Conditional Love and Expectations

Deep within us, we hold a distant memory of the unconditional love we once held—a memory from our beginnings, and which we all still long for.

The history of Humanity has been based on conditional love. This has manifested within our families, community support systems, and even in our religions.

Conditional love has created conflicting messages within us because while people often extol the virtues of love, they do not always uphold them.

We tell our children we love them or want what is best for them; however, this is often influenced by our limited perspectives based on our narrow perceptions, or we unconsciously inflict our neediness or Perceived Needs onto them.

This article /blog post is from my new book, Why We Are the Way We Are,

to be published later in November.

(the is the 1st book in my new ‘Our Journeys to Peace’ Series)

About this Book (and the next 2 in the series) found here

(to be updated on publish date(s) email me at: rosemary@yourjourneytopeace.com)

———–

And we have been told that God loves us but also that he is vengeful.

Our psyches have thereby become riddled with conflicts about love. Conflicting messages about love keep us confused about love.

Confusion about love—what unconditional love is;

How to give it—How to receive it,

Is why our relationships are so difficult.

When we are being negative n any way or closed off; when we are angry, judgmental, despondent, pessimistic etc.; or when we are needy, we are distanced from universal flow, and by default we are stuck within the restrictions of our human limitations. Our power-base is weak and feelings of unconditional love are almost inaccessible.

Neediness is one of the main sources of relationship issues. Neediness creates expectations. When someone does not provide what we expect or something we had hoped for does not happen, we are disappointed, hurt, depressed, or angry, and we react involuntarily.

We often give with expectations of reciprocity and appreciation. Sometimes this is conscious and we expect tit-for-tat, but often we unconsciously expect certain outcomes, but in either case we are hurt when they are not met. We are not coming from a place of unconditional love.

When our expectations are not met, we may feel that we are being taken advantage of, or, we come to believe that life is not fair.

We might blame the other person for our frustrations causing conflict in the relationship as most often we have not even voiced our expectations, so our hurt feelings seem to come out of the blue with the other the receiver of an unexpected onslaught of emotions.

We will still feel justified by our reactions—purely because we feel bad, however, we gave with presumptions—presumptions that the other person had no idea about. We live so much in our inner world that it seems alive—obvious. But it is not.

Others do not know what is going on in our minds, what our emotional world holds, and what presumptions and expectations we have, unless we voice them.

And often we do not voice them—simply because they are not even obvious to us. They are just below the surface of our conscious mind whirling around in our Emotional Body looking to be satisfied.

 ~  Rosemary McCarthy©,  November 15, 2018

See here  for information on Why We Are the Way We Are (as well as on Book 2, Becoming Our Best Self, and book 3, Relatiolnships in an Evolving World).

here for my Blog Page – with articles on various subjects related to our personal, collective, and cosmic journeys.

here for my first book, Your Journey to Peace …,  here to Buy Journey …(available in Print and E-book Format (e-book just reduced 40%).

To be updated on publish date(s) email me at rosemary@yourjourneytopeace.com    or Join my Free Monthly Publication/Newsletter here

here  for my Facebook page. Following my FB page ensures you receive my new blog  articles as posted.

You can share this article/post as long as you include the full copyright message below. If you share through Facebook (link is also below), the message automatically copies.

——————

Copyright © 2018 by Rosemary McCarthy. All rights Reserved. To copy, share, or distribute this article simply ensure the content is copied in its entirety, is unaltered, and is distributed freely and for no monetary or personal gain, and that this copyright notice and the link for the article and the website www.yourjourneytopeace.com are included. You can contact me at: rosemary@yourjourneytopeaee.com  Blessings and thank you kindly!

October 2018 Newsletter – Making Changes / Embracing New Ideas

As Humanity continues to evolve, we are all being guided to shift, change, and be open to new ideas.

Society is evolving. It is making major shifts in how we deal with each other. We are embracing new ideas- like fairness and equality for all. We are changing how we view others. How we treat people – no matter how different they are than us. This is not easy for everyone, however, to create the world we all want society has to change its perspective.

Individuals are also being guided – nudged to evolve. To shift ideas we have created of how our lives should be. Things around us are changing. Evolving. And we have to adapt. Universal forces are pushing us to replace what is keeping us living life from a limited perspective to embracing what will open us up to greater possibilities.

See full message here.

~  Rosemary McCarthy©, October, 2018.

See here to sign up for this free monthly message/publication.

This article/post was inspired by the changes that came about as I decided to offer the concepts in my first book Your Journey to Peace … (see here)  in smaller formats.

