and doing what brings us joy. A combination of formal practice and doing what we love and brings us joy and a peaceful feeling is the best recipe for keeping the airwaves to Universal flow open.

Keeping a healthy balance between a focus on material and spiritual matters is also vital. If we become overly concerned with material matters, such as attaining, success, or the focus on our bodies, we will be thrown off kilter and lose the full benefits of our spiritual connection.

Over-spiritualizing life is also an easy trap to fall into, and when we do so we will also become unbalanced: we would find life difficult. We came here in bodies to be in the world.

Most of us are meant to simply express our spirituality and serve God through every day dealings with people and the world – by being loving and compassionate with all whom we come in contact with.

Staying Balanced / Allowing for Imbalance

Still, there may be times in our lives that will call for us to tip the scale off balance to one side, like caring for a newborn baby, being an intern training to be a doctor, or doing an extended spiritual retreat.

And some people’s life purpose is to serve Humanity and the world in a spiritual way, like the clergy, rabbis, yogis, or monks, whereby their lives are dedicated to service, prayer, meditation, etc. Their purpose is not only to guide us on our spiritual path, but they also hold the space of spiritual grace open and alive in the world by their consistent connection to Universal flow. We all benefit from this – even though we are unaware of it.

Apart from the special cases mentioned above, most of us are meant to live balanced lives, keeping a healthy balance between our physical, mental, and spiritual worlds so that we can become all we are meant to be, while using all aspects of our God-given gifts.

We can choose to live life as we please because we have been given free will, however, if we live an unbalanced life, we will suffer the consequences of doing so. We will experience the effects of our choices – whether or not they bring us happiness, help or hinder us creating the life we want, allow us to be in harmony with others, or aid us in our spiritual growth.

(This article on the Law of Balance (in 3 parts)  is from a series of 8  on Universal Laws that was first published in the Starlit Path Magazine from March 2018 to December 2019. Here is the link to the magazine). Below are links to the other 7 in the series.

~ Rosemary McCarthy, originally published June, 2019, updated May 2020.

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Link to posts on the other Universal Laws (some are long, so are broken up into  more than 1 post)

Link to full post on Part 1/8 – An Intro – Understanding Universal Law HERE

Link to Part 2/8 – Universal Law of Openness HERE

Link to Part 3/8 – Law of  Authenticity HERE

Link to Part 4/8 – Law of Attraction HERE

Link to Part 5/8 –  Law of Cause And Effect  HERE

Link to Part 6/8 –  Law of Balance HERE

Link to Part 7/8 –  Law of Expansion HERE

Link to Part 8/8 – Recap of Universal Laws HERE

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