Worksheet 19:  Small Shifts I Can Start With

(This is a companion blog post to my article “Small Shifts I Can Start With”  See here for link)

 

Worksheet 19:  Small Shifts I Can Start With (see below for Large Shifts) 

(from my book, Your Journey to Peace … About Book found here

(As recommended with any spiritual or self-healing practice, start with a small, one or two-minute meditation/prayer/attunement. Invite in your Best Self, True Self, higher Self, Spirit, Holy Spirit, Buddha, Jesus, or any other deity to join with you as you aim to clear the pathway to peace).

Small Shifts in Attitudes and Behaviors I Can Make

Replacing Judgment with Acceptance:

  • I can replace judgment with acceptance regarding …

Replacing Blame with Understanding:

  • I can replace blame with understanding regarding …

Replacing Anger with Self-Control:

  • I can replace anger with self-control regarding …

Replacing Indifference with Empathy:

  • I can replace indifference with empathy toward …

Replacing That Which Causes Discord with That Which Embraces Harmony:

  • I can replace my words, attitudes, or actions toward …

Standing up for Myself:

  • I will speak up for myself with ….    or about ….
  • I will ensure I am heard when interacting with xxx  / in xxx circumstances

Large Shifts in Attitudes or Behaviors I Can Make

 ~ Rosemary McCarthy© (2016, updated Sept 7, 2018)

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Starting with the Little Things

(This is a companion post to “Worksheet 19: Small Attitude Shifts I Can Start With”  See here for link)

Our unconscious doesn’t distinguish between small and large issues. So, when wanting to improve our life any small shift in any negative attitudes, habits, or behaviors is helpful for our overall future.

We can start by noticing the little things in life we do or attitudes we hold that keep us disempowered and/or distanced from others. What makes us feel bad, annoys or angers us, steers us into losing our peace, or reinforces our passivity.

The first principle of A Course in Miracles is that there is no hierarchy of illusions. We are either aligned with our True Self (Source), or we are misaligned from it. We either experience the love it holds, or we do not. We either feel empowered, or we do not. We are either able to extend love’s qualities, or we are not able to.

While it may appear that making peace with (forgiving) small issues say, like the guy cutting us off in traffic, can’t do much to change our thought process and positively impact our default attitudes and behaviors, they do. Small shifts start the ball rolling!

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Our higher self is on board with us wanting to be happier, more peaceful, and feeling empowered. And consistently making small attitude shifts has a huge impact on our psyches. Our thought processes and behaviors will automatically start to shift when we continue to consciously choose positive ones.

When we make the effort to shift our propensity to react negatively to even minor upsets and reap the benefits of feeling more peaceful, we are encouraged to continue with more peaceful responses.  Our trajectory starts to change.

For those of us who tend to be passive, taking small steps like speaking up with regard to minor matters builds confidence. In continuing to speak up we will feel more empowered. We will become more confident around bullying, controlling, or manipulative people. This is an immeasurable self-esteem booster!

Starting with the Little Things

Once we recognize how much better we feel when we exchange calm responses for aggressive reactions, or how confident we start to feel when we speak up for our self instead of burying our thoughts, ideas, or feelings, we are ready to tackle larger issues.

Here are a few better attitude suggestions:

  • We can replace judgment with acceptance!
  • We can replace blame with understanding!
  • We can replace anger with self-control!
  • We can replace indifference with empathy!
  • We can aim to replace that which causes discord with that which embraces harmony!
  • We can speak up for our self!
  • Ensure we are heard!

(Companion post “Worksheet 19: Small Attitude Shifts I Can Start With” helps us investigate small attitude shifts we can make. See here for link).

To get the ball rolling all we need is a little awareness and willingness. Awareness of who we are being. And willingness to make any necessary attitude shifts.

And once we are comfortable with forgiving the little things, we are then better equipped to deal with any larger or more sensitive issues that may be holding us from our Best Self.

Starting with the Little Things

When we understand that we have all been unconsciously influenced by Humanity’s past and are only starting to become aware of how to overcome the negative programing we have all inherited, it is easier to – forgive another who has not yet made that connection and is still under the influence of his or her unconscious influences. We all have our own timeline to undo this programing.