See here for information on the first 3 books in my new ‘Our Journeys to Peace’ Series

Why We Are the Way We Are – due out in November

Becoming our Best Self – due out December

Relationships in an Evolving World – due out early February

 

 

 

 

Our Life Matrix

Our perceptions and beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world around us stem from our inherent personalities, filtered through past and current influences: familial, generational, cultural, and social.

The perceptions and beliefs we hold can be based on truths, or they can be false and based on Unconscious Influences* we unknowingly hold. *(definition below).

The tendency to allow false perceptions to be created has its roots in Humanity’s past, which we perpetrated without knowing we were doing so.

All of our conscious and Unconscious Influences work together like threads in a patchwork quilt that link the interweaving patterns of how we deal with life—like a matrix that overlays our lives. I call this our Life Matrix.

 This article/blog post is from my book “Your Journey to Peace … “

See here for About Book …  here  to Join my Free Monthly Newsletter, 

and here to check out my new books to be shortly published.

  • Our Life Matrix: Is the lens through which we see and navigate the world. Fueled by our heart beliefs, which come from our conscious and Unconscious Influences, our Life Matrix holds all of our underlying perceptions and misperceptions. It supports what we think we need to be and what we think we need to do to be happy, fulfilled, empowered, and to have harmonious relationships. It upholds all of our perceptions—whether they are real or false.

Our Life Matrix can bring about positive or negative experiences for us. We usually develop a dominant Life Matrix, but since living is an organic ebb and flow of thoughts and emotions, we may vacillate between the positive and negative influences of both forces.

If something causes us to react out of character, our heart beliefs cause us to quickly revert to our normal attitudes.

Our Life Matrix will predispose us to deal with life, others, issues, and situations by denying, procrastinating, responding calmly, or by reacting aggressively or passively.

A Positive Life Matrix

Living under the influence of a positive Life Matrix, we may embody optimism, confidence, and hopefulness. We may feel lucky, be fearless, as well as be accepting of others since a positive outlook and our own self-confidence cause us to be non-judgmental.

Our Life Matrix

We could sometimes succumb to arrogance, impatience, or single-mindedness as our personality dictates, but emotional reactions will generally be composed.

Most of our dealings with others will likely be propelled by responses instead of reactions. And as our general outlook is positive, we will quickly return to positive attitudes should we fall into negative ones.

A positive Life Matrix may temporarily shift to a negative one, but we are usually pulled back as our underlying inner belief system holds a positive approach to life.

The same holds true for a negative Life Matrix. We may have times of positivity, but we generally default to the negative. A negative Life Matrix can be shifted more permanently to the positive, albeit with a sincere and conscious effort.

A Negative Life Matrix

If we are living under the influence of a negative Life Matrix, we are often needy. We may tend to be pessimistic, hesitant, doubtful, and feel disadvantaged.

As these attitudes do not invite in desired results we are often frustrated. We blame others for our failures. We may act with aggression, timidity, or passive-aggressiveness, or, vacillate between these ways of dealing with our frustrations.

When we do evoke positive feelings they are usually undermined, as our negative heart beliefs eventually pull us back under their influence.

We may hold a volatile emotional component and will be overtly reactive—instead of being responsive to situations and taking them at face value and without making it all about us and our neediness and/or emotions.

Or, we may respond with seeming passivity, but are internalizing our angers or frustrations keeping our inner world in turmoil. This becomes a vicious cycle, as inner turmoil invites in more of the same.

Our emotional state is very important because it defines who we are now being, which influences what our future holds.

Our Life Matrix

It has only been in the last century or so that psychologists have been able to connect the dots between our Unconscious Influences. and how we experience life.

We often feel that we do not experience enough love in our lives; however, our capacity to truly feel love and to love others is in direct relationship to what is held in our Life Matrix.

Working to create a positive Life Matrix creates self-love and brings love into our life.

Whether from our conscious or unconscious minds, every thought, word, belief, attitude, and action emit a vibration.

To become the cause of our experiences and the creator of our realities—instead of at the effect of negative Unconscious Influences, we must be cognizant of the vibrations we are emitting.

The conscious and unconscious beliefs and life philosophies within our Life Matrix govern everything we think, say, and do and thereby what we invite into our life.

The lens through which we view others and the world around us is how the world will show up for us. We become what we think we are, and we create based on what is held in our Life Matrix.

  • *Our Unconscious Influences: Our thoughts, attitudes, beliefs, and ideas based on past emotional impressions that we unconsciously constructed or appropriated from others, or from past situations. These may have created true positive perceptions about ourselves, others, situations, or the world around us. Or, they may have created negative false misperceptions that have us see ourselves and others through false lenses of separation and division.

