It’s Not Me–It’s You. It’s Not You–It’s Me. It’s Both. It’s Neither – Newsletter October 2021

When we come from a place of It’s Not Me – It’s You, we project our fears and feelings onto the other.

Ultimately, we are all responsible for the feelings that arise in us. Projecting our feelings back at the other is an attempt to deflect owning our feelings. And rather than get angry, defensive, or blame the other – it is more productive to respond calmly. 

When we come from a place of It’s Not You – It’s Me, we internalize how the other made us feel.

We are also responsible for any feelings we internalize, bury, and hide from the other. And rather than allowing our emotions to stew and later erupt or morph into passive-aggressive attitudes or behaviors, it is more productive to speak up calmly – but confidently.

Later, we can look to understand why we allow another to make us feel bad and how we allow them to treat us in the way they do. (Sign-Up  to receive my Free Monthly Newsletter where I cover a variety of subjects related to our personal development).

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Whether we project or internalize, we take personally what the other said, did, didn’t say, didn’t do, or how they reacted or didn’t react. Don’t take things personally is one of the four agreements from … 

 The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz – My Recommended Book of the Month

When People Disagree or One Feels Hurt, or Gets Disappointed or Disillusioned

🔹It’s Both of Us: because when issues arise, both are coming from a place of misalignment from love. One is unaware that they are feeling bad because of their misalignment; the other is unaware that they are behaving in hurtful ways that stem from their misalignment.

And …

🔹It’s Neither of Us: Our true reality is that we are love. However, we are disconnected from that love. So, when issues arise, both are coming from a place of misalignment from that love – unaware that they are simply feeling bad or acting out from that place of misalignment.

With this understanding that It Is Both of Us – and – It Is Neither of Us – and knowing that each is unaware that they are feeling or reacting from this place of misalignment, it is easier to understand and forgive how the other is showing up.

To shift from It’s Not Me–It’s You – or – It’s Not You–It’s Me” – to – “It’s Both – It’s Neither” we must …

🔹 Come from a place of honesty and authenticity within ourselves

🔹 Bring the qualities of love – calmness, compassion, understanding, forgiveness, acceptance, and harmony to the other.

And to get there, it helps to …

🔹 Remember that we are all somewhat misaligned from our true reality – from the love we are at our core

🔹 Recognize that you cannot always feel love and are therefore not always able to come from a place of love

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🔹 Rather than hide or deflect your thoughts and feelings, allow them to arise honestly within yourself. And if need be …

🔹 Express how you feel – honestly and calmly to the other – without blame or judgment

🔹Aim to consciously bring the qualities of love to your dealings with others.

If our default is to blame, judge, or react aggressively or be overly passive (being overly-passive is not loving ourselves), making the shift to being loving to ourselves and others takes time and practice.

A trick I learned when I studied A Course in Miracles that helped me overcome my default and make conscious shifts to come from a place of love was to ask myself: What Would Love Do?

A Course in Miracles is a profound self-study that guides us to see others and life from a place of love. We learn to respond calmly and with fairness, compassion, and acceptance – rather than from the ego’s fear-based thought system with its propensity to blame, judge, and defend. (You can read my associated post, What Would Love Do? by clicking on the above link).

We Are All Somewhat Misaligned from Love – from Our True Reality

 Most of us were not taught that we are misaligned from our essence – from love. It was on my journey of personal development that I learned that it is this misalignment that causes us to act and react in unloving ways – towards ourselves and others.

We are not bad – or wrong. We may act badly, hurt others, or do wrong things,

but we are not bad or wrong at our core. We can repair, but we should never feel ashamed.

We inherited these hurtful and defensive ways of being from eons past.

I learned that once, whether on earth, in another form, or before the big bang, we were “at one with God”– connected to love. At some point, a separation occurred. We became disconnected from that part of ourselves where we were in complete connection to love and automatically expressed love outwards – to everything and everyone.

This disconnect shifted our approach from one of love to one of fear. We went from a me-and-you way of navigating life to one of me-versus-you.