And as we begin addressing the small areas where we are not aligned with loving thoughts, attitudes, words, or actions, it is easier to understand others who are still misaligned.

We may have been told – and believe with our mind that we are unconditionally loved and forgiven for all our errs in perception and that there is no hierarchy of illusions regarding forgiveness from God, (Spirit, Source, or whatever we call the universal creative force) for what we have or have not done. However, our unconscious does not believe this.

In reality we exist in a holographic universe. What we see, hear, and feel from our 3D perspective is only a limited view of reality. Just like we now know we use only 10% of our brain’s potential, we are becoming aware that our perceptual awareness of reality is also very limited. That time is an illusion. That our separateness is an illusion. That we are all connected. That our higher selves work together.

Starting with the Little Things

So, when we choose to not react negatively to say, the guy who cuts us off, not only do we feel more peaceful, raise our vibration, and become more aligned with our True Self, from this higher perspective of our connectedness we also affect the other person. They will not feel the forgiveness for their err of perception of who they or we are on a conscious level, but their unconscious does.

And by forgiving, I mean making peace with what another has or has not done – in our mind. It is an attitude shift. A shift in consciousness. Actions can follow, but making peace in our mind with others or situations it engages our higher self. It raises our consciousness.

Forgiving our self – and others – for the smaller and larger errs we and they have made have made heals us and heals them. The more we do this and the more of us do this the more we raise the vibration of the world. It helps raise Humanity’s consciousness. And this raises the Planet’s consciousness.

Humanity is experiencing a huge shift in consciousness. And we are all contributing. We are all on an upward trajectory.

At first it may not feel natural to consciously choose better attitudes and actions. It takes time and practice to override inherited attitudes. And we will forget. Still, we must focus on and be proud of any small and inconsequential progress we make.

Starting with the Little Things

And until it comes naturally to feel positive and loving, to be loving towards others, and to forgive even small affronts against us we can help ourselves along by pretending: we can fake itOur unconscious doesn’t know the difference and Spirit understands what we are trying to do – and supports our efforts.

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Newsletter August 2018 – The Importance of Cultivating Presence

Being Present – Living in the Now – Helps Us Discover that
Every Moment Can Hold a Sense of Peace

When we are being present we are connecting to the stillness within. It is within this stillness that we attune to our God-self.  This is where wisdom lies. Where insights come from. Where joy abides. Where we connect to inner-love and feelings of empowerment.

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Everything Stems from Either Love or Fear

Although we are not aware of it, all our thoughts, feelings, attitudes, and actions stem from either Love, or from Fear.

When our mind is calm and we feel happy, light-hearted, worry-free, and able to embrace our passions we are aligned to our True Self. To Source. To the love within. Connected to this love within, our attitudes and behaviours reflect the qualities of love

(Below, llustration 4 shows some of the aspects of LOVE).

When our mind is in overdrive, we can’t focus, or are consumed with worry, blame, judgement or any other negative or disempowering thoughts or feelings we are disconnected from our True Self. Disconnected to this love within, our attitudes and behaviours reflect the qualities of fear

(Below, Illustration 5 shows some aspects of FEAR).

We are all born connected to this love within. To our True Self. However, over the years we have gathered impressions from our life experiences, or from what we have witnessed.

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If these were mostly positive and we experienced or witnessed mostly loving, compassionate, uplifting, non-judgmental attitudes and acceptance of others we will have a positive outlook on life as our connection to our True Self will have remained quite strong.

If growing up the attitudes and behaviors we experienced or witnessed were mostly unloving, and the people around us were controlling, judgmental, or cruel and their aim was to disempower, we will likely have a negative attitude about life as our connection to the love within will have been weakened. However, a negative past can be overcome.

Sometimes being around negative and unloving people creates such an impact on us that we reject the negativity and become positive and loving. Or, one person in our life may have positively influenced us so much so that the spark of love was kept alive within us

Unhealed emotions from past negativity still stuck within us need a voice. This is most often released in dysfunctional ways. Unaddressed emotions affect our self-esteem. Our level of confidence. The will to do. We are indecisive. Depression, lethargy, bad habits, or even addictions will surface. Or, we project our unhealed emotions out into the world as dysfunctional behaviors towards others.