 ~  Rosemary McCarthy©, July 4, 2018, updated Novembr 2018

See here for About Book

here to Buy Book (available in Print and E-book Format (e-book just reduced 40%).

and here to check out my new website with information on my new series “Our Journeys to Peace” with the first book Why We Are the Way We Are to be published this month.

here for my Blog Page – with articles on various subjects related to our personal, collective, and cosmic journeys

here  for my Facebook page. Following my FB page ensures you receive my new blog  articles as posted

here  to Join my Free Monthly Publication on various themes.

You can share this article as long as you include the full copyright message below. If you share through Facebook (link is also below), the message automatically copies.

—————–

Copyright © 2018 by Rosemary McCarthy. All rights Reserved. To copy, share, or distribute this article simply ensure the content is copied in its entirety, is unaltered, and is distributed freely and for no monetary or personal gain, and that this copyright notice and the link for the article and the website www.yourjourneytopeace.com are included. You can contact me at: rosemary@yourjourneytopeaee.com  Blessings and thank you kindly!

 

Newsletter – September 2018 – Decluttering …

Decluttering the Physical Unclutters Our Mind

As I am moving shortly, it is the process of preparing for my move that brought about this month’s theme on decluttering. Going through all my things reminded me of the spiritual concept that clearing out our physical environment clears out our mind.

Our Possessions Make Our Home. Give Us Comfort.

Our Old Possessions Are Familiar. They Help Us Feel Secure.

However, we sometimes hold onto unused, unneeded, and unnecessary possessions. Things from our past. And we often don’t know, or even remember, how or why we acquired them. Why we keep them.

See here to read full message.

Rosemary McCarthy, September 2018

Grace Can be Bestowed upon Us; We Can Also Invoke a State of Grace

The Universal Law Of Openness – Part 3 of 3

As I explained in Part 1, to fully take advantage of the gifts the universe has to offer us we have to be “open” – in a state of receptivity – in our heart-space, and in Part 2 I put forth that we also have to be open to transformation – to what is keeping us from being open-hearted – in that state of receptivity.

Openness also Means Being Open to New Ideas and Approaches

The Law of Openness also open to alternatives. To new ideas and approaches. To seeing things through a new lens. Open to changing our views on some things.

Being open to alternatives means that we must be receptive to the fact that our individual perspectives are not the only ones, and that they may even be misguided.

It helps to remember that over our lifetime most of us have changed our minds about things we once believed to be true.

We must be open to questioning some of our views – especially those we inherited based on old paradigms. On our health. The Planet.

What we were taught about our past – especially regarding people of Indigenous cultures, other races, and different orientations. On the safety of our food supply. How our scriptures are interpreted. Open to new ways to dealing with personal and collective issues.

New Ideas Regarding Our Health

Being open to universal flow, we can tune into the innate wisdom held in our bodies. Christiane Northrup tells us in Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom that our “symptoms and/or illnesses … [come with] messages” and suggests we ask ourselves, “Am I open to listening to them?”

She explains that our illnesses speak to us, and that we should listen to the messages our bodies give us – for the purposes of understanding, healing, and possibly making life changes – not for an in-depth analysis of why it happened. (1).

The Universal Law Of Openness - Part 3 of 3

Little Ideas that Help Our Planet

There are many little things we can all do for the Planet. For example, we can exchange our lush green lawns and properties that require much watering for those that use various decorative alternatives that use less water.

In Kelowna, B.C. (a dry, arid area in the Okanagan valley) I have seen a combination of different colored pebbles, small rocks, mulch, and small flowering and cactus-like plants and shrubs create beautiful properties.

Being Open While Keeping Healthy Boundaries

As we open spiritually and move toward a more open-hearted existence, we have to strike a balance between being open and having healthy boundaries.

And as we become more open and compassionate towards others we must be aware of our emotional boundaries. People may attempt to walk all over us, lure us to getting pulled into their dramas, or, we may become victims of their neediness or agendas.

When we become more open-hearted our judgment and discernment do sharpen, but we still must exercise some caution.

Most people who overstep others’ boundaries don’t even realize they are doing it, but others are very skilled at enticing people into their emotional worlds. They want company in the murkiness of their pain and deep emotions. As Dr. Ronald L. Holt explains in an interview with Julia Griffin, “openheartedness [requires] conscious mindfulness …” (2).

Becoming empowered may require us to close our boundaries a bit. Creating healthy boundaries is a balancing act.

We may have been so open that we allowed too many people into our sphere – and to the extent of over-taxing ourselves. However, as we aim to adjust our boundaries we may now find that we put up walls and close off to others too much.