Our connection to love gave us a solid power base that allowed us to express the qualities of love easily – without limitations. We felt empowered.

Fear robbed us of our solid power base. We were disconnected, and we felt disempowered.  As this fear-based way of approaching life played out, fear’s qualities like judgment, blame, anger, shame, greed, competitiveness, protectiveness, defensiveness, small-mindedness, etc.., took hold.

Survival became our main raison d’être, and we pitted ourselves against one another. We were unaware that we were all (perpetrators and victims) influenced by inherited ways from past generations. My quote of the month is from my book, Why We Are the Way We Are

You Cannot Overcome What You Are Unaware of and Unwilling to Look At

Humanity became trapped in these fear-based ways of approaching life, passed on from civilization to civilization. From generation to generation! They became anchored into our DNA – to the point that we were no longer aware that we were living life from an unnatural mindset.

It is Humanity’s evolutionary time to shift out of this mindset and its fear-based ways of being. And it is happening!

As a society, we didn’t know – or were afraid to face that we were holding onto old, outdated ways of being. Society’s tentacles are complex and have a very long reach. Change is scary! The unknown is scary.

As individuals, we haven’t known – or were afraid to face that we were holding onto old, outdated ways of being. Until recently, we didn’t realize that we should – or could change the ways of being and navigating life that we grew up with.

It is scary to look within to our attitudes, thought processes, and behavior patterns – to open the door to realizing that we may have thought or acted in unhelpful and hurtful ways.

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Our thought processes and default ways of being are nothing to be ashamed of. We now know that we inherited unhelpful and disempowering ways of being from our past. It is not our fault that we internalize our feelings and feel hurt. Or that we project our feelings and act badly towards others.

This knowledge gives us the assurance that we can look at our default ways of being – without fear or shame. so that we can shift from … It’s Not Me–It’s You / It’s Not You–It’s Me – to – It’s Both / It’s Neither …  because …

… when issues arise, both of us are coming from a place of misalignment from love – inherited from our pasts – and unaware that we are simply feeling bad or acting badly from that place of misalignment.

I wish you a beautiful rest of the Fall.  Stay safe, and warm💛🤎🧡

©Rosemary McCarthy, October 25, 2021.

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Staying Calm, Keeping Balanced, Allowing for Reflection

As we start to get back into the swing of Fall activities (at least those of us in the Northern hemisphere are), let us remember to not get so caught up in all the various commitments and/or responsibilities that come along with this time of the year that we become stressed, and forget how uplifting feeling relaxed and “just being” is

Even though we have been forced to slow down this past year and a half and we may have had more time than usual to be reflective, modern life often leads us to ignore the reflective and feeling parts of ourselves.

To be happy and feel good we need to attend to our body, mind, emotions, and spiritual connection. To the subtler parts of our existence.

Humanity’s history has been based on false realities. Of separate motivations grounded in fear, greed, competition – on me-against-you.

Fighting for our survival became paramount in our existence. We were reactive, rather than responsive.

Although today most of us do not have to fight for our physical survival, we have translated this survival mode to one of business – of getting ahead.

And we have maintained the competitiveness and reactive states of that survival mode.

Rather than responding calmly and only addressing what is currently happening, many of us react to others and situations aggressively – often bringing in past issues or unaddressed emotions from our past.

Our business, competitiveness, focus on getting ahead, and our reactive states have left no room to connect to our subtler and reflective natures.

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When the reflective and feeling parts of ourselves are disregarded, we lead unbalanced lives. We have become disconnected from the subtleties of our True Self.

This can cause us to be discompassionate. Selfish. Unable to see how our attitudes and behaviors affect those around us.

An unbalanced life will derail us from what will ultimately make us happy. It undermines our peace and happiness, and the stress it creates hurts those around us and causes creates conflicts in our relationships. And we are usually in denial that we are behaving in ways that hurt us or those around us.

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One example is workaholics, who spend all their time focusing on success, money, and/or power and leave no time for relaxation, family life, or spiritual growth.