LOVE

Love is at the heart of all our peace and happiness.

All the joy and passion that we feel, any harmony that manifests in our life, and all the other positive attitudes (many shown in the illustration) stem from love. We are able to bring these about because we are connected to the spark that we emanated from.

There is a memory of that spark within all of us, and it is easily accessible if no roadblocks were erected in life to squelch the connection. In positive, loving people, that connection can show up in either overt or covert ways, depending on their personalities.

Even when the connection is stifled it can still be accessed with external reminders. A baby’s smile, a spectacular sunset, the abandonment that arises in us from the exhilaration of an extreme sport, or the passion that is reawakened within us from music, dance, art, or anything else that moves us can rekindle the spark of love, joy, and fearlessness we originally held. What we are feeling or how we are being stems either from love, or from fear.

Everything Stems from Either Love or Fear

FEAR

Fear is at the root of all of our issues.

We do not recognize it as such, as it masks itself in many different manifestations that aim to protect us, but they ultimately keep us from being able to access joy, find our empowerment, and become our Best Self.

They also create conflict in our lives thereby distancing us from others. We may get hurt feelings because someone ignored us, withheld a compliment, or didn’t include us. This stems from a fear that we are not loved, appreciated, or good enough.

Not having inner confidence, we may fear failure and in turn get defensive at an innocent comment about where we are in life.

When we are not in touch with our own power-base, we may fear pursuing what we want and become judgmental of the successes of others.

We may fear poverty because of long-held perceptions of the poor, and thereby strive tirelessly, ignoring the urgings of Spirit.

We may feel a lack of love or connection in our lives and be fearful of being alone and thereby fall into relationships that are unfulfilling or abusive in some way.

Everything Stems from Either Love or Fear

Experts suggest that children of parents with addictions often tirelessly aim to control their environment as their home life was never predictable. However, this often backfires as the controlling attitudes usually create disharmony in their current home life, as succumbing to the underlying fear of instability creates another bad situation.

As well as the results of our attitudes or behaviors that arise because of not addressing our issues, all these manifestations of underlying fears create more of a misalignment with our True Self, and this distancing creates more neediness that aches to be satisfied. A vicious cycle ensues.

We do not recognize these manifestations as fear, because the original hurts we are seeking to protect ourselves from, or the limiting attitudes we hold because of the outdated ideals or biases we grew up with, are buried deep in the recesses of our Emotional Bodies.

Our fears can manifest as neediness, or may be played out through our Perceived Needs, Hidden Agendas, or Protective Mechanisms―all aiming to avoid further hurt or feelings of disempowerment.

As we attempt to protect ourselves from further onslaughts against our fragile psyches, we project the manifestations of these unconscious influences onto others, acting in aggressive ways.

These may manifest as us being judgmental, aggressive, controlling, manipulative, defensive, or passive-aggressive. If our reactionary states are passive, we turn any perceived onslaught inward and bury further hurts and angers.

However, when we honestly look at the issues in our lives and use tools that can uncover the original buried emotions, we can connect the dots between these outer demonstrations and the associated inner-fears they were derived from that manifested in unhelpful, inappropriate, or harmful ways.

Connecting the dots of unaddressed emotions to attitudes and behaviors that are not serving our highest good is the first step to shifting to more positive ways of thinking and of being in the world.

Everything Stems from Either Love or Fear

When we overcome the effects of unaddressed emotions our confidence grows. We find our passions. Our relationships improve. We have more energy. And our life becomes more harmonious.

(From chapter 1, “Your Journey to Peace, Bridging the Gap Between Religion, Spirituality, Psychology, and Science)

~Rosemary McCarthy© August 20, 2018.

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The Importance of Leading Balanced Lives

Life as it is today has led us to often ignore the reflective and feeling parts of ourselves. To be happy and feel good we need to attend to our body, mind, emotions, and spiritual connection. To the subtler parts of our existence.

Humanity’s history has been based on false realities. Of separate motivations grounded in fear, greed, competition – of me-against-you.

Fighting for our survival became paramount in our existence. We were reactive, rather than responsive.

Although today most of us do not have to fight for our physical survival, we have translated this survival mode to one of business – of getting ahead.

And we have maintained the competitiveness and reactive states of that survival mode.