Keeping our boundaries healthy while remaining open is a fine line to walk, but a necessary skill to hone. While being open to others, we cannot allow their neediness to affect us. We can’t close off to everyone, nor can we let everyone in.

I once heard that we should let others into our sphere like windows that we can open and shut – not have wide-open doorways that let everyone in or walls that shut everyone out.

The Universal Law Of Openness - Part 3 of 3

We do not live in a bubble. When in crowds or around those who are needy or whose negative energy drains us, we can protect ourselves from the effects. Envisioning yourself surrounded by a cheesecloth type fabric will filter out negative energies while allowing the good ones in.

To take advantage of any kind of help or to properly perceive any philosophical, spiritual, or biblical teachings our hearts must be open and our minds quieted.

To be happy, feel empowered, discover our passions and life purpose, become our best self, and live in harmony with those around us we have to be open to universal flow and to the unconditional love it holds – and to extend love’s qualities to all others. We have to keep to the Universal Law of Openness.

*Protective Devices and Mechanisms: Methods we use like control, aggression, defensiveness, interrupting, changing the subject, or any other emotional device can help us avoid dealing what is really in front of us. These mechanisms aim to uphold, protect, and defend false, limiting beliefs, biases, or insecurities we hold.

Rosemary McCarthy© May 2018, updated October 2018

For Part 1 – see here

For Part 2 – see here

see here  to sign up for my free monthly publication

here for my blog page with many articles on our personal, collective, and planetary journeys to peace.

here for About “Your Journey to Peace … “

here to buy “Journey … “ Available in print and e-book formats,

here for my Facebook page

If you appreciate this article, I invite you to leave a review on the book’s website found here or on its Face Book page found here 

You can share this article as long as you include the full copyright message below. If you share through Facebook (a link is below), the message will automatically copy.

Endnotes

(1) Christiane Northrup, Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom: Creating Physical and Emotional Health and Healing (New York: Bantam Books, 1998), 638-9.

(2) Ronald L. Holt, “The Christ Grid,” interview by Julia Griffin, Spirit of Ma’at: “Earth Energies” 3, no. 12 (July 2003), http://www.spiritofmaat.com/archive/jul3/prns/holt.htm

——————————-

Copyright © October 19, 2018 by Rosemary McCarthy. All rights Reserved. To copy, share, or distribute this post simply ensure the content is copied in its entirety, is unaltered, and is distributed freely and for no monetary or personal gain, and that this copyright notice and the link for the article and the website www.yourjourneytopeace.com are included. You can contact me at: rosemary@yourjourneytopeace.comBlessings and thank

The Universal Law of Openness (part 2 of 3)

Part 1 of article The Universal Law of Openness can be found here)

 In Part 1 of this article I explained that to fully take advantage of the gifts the universe has to offer us we have to be “open” – in a state of receptivity.

We must ensure we keep the floodgates to the universe open. Living in faith, with open hearts, and expressing love and its qualities out into the world keeps us in a receptive mode.

I discussed the importance of living heart-centered rather than mind-centered.

When we live heart-centered and with open hearts, we are living at our highest, purest form. Information flows freely back and forth.

When we live from a mind-centered place, we are existing at a lower, denser level. Mind talk is louder than the heart, so communication to the universe, to Spirit, often does not get through, or it is muffled. T

I explained that from a heart centered place we are open to others and can receive and give love freely, and that from a mind-centered place we are less open to others. Love cannot flow back and forth as freely. .

I also explained in part 1 that to fully adhere to the Law of Openness we must see life through a clear lens. That we must see the light and love within all of us – our sameness – not from the murky distorted lens of the created Self that sees our separateness and focuses on our imperfections and differences.

I concluded part 1 by offering suggestions on how to clear the lens of how we view ourselves, others, and life in general. Clearing our lens open us. It transforms us.

(This article/blog post is based on concepts in my book Your Journey to Peace, Bridging the Gap Between Religion, Spirituality, Psychology, and Science. About book found here).

Archetypes Act As Conduits to Help Us, and to Strengthen Latent Qualities Within Us

Becoming Open Creates Personal Transformation

Personal Transformation can only occur if we are open to changing. To allowing old habits and ways of thinking and being to slip away. This makes room in our lives for what will better support a new, improved, more trusting, and empowered heart-centered version of ourselves.