Workaholics are usually unaware or in denial of the consequence of their single-mindedness on themselves and the effects of their pursuits on others.

Or, they may have their eyes wide open and simply not care about anything or anybody else at this point in their lives, which is of course their own choice. They just may have to face the consequences – at one time or another.

Staying Calm, Keeping Balanced, Allowing for Reflection

Another example is people who are caught up in business – either to avoid their problems or emotions or simply because being busy has become a habit.

Either way, it is the unconscious driving forces from Humanity’s and our personal past histories that create a distorted picture of reality causing us to allow for imbalances in our lives.

And with all we have been through lately, we may have defaulted to state – even if we had led more or less balanced lives before.

We are now starting to understand that:

💥Staying balanced within ourselves is a vital part of our mental – and physical health.

This is usually related to health, family life, career, or our happiness and ability to connect to the subtleties in life. To feel joy. To feel peaceful. We need to ask ourselves whether or not our life choices and decisions will bring us peace of mind, contentment, and ultimately make us happy.

Most of us have at least – at one time or another gotten caught up in the business of life and feeling the necessity of being in competition with others.

💥Being compassionate and fair towards others is also part of our mental – and thereby our physical health.

We do not have to be greedy or in competition with others. These bring down our being and cause fractures in our connection to Universal flow.

We now know that there is enough love, success, and material goods to go around – for us and everyone – and that the Universe operates under the principle of abundance.

However, to be open to the universal gifts offered we have to maintain a strong connection to Universal flow. This connection is weakened when we are unbalanced.

When we live unbalanced lives the important things that ultimately fulfill us suffer

In his transformative healing sessions, Gerry Clow reminds us that as a society we have tipped the scales way off-center as we have replaced the subtler aspects of life with the harsher ones:

“Most of our lives we are reactive, rather than reflective. We spend our time searching, not sourcing; looking, not listening; finding, but not feeling. We involve ourselves in life, forgetting often how to evolve ourselves in life, not realizing it’s essential – and healthy – to be on both pathways at the same time.” (1)

We inherited these attitudes. But we now know how destructive they are to our personal happiness and spiritual growth.

Staying Calm, Keeping Balanced, Allowing for Reflection

As we continue through hopefully what will be the last stretch of the restrictions put upon us, let’s use any quiet time that could be seen as a negative and turn it into a positive by Staying Calm, Keeping Balanced, and Allowing for Reflection so that we come out of this stronger than when we entered this crazy time.

Companion Post: Expressing Ourselves: to Avoid Depression, Dysfunctions, and Lashing Out at Others. This is the message of my August newsletter (the link to join is below)

Companion Post: Journaling: A Path to Peace, Happiness, and Harmonious Relationships

1) Gerry Clow, RPP, RCST www.handclow2012.com (2014). http://handclow2012.com/transformative-healing/(2018).

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Appreciating Our Planet: Investing in Our Future – Part 3/3

In Part 2, I introduced the Dongria Kondh tribe in India, and discussed a bit about their battle against a resources company to prevent a planned bauxite mine that would have had a huge impact on their land and way of life. Here I continue that story and sum up the themes I discussed.

You can read Part 1 here; Part 2 here, 

The tribe eventually received support from various sources, one of them being Survival International, who helped create a documentary film “Mine: Story of a Sacred Mountain,” about the tribe’s life and this struggle. Survival brought in well-known British stars Joanna Lumley to narrate the film and Michael Palin help promote their cause. (6)

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The film shows that the Dongria Kondh people are autonomous and actually thrive in the area their people have occupied for centuries, contrary to the popular belief that rural tribes and those living isolated from civilization are all characterized by hardship. The proposal to go ahead with the mining project was denied.

This denial has set a precedent and now has an international impact for future companies whose intention is to encroach on tribal lands for profit.

The extensive research that was done throughout the tribe’s struggle brought to light the necessity of fully investigating the effects projects of large corporations have on tribal and native peoples and their way life.