Rather than responding calmly and only addressing what is currently happening, many of us react to others and situations aggressively – often bringing in past issues or unaddressed emotions from our past.

Our business, competitiveness, focus on getting ahead, and our reactive states have left no room to connect to our subtler and reflective natures.

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With the reflective and feeling parts of ourselves disregarded, we lead unbalanced lives. We have become disconnected from the subtleties of our True Self.

This can cause us to be discompassionate. Selfish. Unable to see how our attitudes and behaviors affect those around us.

An unbalanced life will derail us from what will ultimately make us happy. It undermines us. And we are usually in denial that we are behaving in ways that hurt us or those around us.

The classic example are workaholics, who spend all their time focusing on success, money, and/or power and leave no time for relaxation, family life, or spiritual growth.

Workaholics are usually unaware or in denial of the consequence of their single-mindedness on themselves and the effects of their  pursuits on others.

Or, they may have their eyes wide open and simply not care about anything or anybody else at this point in their lives, which is of course their own choice. They just may have to face the consequences – at one time or another.

The Importance of Leading a Balanced Life

It is the unconscious driving forces from Humanity’s and our personal past histories that creates a distorted picture of reality causing us to allow for imbalances in our lives.

We are now starting to understand that we do not have to be greedy or in competition with others. That there is enough love, success, and material goods to go around – for us and everyone. That the Universe operates under the principle of abundance.

However, to be open to the universal gifts offered we have to maintain a connection to universal flow. This connection is weakened when we are unbalanced. And when we live unbalanced lives the important things that ultimately fulfill us suffer.

This is usually related to health, family life, career, or our happiness and ability to connect to the subtleties in life. To feel joy. To feel peaceful.

We need to ask ourselves whether or not our life choices and decisions will bring us peace of mind, contentment, and ultimately make us happy.

Most of us have at least – at one time or another gotten caught up in the business of life and feeling the necessity of being in competition with others.

In his transformative healing sessions, Gerry Clow reminds us that as a society we have tipped the scales way off center as we have replaced the subtler aspects of life with the harsher ones:

“Most of our lives we are reactive, rather than reflective. We spend our time searching, not sourcing; looking, not listening; finding, but not feeling. We involve ourselves in life, forgetting often how to evolve ourselves in life, not realizing it’s essential – and healthy – to be on both pathways at the same time.” (1)

We inherited these attitudes. But we now know how destructive they are to our personal happiness and spiritual growth.

The Importance of Leading a Balanced Life

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(1) Gerry Clow, RPP, RCST www.handclow2012.com (2014). http://handclow2012.com/transformative-healing/(2018).

© Rosemary McCarthy, August 7, 2018.

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The Tao Birthed Us and Always Looks After Us

We all came here in harmony from Oneness, all perfect, to be loved and nourished, and will return one day unconditionally loved—just as we are.

We connect to this love within when we overlook our differences and see it in others. When we extend love’s qualities to all those we meet.

In Stephen Mitchell’s translation of the Tao Te Ching we are told how we are all a precious expression of the Tao. How we are all cherished:

Every being in the universe

is an expression of the Tao.

It springs into existence,

unconscious, perfect, free,

takes on a physical body,

lets circumstance complete it.

… … … …

The Tao gives birth to all beings,

nourishes them, maintains them,

cares for them, comforts them, protects them,

takes them back to itself,

creating without possessing,

acting without expecting,

guiding without interfering.(1)

Most of us have lost that connection to the unconditional love and the comfort, protection, and cherishment that is our inheritance.

Humanity’s history has caused the spark to go out. But the memory of who we are and what we came from lingers in our soul. On our hearts.

We sometimes get inklings of it. Reminders. From a loved one. The wonder of nature. A child’s smile. Beautiful art works. Music that moves us.

That lost memory has caused longing within us. We long to be loved. Cherished. Protected.

Deep within us we know we are supposed to feel these things. Have them. So, we reach for them! We look for them in areas that do not ultimately fulfill us. We pursue success. We seek respect. We look to all kids of pleasures – that sometimes turn to addictions.

And we seek love from others. But since most of us are not connected to the love within, we cannot fulfill the other’s void. We disappoint each other.