Connecting to universal love by being open-hearted is transformative. It improves our life in many ways:

  • We respond to situations more calmly – rather than react over-emotionally, aggressively, or passively, or bring past issues or situations into the present;
  • we make decisions based on facts and truths – we are more perceptive of others and judicious of facts. We make wiser decisions;
  • our intuition increases – our instincts and intuition improve, ideas just seem to pop into our head, and we get “gut-feelings” about people and situations. We make better decisions;
  • our judgment and discernment improve – we can now see through others’ inauthenticity or falsehoods. We become more confident in our choices;
  • we feel more empowered – responding calmly, having good judgement, trusting the guidance we receive, and seeing through falsehoods or others’ selfish attitudes helps us feel more confident in ourselves and our choices, and therefore more empowered.
  • we are more apt to avoid hurt feelings – we can more easily see through others’ neediness, selfishness, agendas, manipulation, or protective devices they attempt to put on us;

The Universal Law of Openness (part 2 of 3)

To shift from living mind-centered to an open-hearted way of living in the world we must believe:

  • that being open to universal love and the power it brings with it will serve us better than being ruled by the mind.
  • that allowing the heart to lead the mind is better than continuing to allow the mind to snuff out what our heart or soul wants to tell us.

The mind treasures the fears we hold onto, the judgements and prejudices that lurk in its corners, the controlling natures that make us feel powerful, our reactions that give us momentary satisfaction, and the defenses and protective devices we have erected that aim to protect us but actually keep us distanced from our True Self and from others.

Self-Examination helps us to look where our mind may be leading us that may not be serving us well. At how we love and view ourselves, as well as our ways of being toward others, situations that arise, and the world in general.

It allows us to examine our focus. Our motives. Our reactions. The impact our choices have on our ultimate well-being, and the well-being of others.

Self-examination aims to improve our lives. To transform us – for the better. It asks us to be honest with our self. Be willing to trust and surrender to the ebbs and flows of the process. Be open to looking at our self – honestly. Open to insights we receive and new ideas that are presented to us.

However, the purpose of self-examination is not to make us feel wrong

but to uncover and release what is blocking our connection to our true Self.

It helps us to become more conscious.

Letting go of old habits and ways of thinking requires that we become vulnerable – lay down our guards. It is these guards that create blocks to universal flow and the love and power it holds for us.

I will post Part 3 next Friday. To ensure you have access to it as soon as pospted FOLLOW my Facebook page found here

~ Rosemary McCarthy© May 2018, updated October 2018

Part 1 is found here 

see here  to sign up for my free monthly newsletter

here for my blog page with many articles on our personal, collective, and planetary journeys to peace.

here for About Book

here to buy book. Available in print and e-book formats,

If you appreciate this article, I invite you to leave a review on the book’s website found here or on its Face Book page found here 

You can share this article as long as you include the full copyright message below. If you share through Facebook (a link is below), the message will automatically copy.

——————————-

Copyright © October 12, 2018 by Rosemary McCarthy. All rights Reserved. To copy, share, or distribute this post simply ensure the content is copied in its entirety, is unaltered, and is distributed freely and for no monetary or personal gain, and that this copyright notice and the link for the article and the website www.yourjourneytopeace.com are included. You can contact me at: rosemary@yourjourneytopeace.comBlessings and thank you, Rosemary

 

The Universal Law of Openness (part 1 of 3)

See below for link to Part 2

The Law of Openness denotes that to fully take advantage of the gifts the universe has to offer us we have to be “open” – in a state of receptivity.

Grace, light, energy, and unconditional love are continuously being beamed to us from the higher realms, and to the Planet as a whole.

To access these gifts, we must ensure we keep the floodgates to the universe open. Living in faith, with open hearts, and expressing love and its qualities out into the world keeps us in a receptive mode. This is honoring the Law of Openness.

Jesus said, “come to me like children” – childlike. With awe. With trust. With hearts open – able to receive and give love.

The expression “the heart is the seat of the soul” means that it is through our hearts that we tap into our divinity – our higher selves. To access the qualities inherent in our divinity we have to be in our heart space – not in our mind.

(This article/blog post is based on concepts in my book Your Journey to Peace, Bridging the Gap Between Religion, Spirituality, Psychology, and Science. About book found here).

Archetypes Act As Conduits to Help Us, and to Strengthen Latent Qualities Within Us

Living Heart-centered vs Living Mind-centered

When we live heart-centered and with open hearts, we are living at our highest, purest form. The communication lines to the universe are open: love, grace, wisdom, guidance, and information flows freely back and forth. Insights come to us.

Our questions are answered. Our concerns addressed. The messages we receive guide us toward our ultimate happiness, life purpose, and our highest good.

When we live from a mind-centered place, we are existing at a lower, denser level. Although living heart-centered offers us more than living mind-centered as we have access to universal flow and the power it holds, the mind is louder than the heart.