Our Countries’ Harmonies Are Linked to Indigenous Peoples’ Healing

In North America, most of us were not taught and therefore have not been aware of the extent and repercussions of the abuses the Indigenous peoples suffered when colonists came from Europe in search of a better life and took over their land.

The settler’s conquests paved the way for comfortable lives for themselves, and now ours. To ensure we create a good and safe future for all of us it is important to acknowledge and address what our ancestors did as they settled.

 

It is arrogant, even ignorant of us to complain about immigration and how those seeking a better life are changing the cultural landscape while we have not righted the wrongs made when our ancestors not only changed the Indigenous peoples’ cultural landscape, but in many cases eradicated some tribes completely.

If we want a harmonious future with those who are now immigrating into our countries as well as ensuring that our laws and the spirit of them are upheld, we must connect the dots between how we acted in the past towards the Indigenous people we usurped, the karma this was created, and what we want for our future.

Past karma can be overcome – when we choose to hold to positive attitudes around similar concepts and if we address the repercussions of past negative attitudes and their actions.

We Must Be Wise, Hopeful, and Open to Alternatives

Most of us understand that we have to change our ways to protect our environment and we do what we can, but fully embracing sustainable living while at the same time keeping our mouths fed and our houses heated and/or cooled is a complicated issue; it will not happen overnight. In the meantime,

  • we can educate ourselves;
  • we can start making wiser decisions;
  • we can support others in their quests for environmentally safer choices;
  • we also have to believe in the possibility of creating a cleaner and safer world for our children and their children;
  • while at the same time face the fact that some of what is familiar to us may disappear;
  • and we do this by being open to alternatives.

For example, we can exchange our lush green lawns and properties that require much watering to those characterized by various decorative alternatives to grass and plants.

Kelowna, B.C. (a dry, arid area in the Okanagan valley) has some beautiful properties that use a combination of different colored pebbles, small rocks, mulch, and small flowering and cactus-like plants and shrubs to create beautiful gardens. I’m sure other dry arid places have adopted similar practices.

With a little foresight and imagination there are many alternatives we can implement that are better for the Planet and that will also satisfy us – we just have to be a little flexible and open to new ideas.

Ideas and insights like this will start to be birthed in us once we make the decision to do what we can for our home. Gaia wants to survive – to thrive.

The energy of the planetary evolution we are in is inspiring us to reach for viable alternatives.

There is enough of what we need for all of us to go around, we just have to use what our Planet has bequeathed to us wisely – as the Indigenous peoples are asking us to do. (See below for links to my articles: Planetary Evolution and The Concept of Enough) ).

Eisenstein also tells us that the Indigenous mission has not been to change the world, but to act as a signpost showing us the way.

And although many tribes have disappeared, and most of them and many of us are saddened by this, their assignment was only to continue to exist long enough to show us how we as humans can live in reciprocity with nature and Gaia.

He says that as a whole, they have no awareness of this, but they do feel and have felt sorrow and the unfairness of what we have put upon them and the Planet.

As we all should! Not to focus on past mistakes based in ignorance – but using newfound knowledge and understanding to look to creating a better future for all of us.

See here for link to article, Our Planetary Evolution, and here for The Concept of Enough.

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(6) Mine, Story of a Sacred Mountain, narrated by Joanna Lumley, (Survival International) http://www.survivalinternational.org/films/mine

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Links to Aids like Relaxing/Healing Music, Meditations, Qi Gong, etc.

Links to Relaxing/Healing Music, Meditations, Chi Gong, Etc.

August/September 2020

Added September 2020

Embody Your Higher Self: Access your Inner Love and Self-Mastery – With AA Michael – 7 minutes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=faB9uimGO7o

From August 2020 Newsletter

Healing Music, 3 hours. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=go99WqXWGgk

Spiritual Awakening Music – from Spirit Tribe Awakening 3 hours. (They have many on their site https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cNUVZ230g_0

Melanie Beckler. Here are a few recent meditations I have used:

Blockage Removal: Accessing Light Codes, 17 minutes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G0SvNEWlaEw

Emergency Call Meditation 12 minutes. Use for specific concerns, like health, finances, issues with others – whatever we are concerned about or want help with: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VGVLIP7ETf0

Eckhart Tolle

Presence group mediation, 30 minutes (Watch him during video – only close eyes at end when he says to. Seeing him brings an energy I felt it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hyvZ0XRAEcA

Marisa

Qi Gong, 17 minutes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nmmNWj9YtAw

 

I hope these are helpful to you. I will continuously update this list as I find new ones that have at least been helpful to me.