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We connect to the love within by embracing what brings us joy. Makes us feel peaceful. Passionate. And by extending love’s qualities (compassion, understanding, acceptance, etc.) to others it rekindles that spark of love within us.

Embracing Our Oneness – Seeing Our Sameness

Resolving our conflicts and making peace with our differences and the resulting judgments that stem from these – whether with individuals or groups of people – allows us to move closer to our wholeness, align with our godliness, and encourages us all to embrace the Oneness we all share.

We must focus on our sameness. For those of us with issues toward anybody different than us, whether because of race, creed, social status, or sexual preference, we have an opportunity to forgive ourselves for judging and for not seeing them as the masters intended us to see our brothers and sisters, namely, as perfect children of God.

The Tao Birthed Us and Always Looks After Us

For those of us who are being judged and have or are living with the pain and unfairness of prejudice, we have the opportunity to forgive those who judge, condemn, or create the inequalities we are enduring or have had to endure.

When our beliefs come from the narrow interpretations of scriptural writings – like “my religion or belief system is better than yours,” or, when we focus on word-for word-translations and for example, deem homosexuality a sin, we have lost the original intention of the messages. We are coming from a place of judgment. Not unconditional love.

Our scriptures were inspired, but came through the lens of the people at the time who were very judgmental and who also projected the darkness they held within themselves onto others.

There are many wonderful insights within the ancient scriptures and they hold wonderful energy that can uplift us. Bring us peace. Keep us centered.

The Tao Birthed Us and Always Looks After Us

We just have to remember that the true purpose of all the ancient scriptures is to help us reconnect with the Tao – and extend to others God’s love – the love that we came from and that is still within us.

We more easily access this love within when we extend it to others. When we allow judgement to override compassion, unconditional love, and full acceptance of others, how they practice their faith or who they are being, we are not reconnecting with the Tao – with God’s love.

We are not practicing our godliness or really adhering to the core message of our belief systems – which is seeing the perfection in all others and offering them acceptance and unconditional love – just as the Masters offer to us.

Notation:

(1) Stephen Mitchell, trans., Tao Te Ching (New York: HarperCollins, 2006), 51.

© Rosemary McCarthy, 2016, updated July 2018

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Newsletter – July 2018 – The Magic of Summertime

A Warm Welcome to my July Newsletter and its Theme

“Allowing the Magic of Summertime to Realign Us”

Summer is the perfect time to rediscover – or to discover for the first time – what makes us feel really good. To rebalance ourselves if we have become overworked, overstressed, or being overly busy.

Summertime Encourages Us – Out of Doing – and Into Being 

Our busy lives often cause us to lose track of our priorities. Get booged down in work, commitments, and schedules. This often leaves no time for relaxation. To just be. Able to feel joy.  To baskin the contentment of our lives or what we have accomplished. Tofind awe in all the magical things life has to offer. We often become unbalanced. (See below for link to full message)

Newsletter - July 2018 - The Magic of Summertime

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Finding Balance: Reconciling Doing and Being

To feel whole, we must love and respect all parts of ourselves, and part of this is finding the balance between doing and being.

When we are doing we are mostly using our mind our intellect, the left side of our brain  the rational, thinking part.

This left side of the brain with its thought processes and rationality is important. It is sort of a task manager. It organizes. Gets things done.

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Archetypes Act As Conduits to Help Us, and to Strengthen Latent Qualities Within UsOur mind / intellect was intended to be a tool that serves the right side of the brain  where creativity and inspiration come from. To follow through on the ideas that come from the right-brain. However, it has taken front stage. Become more important. Society supports this left-brain way of going about life. Of doing.

We usually have no awareness that our doing is coming from our mind. Often, we simply get trapped in business.

Business lures us away from being in the moment. The subtlety of joy cannot be felt. Inspiration doesn’t get through.

  • When we stay focused on the task at hand – get lost in it – whether a work project or an artistic endeavor we are in our heart-space.
  • When we allow ourselves to become scattered and rush around in the business of what we are doing we often get caught up in any chaos that develops. Our emotions may run amuck. We feel like we are running on empty. These are clues that our mind has taken over.

Being in the moment requires us to be in our heart-space. This is the seat of our soul. Where we get our guidance. Where our inspiration comes from. Being in our heart-space allows us to feel joy.