When we are mind-centered, our hearts desires and any messages we might receive are drowned out. Messages are not heard. The communication lines to the universe either contain static or are blocked completely.

Any insights or messages that do get through may be blurred or misunderstood. And as our focus is mainly on mind-centered matters and not on those that feed the heart or soul, the only guidance we hear or pay attention to is geared towards our mind-centered concerns.

From an open heart-centered place we can accept unconditional love and freely offer love and its qualities like kindness, understanding, compassion, fairness, and acceptance to others. We live life from a place of me-and-you.

The Universal Law of Openness (part 1 of 3)

From a mind-centered place we are less open to others. We react to people and situations at the level of the mind – not from the heart or the soul. We see life and others through barriers – through the mind’s veil of worry, fear, limitations, defensiveness, judgement, control, prejudice, suspiciousness, etc. We erect protective devices.*

From a mind-centered place we cannot fully accept or offer love as our barriers put conditions on love. We live life from a place of me-versus-you.

Advantages of Being Open-hearted

Some of the benefits of operating from an open-hearted place and allowing universal love and guidance to flow through us are:

  • we are confident and self-assured – while still remaining humble;
  • we have faith that our needs will be met and that things will work out – worry does not cloud our awareness or block our connection;
  • we are flexible – we do not get upset when unforeseen things happen. We adjust when necessary;
  • we can accept whatever is going on at the moment – regarding ourselves, others, and the world around us, while working to change what is necessary in a calm, confident manner;
  • we are mindful of our reactions – we are less inclined to harsh, defensive, aggressive, or overly-passive reactions, or of projecting any kind of negativity onto others or situations;
  • we live harmoniously – our attitudes and behaviors create harmony – not conflict, as we avoid getting involved in gossip, drama, or needless debates or confrontations;
  • we live spherically – open to all that is around us. A wide variety of opportunities are open to us that we would not be aware of if we were closed off.

The Universal Law of Openness (part 1 of 3)

Seeing through a Clear Lens / Clearing the Lens

The path to peaceful living requires that we perceive and react to life through a clear lens.

Connected to universal love our true Self sees through a clear lens. It sees our sameness and the light and love within all of us. It reacts to life from the place of me-and-you.

The barriers we put up from mind-centered living override how our true Self perceives life and causes us to react from our created Self.

This created Self sees life though the murky distorted lens of our separateness, focusing on our imperfections and differences. It reacts to life from the place of me-versus-you.

To ensure we are connected to our true Self and reacting to life and others through a clear lens – through a me-and-you perspective – we must be open to:

  • recognizing and unblocking what is keeping our lens murky;
  • gaining control of our mind and its ideas of separation: thoughts, attitudes, or actions based on our imperfections and differences;
  • examining our reactionary states;
  • acknowledging any greed, judgment, prejudice, or need for control that comes from a mind-centered focus;
  • becoming mindful;
  • self-examination;
  • personal transformation.

The Universal Law of Openness (part 1 of 3)

*Protective Devices and Mechanisms: Methods we use like control, aggression, defensiveness, interrupting, changing the subject, or any other emotional device can help us avoid dealing what is really in front of us. These mechanisms aim to uphold, protect, and defend false, limiting beliefs, biases, or insecurities we hold.

Rosemary McCarthy© May 2018, updated October 2018

See here for Part 2

To ensure you have access to Parts 3 of this blog post, Follow my Facebook page found here 

see here  to sign up for my free monthly newsletter 

here for my blog page with many articles on our personal, collective, and planetary journeys to peace.

here for About Book

here to Buy Book. (Available in print and e-book formats,.

If you appreciate this article, I invite you to leave a review on the book’s website found here or on its Face Book page found here 

You can share this article as long as you include the full copyright message below. If you share through Facebook (a link is below), the message will automatically copy.

————————

Copyright © October 4, 2018 by Rosemary McCarthy. All rights Reserved. To copy, share, or distribute this post simply ensure the content is copied in its entirety, is unaltered, and is distributed freely and for no monetary or personal gain, and that this copyright notice and the link for the article and the website www.yourjourneytopeace.com are included. You can contact me at: rosemary@yourjourneytopeace.comBlessings and thank

Partnering Up Consciously – Separating Consciously (Part 2 of 2)

(This Part 2 expands of last week’s post,

As We Continue to Evolve Our Relationships Will Improve.  (Link is below)

The more we evolve, the more we will be able to easily trust that our hearts are showing us a true picture when choosing a life-partner (or even friends or a business partner).

We will no longer need to be so wary of our unconscious influences luring us into bad situations or have to be so vigilant at continuously examining our emotions, desires, or motives.

Nor will we have to be so cautious of others’ motives. As we will be working at high vibration capacities, our radars will be well attuned to the vibrations of others and if something is off we will cue into it quickly.

The greater our connection to our True Self the more we feel guided towards partners based on true soul parings where we encourage each other to be the best we can be.

And because our strength and self-confidence comes from within, we are not invested in changing our partner or making them acquiesce to our desires.

We also understand that our partner gets his or her strength and guidance from their True Self, and if that guidance is calling them to move on from the relationship we will not be so inclined towards drama, anger, revenge, or the plethora of negative responses breaking up has caused in the past. As well as partnering up consciously, we can also separate consciously.

(This article/blog post is based on concepts in my book Your Journey to Peace, Bridging the Gap Between Religion, Spirituality, Psychology, and Science. Book Synopsis is found here).

Archetypes Act As Conduits to Help Us, and to Strengthen Latent Qualities Within Us

In our most recent history an intact family provided the foundations we needed to grow emotionally healthy, and when divorce or separations occurred, even if the family life was not perfect, the children felt like the rug was pulled out from under them.

This sense of loss is somewhat due to changed circumstances, but much of it is due to the way we separate and divorce. The sense of security children feel when surrounded by unconditional love when growing up is like God’s unconditional love for us.

As we become more evolved individually and are more closely connected to our True Selves, our separations will occur without the dire effects that has been so common and fueled by hurt, anger, rage, revenge, and blame.

We are already encouraging our children to look into their hearts and trust their inner guidance, and so their connection to their True Self is stronger than in past generations. This

gives them an inner-strength that follows them everywhere.

As couples are inspired to separate or divorce with integrity, they will honor the promises made and will be able to agree on shared child rearing duties, day-to-day obligations, and fair distribution of finances. The children will then be much less inclined to internalize the effects of the break-up and succumb to dysfunctional attitudes or behaviors, or pass on the effects of unresolved issues regarding their parents’ separation onto their own children.

This article/blog post is a continuation of my last article,  As We Continue to Evolve All Our Relationships Will Improve (1/2) found here  

~ Rosemary McCarthy©, January 2018, updated Sept 2018.

See here  to sign up for my newsletter 

here for my blog page with many articles on our personal, collective, and planetary journeys to peace.

here  for my Facebook page. Following my FB page ensures you receive my new blog articles as posted.

here to buy book. Available in print and e-book formats, c

If you appreciate this article, I invite you to leave a review on the book’s website found here or on its Face Book page found here 

You can share this article as long as you include the full copyright message below. If you share through Facebook (a link is below), the message will automatically copy.

—————

Copyright © Sept 27, 2018 by Rosemary McCarthy. All rights Reserved. To copy, share, or distribute this post simply ensure the content is copied in its entirety, is unaltered, and is distributed freely and for no monetary or personal gain, and that this copyright notice and the link for the article and the website www.yourjourneytopeace.com are included. You can contact me at: rosemary@yourjourneytopeace.comBlessings and thank

As We Continue to Evolve All Our Relationships Will Improve (1/2)


(Part 2, Partnering up Consciously ⁄ Separating Conscious is found on link below).

Relationships are the vehicle that best allow us work out our issues – our pains, fears, reactionary styles, protective devices and all other unconscious influences that keep us from feeling peaceful, living in harmony with others, and becoming our Best Self.

This is especially true in our familial relationships – and in particular with our significant others.

Often we are drawn to one another so that we get together to love, help, support each other in life, to work through our unconscious influences, and/or to play out what our soul contracts dictate.

Issues that come out in our relationships are opportunities to heal them. This is always a good thing and in doing so we grow spiritually. So working towards healing a relationship is most often recommended.

However, sometimes the chemistry people feel with each other does not necessarily have to end in a long or even short-term relationship.

A heart connection with a strong chemical attraction may be a left-over energetic pull from a past-life association. We may have an unfinished lesson to learn with the other and we are only to get together for a time (a reason or a season), a purpose, learn a lesson, and then move on.

It may also be that we are not meant to act on the connection we feel, and the lesson to learn through the energetic pull we feel towards the other is to rise above the chemistry and use discretion in choosing a partner.

This article/blog post is based in concepts from my book “Your Journey to Peace … “

See here for About Book   here to Buy Book(available in Print and E-book Format (e-book now reduced 40%)

Archetypes Act As Conduits to Help Us, and to Strengthen Latent Qualities Within Us

Relationships create emotional entanglements and the unraveling from those based in neediness or left-over energetic pulls that hold drama usually carry unpleasantness and emotional pain.