We can be doing while being, but the doing must be done with reverence. Concentrating on the task at hand. Reveling in it. Finding joy in it. This is how we bring reverence into our every-day lives. For example, playing with the soap bubbles when washing the dishes brings a sense of childlike joy to the job. We are in our heart-space.

Finding Balance: Reconciling Doing and Being

When we do not bring full focus or reverence to our tasks, we are more likely to fall into left-brain mind traps. Mind chatter. Loss of concentration. Scattered unfocussed thoughts. We lose the connection to our heart-space.

Our mind / intellect is supposed to be a tool that follows through on what our inner guidance inspires us to do. However, for most of us our mind / intellect has been running the show  ̶  with the right brain and its creative impulses at the beck and call of the mind.

Gaining control over our emotional landscape will help our mind chatter and unfocused thoughts lessen, allowing creativity and what we were meant to bring about in this life to flow through us.

When we experience a temporary imbalance in our lifestyle, find ourselves worn out and scattered, or lose our ability to feel joy, we should examine what is driving us.

  • Are we so mindlessly involved in the tasks of everyday life that we have no time to appreciate what we have?
  • Completely focused on doing, acquiring, getting ahead, or being successful?
  • Could we be fueled by Unconscious Influences* that drive us?

Are we are always doing – with no time for just being or enjoying the fruits of our successes?

Finding Balance While Growing, Shifting, and Changing

Personal growth causes us to shift and change We start to connect to our True Self. We develop towards becoming our Best Self. While welcoming these necessary changes, we must be cognizant of maintaining balance in our life.

As our life changes, we may take on a new and different endeavor that would require more energetic output. Or, we may become way less busy and not know what to do with ourselves.

Either of these scenarios can cause us to feel off-balance. This is usually temporary. Returning to a state of equilibrium is healthy – emotionally, spiritually, and physically. And it is required to becoming our Best Self.

The optimal point of balance will be different for everyone. Some people go through personal growth and its change effortlessly, others find it difficult and may become unbalanced. Some people will always work hard as it energizes them; others need regular relaxation time to stay energized.

Finding Balance: Reconciling Doing and Being

Finding Balance While Being Open

While opening ourselves up to others and being accepting of them and their attitudes is part of personal growth and understanding, we must ensure that our own energetic bodies are not adversely affected by other peoples’ energetic outputs.

As we evolve and raise our vibrations we are also sensitized energetically. Being around people with negative attitudes or different energetic levels than ours can drain or stress us, and we may begin to feel fatigued, agitated, or energetically flattened.

We are all somewhat misaligned from Source and our True Self. Those of us working on personal growth are addressing this. Many are not. And that is ok.

We are all becoming more conscious at our own pace and on our own timeline. Part of being evolved is understanding this. As is not judging others for where they are on their journey. Still, we have to protect our progress.

As we work through the layers of our emotional world and address any misalignments we may have held, the manifestations of others’ misalignments may actually bother us more than before – just like a smoker who has quit is more sensitive to being around smokers.

So, in our desire to help others we must ensure we do not lose ourselves in their dramas or allow their negative energy to affect us.

Taking the time to investigate the real reason for imbalances in our life can help us avert continuing in a direction that will completely deflate us and ultimately not serve our best interests.

We must remember to:

  • Take time to just be – in the nothingness.
  • Being present in whatever we are doing.
  • Staying in our heart-space. Keeping an open heart.
  • Engage in activities that bring us joy.
  • Keep up the practices we chose to help us along this journey to peace.

We must be cognizant of:

  • The openness necessary for personal growth may invite people into our sphere who drain us energetically.
  • And as we open our heart-space intense passions may arise that cause us to lose our equilibrium.
  • We must be mindful of keeping our energetic balance.

Finding Balance: Reconciling Doing and Being

Society still endorses the mind over the heart – that the right brain and its creativity should be at the beck and call of the mind.

This is changing, but there is much resistance to the heart-space being important as it not yet widely recognized that there is more power and knowledge when we tap into our hearts than in our minds.

The energy that creates universes is held within our hearts. And we tap into this more easily the more we practice just being.