As the effects of this Shift of consciousness Humanity is going through continues to encourage us to find joy, lightness in living, compassion and understanding towards others, and the impetus to overcome any unconscious influence we hold that undermine our self and/or create conflict with others, all aspects of all our relationships will improve.

Current relationships will become healthier, as the conflicts that have their roots in seriousness, neediness, Perceived Needs, Hidden Agendas, and Protective Mechanism will begin to dissolve.

As we start to become more mindful, those of us entering into new relationships will choose our partners more consciously. We will feel empowered enough to seek out people whose character, lifestyle, and values complement and align with ours.

These pairings will have many less conflicts than those based in neediness and unconscious influences, but when conflicts do arise they will be resolved with calmness and integrity.

Children will benefit greatly from these attitudes. Many young parents today are already parenting consciously and embrace many of the concepts in Shefali Tsabary’s ground-breaking book, The Conscious Parent.

– Rosemary McCarthy©  January 2018, updated September 2018

Part 2, Partnering up Consciously ⁄ Separating Consciously, is found here

See here  to Join my Free Monthly Publication, or to see list of past ones with various themes

here for my Blog Page – with articles on various subjects related to our personal, collective, and cosmic journeys to peace

here  for my Facebook page. Following my FB page ensures you receive my new blog articles as posted.

here for About Book   

here to Buy Book(available in Print and E-book Format (e-book now reduced 40%)

You can share this article as long as you include the full copyright message below. If you share through Facebook (link is below), the message will automatically copy.

———————–

Copyright © 2018 by Rosemary McCarthy. All rights Reserved. To copy, share, or distribute this post simply ensure the content is copied in its entirety, is unaltered, and is distributed freely and for no monetary or personal gain, and that this copyright notice and the link for the article and the website www.yourjourneytopeace.com are included. You can contact me at: rosemary@yourjourneytopeace.comBlessings and thank you kindly. Rosemary.

Worksheet 19:  Small Shifts I Can Start With

(This is a companion blog post to my article “Small Shifts I Can Start With”  See here for link)

Worksheet 19:  Small Shifts I Can Start With (see below for Large Shifts) 

(from my book, Your Journey to Peace … About Book found here

(As recommended with any spiritual or self-healing practice, start with a small, one or two-minute meditation/prayer/attunement. Invite in your Best Self, True Self, higher Self, Spirit, Holy Spirit, Buddha, Jesus, or any other deity to join with you as you aim to clear the pathway to peace).

Small Shifts in Attitudes and Behaviors I Can Make

Replacing Judgment with Acceptance:

  • I can replace judgment with acceptance regarding …

Replacing Blame with Understanding:

  • I can replace blame with understanding regarding …

Replacing Anger with Self-Control:

  • I can replace anger with self-control regarding …

Replacing Indifference with Empathy:

  • I can replace indifference with empathy toward …

Replacing That Which Causes Discord with That Which Embraces Harmony:

  • I can replace my words, attitudes, or actions toward …

Standing up for Myself:

  • I will speak up for myself with ….    or about ….
  • I will ensure I am heard when interacting with xxx  / in xxx circumstances

Large Shifts in Attitudes or Behaviors I Can Make

 ~ Rosemary McCarthy© (2016, updated Sept 7, 2018)

Stay tuned for next week’s article: Faking it Until it Feels Natural. To access this article and my other blog posts join my newsletter list or follow my Facebook page (links below).

~Rosemary McCarthy©  September 7, 2018.

See here for About Book (see below for image of book cover)

here to Buy Book(available in Print and E-book Format (e-book now reduced 40%).

here  to Join my Free Monthly Publication, or to see list of past ones with various themes

here for my Blog Page – with articles on various subjects related to our personal, collective, and cosmic journeys

here  for my Facebook page. Following my FB page ensures you receive my new blog  articles as posted

You can share this worksheet as long as you include the companion article (link above) and the full copyright message below. If you share through Facebook the message automatically copies.

This article/blog post is based in concepts from my book “Your Journey to Peace … “

Archetypes Act As Conduits to Help Us, and to Strengthen Latent Qualities Within Us

——————

Copyright©Rosemary McCarthy, September 7, 2018. All rights Reserved. You may only copy, share and distribute this worksheet provided that you include the companion article (link above) and that the content of each is copied in its entirety, is unaltered, and is distributed freely and for no monetary or personal gain, and that this copyright notice and the link for the article and the website www.yourjourneytopeace.com are included. However, I would appreciate if you would inform me of where or to whom it has been shared, using email rosemary@yourjourneytopeace.com. Blessings, and thank you kindly – Rosemary