*Unconscious Influences: Thoughts, attitudes, beliefs, and ideas based on past emotional impressions that we unconsciously constructed or appropriated from others. or from past situations. These may have come from our familial, generational, cultural, and/or social backgrounds. These misperceptions are held within our Emotional Bodies and create misperceptions about current situations. They cause us to react inappropriately to situations from neediness, past hurts, or unmet expectations.

~ Rosemary McCarthy© July 12, 2018

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Our Life Matrix

Our perceptions and beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world around us stem from our inherent personalities, filtered through past and current influences: familial, generational, cultural, and social.

The perceptions and beliefs we hold can be based on truths, or they can be false and based on Unconscious Influences* we unknowingly hold. *(definition below).

The tendency to allow false perceptions to be created has its roots in Humanity’s past, which we perpetrated without knowing we were doing so.

All of our conscious and Unconscious Influences work together like threads in a patchwork quilt that link the interweaving patterns of how we deal with life—like a matrix that overlays our lives. I call this our Life Matrix.

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  • Our Life Matrix: Is the lens through which we see and navigate the world. Fueled by our heart beliefs, which come from our conscious and Unconscious Influences, our Life Matrix holds all of our underlying perceptions and misperceptions. It supports what we think we need to be and what we think we need to do to be happy, fulfilled, empowered, and to have harmonious relationships. It upholds all of our perceptions—whether they are real or false.

Our Life Matrix can bring about positive or negative experiences for us. We usually develop a dominant Life Matrix, but since living is an organic ebb and flow of thoughts and emotions, we may vacillate between the positive and negative influences of both forces.

If something causes us to react out of character, our heart beliefs cause us to quickly revert to our normal attitudes.

Our Life Matrix will predispose us to deal with life, others, issues, and situations by denying, procrastinating, responding calmly, or by reacting aggressively or passively.

A Positive Life Matrix

Living under the influence of a positive Life Matrix, we may embody optimism, confidence, and hopefulness. We may feel lucky, be fearless, as well as be accepting of others since a positive outlook and our own self-confidence cause us to be non-judgmental.

Our Life Matrix

We could sometimes succumb to arrogance, impatience, or single-mindedness as our personality dictates, but emotional reactions will generally be composed.

Most of our dealings with others will likely be propelled by responses instead of reactions. And as our general outlook is positive, we will quickly return to positive attitudes should we fall into negative ones.

A positive Life Matrix may temporarily shift to a negative one, but we are usually pulled back as our underlying inner belief system holds a positive approach to life.

The same holds true for a negative Life Matrix. We may have times of positivity, but we generally default to the negative. A negative Life Matrix can be shifted more permanently to the positive, albeit with a sincere and conscious effort.

A Negative Life Matrix

If we are living under the influence of a negative Life Matrix, we are often needy. We may tend to be pessimistic, hesitant, doubtful, and feel disadvantaged.

As these attitudes do not invite in desired results we are often frustrated. We blame others for our failures. We may act with aggression, timidity, or passive-aggressiveness, or, vacillate between these ways of dealing with our frustrations.

When we do evoke positive feelings they are usually undermined, as our negative heart beliefs eventually pull us back under their influence.

We may hold a volatile emotional component and will be overtly reactive—instead of being responsive to situations and taking them at face value and without making it all about us and our neediness and/or emotions.

Or, we may respond with seeming passivity, but are internalizing our angers or frustrations keeping our inner world in turmoil. This becomes a vicious cycle, as inner turmoil invites in more of the same.

Our emotional state is very important because it defines who we are now being, which influences what our future holds.

Our Life Matrix

It has only been in the last century or so that psychologists have been able to connect the dots between our Unconscious Influences. and how we experience life.

We often feel that we do not experience enough love in our lives; however, our capacity to truly feel love and to love others is in direct relationship to what is held in our Life Matrix.

Working to create a positive Life Matrix creates self-love and brings love into our life.

Whether from our conscious or unconscious minds, every thought, word, belief, attitude, and action emit a vibration.

To become the cause of our experiences and the creator of our realities—instead of at the effect of negative Unconscious Influences, we must be cognizant of the vibrations we are emitting.

The conscious and unconscious beliefs and life philosophies within our Life Matrix govern everything we think, say, and do and thereby what we invite into our life.

The lens through which we view others and the world around us is how the world will show up for us. We become what we think we are, and we create based on what is held in our Life Matrix.

  • *Our Unconscious Influences: Our thoughts, attitudes, beliefs, and ideas based on past emotional impressions that we unconsciously constructed or appropriated from others, or from past situations. These may have created true positive perceptions about ourselves, others, situations, or the world around us. Or, they may have created negative false misperceptions that have us see ourselves and others through false lenses of separation and division.

 ~  Rosemary McCarthy©, July 4, 2018

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Synopsis – Your Journey to Peace … With Chapter Titles

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Your Journey to Peace  ... Guides us to become our Best Self     by,

  • Helping us find peace within ourselves,
  • Improve our relationships,
  • Find harmony with all those around us,
  • Make peace with our situations,    and
  • Make peace with the world around us.

Journey ... Explains the importance of our connectiions    by,

  • Helping us to understand how our connection to others is vital to finding our peace,   and
  • Shows how our personal, collective, and cosmic journeys to peace are connected.

Journey … Is like a puzzle of a million little pieces that fit together,     as it

  • Links all the whys and wherefores of our individual, collective, and cosmic existences through the different areas of study in its sub-title.

Synopsis - Your Journey to Peace ... With Chapter Titles

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In “Your Journey to Peace …  ” I also explain how finding our Best Self allows us

  • to connect to inner joy,
  • become empowered in all areas of our life,
  • improve our relationships, and
  • find ways to live in harmony with those all around us.

I intertwine the many spiritual and religious concepts and philosophies with other areas of study and concerns that I discovered were related to our personal journeys, such as science, our health, our connection to the Planet, the necessity of reconcilliation with those we have disempowered, and the importance of our relationship to the Indigenous peoples.

As I weave these all together, I explain how each little positive attitude shift or behavior change we make causes a ripple effect that not only elevates Humanity, but affects the Universe as a whole.

CHAPTER TITLES: (This book is in 2 parts).

PART I – OUR JOURNEYS (the 2 parts are discussed more thoroughly below)

Introduction

Chapter 1: Why We Are the Way We Are

Chapter 2: Universal Laws / Kingdom Principles

Chapter 3: What We Can Do about It

Chapter 4: Along the Way

Chapter 5: Relationships

 

PART II – OTHER SUBJECTS RELATED  TO WHO WE ARE, OUR JOURNEYS, AND THE ONENESS WE ARE A PART OF

Chapter 6: Words, Symbols, Rituals, Concepts, and Prayers

Chapter 7: Science and Other Related Topics

Chapter 8: Health and Healing; Death and Dying

Chapter 9: The Planet and Abundance

Chapter 10: Ascension

Chapter 11: The Future

Conclusion

PART I: Main Points Discussed

  • Why we are the way we are individually and collectively; and how we got this way
  • How we find peace within ourselves by making peace in our relationships and all situations.
  • That God does not allow for suffering! We create it by upholding dualistic concepts of me-and-you and us-and-them that we embraced at our beginnings and before form.
  • The precursor to the big bang was the need for “form” to play out those dualistic concepts we chose at our beginnings: all our issues stem from those original concepts based on ideas of separation rather than unity.
  • We are living at a time of spiritual evolution. Peoples’ demands for equality and fairness for all as well as our cries for transparency are all part of what is called the Shift – a time that was mapped out in the stars at our beginnings. It is our cosmic time to embrace the Oneness we all share and let go of our propensity for attitudes that promote our separateness.

PART II: Main Points Discussed – (more details below):

  • How all the different rituals and concepts within the various religions and spiritualities are similar in their purpose.
  • Scientific information that helps us make peace with our religions, like how the understanding time makes the seven-day creation model valid.
  • What are the extraterrestrials’ origins? How we can reconcile the growing evidence of our past association with the ETs and our scriptures and beliefs.
  • The importance of our Planet to our spiritual growth and our need to embrace the Indigenous people’s connection to Gaia.
  • That we chose to be here at this time of the Shift to bring about our personal and Gaia’s Ascensions.
  • Our futures will be based in love and its uniting qualities, rather than fear and its divisive qualities.

Rosemary McCarthy©, updated June 2018

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