Blessings and stay safe and well.

Rosemary🙏🌈🧡

Newsletter August 2020 – Like Squirrels, Storing Up Our Happiness/Contentment Quotient

Habits and practices that keep our emotional and mental bodies healthy and balanced build up our emotional/spiritual muscles. This gives us the inner strength to deal with the ups and downs life throws at us – and in a calm and functional way.

This newsletter theme was inspired by my realization that with the Fall and Winter looming, I will be spending less time outdoors, and unable to reap all the benefits the summer has brought with it. Simply being outdoors breathing in fresh air invigorates us. And this year, the easy breezy feeling summertime brings with it and the many simple things we can do that make us feel good have helped keep our spirits at least somewhat up. Our spiritual muscles have been fed.

However, with the Fall and then the Winter looming we will feel the restrictions more, and so we must ensure that our spiritual muscles – our happiness/contentment quotient remain strong. We must start NOW to further strengthen them so that we can keep our spirits up throughout the next few seasons.

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Our Happiness/Contentment Quotient

When our emotional and mental bodies are healthy and balanced,

our spiritual muscles are strong.

 We are happy, contented, and feel calm and peaceful.

When we have minor upsets that affect our peace and happiness, most of us know what to do to get back to feeling our normal selves, and we usually can do so within a relatively short period of time.

Our emotional and mental bodies have muscle memory – just like with our physical muscles, so as long as we are normally a relatively happy and contented person,  we can usually bounce back quite easily from minor upsets.

Sometimes we deal with minor physical ailments that require a little attention for a short period of time. However, at other times, like with major diseases or injuries that require a long period of recuperation, we must take extra care of our self and ensure we are devoting enough time to the required treatments and protocols. And when we have a heads-up, like with a scheduled operation, we can prepare our body for what is ahead.

Recently, our emotional and mental bodies have taken a BIG hit.

Therefore, we must ensure that we are devoting enough time to keeping

our happiness and contentment muscles strong,

 so that we can deal with anything that may threaten our sense of balance.

Whenever we feel bad, sad, or stressed, it is normal to seek relief. We all feel better when we are happy and contented, and feel at peace. Thus, we seek out what will bring us relief so that we can return to feeling good.

Sometimes, or for some of us anyway, we seek relief from an upset in ways that elevate us. Talking to or being with a cherished friend or our loved ones, taking in shows, videos, or an activity that uplifts us, doing light exercise or practices like Tai Chi or yoga, or simply spending time in nature all increase our sense of well-being. These are all high-vibration activities that elevate our being. And not only do they make us feel good in the moment, they are keeping our mental and emotional bodies strong.

Newsletter August 2020 - Like Squirrels, Storing Up Our Happiness/Contentment Quotient

Turning to Solution that Uplift Us

At other times, and only for some of us, in our attempt to get relief from an upset we may turn to what is basically a band-aid solution. Frantically rushing around in avoidance, turning to food or drink and overindulging, or binging on dramatic shows or videos for hours all may bring us immediate relief. However, as these are all low-vibration activities they bring our being down. Later, we may suffer from physical or mental sluggishness or even exhaustion, so we feel bad again.  Also, these types of coping mechanisms weaken our spiritual muscles.

I believe most of you receiving this newsletter are in the northern hemisphere and have been enjoying being outside throughout the summer in the fresh air and have usually been able to find quiet spots void of crowds. When outdoors its pretty easy to social distance, and so this has been our savior as most of our usual social activities have been curtailed.

The fall approaches, and then winter follows. We will no longer be able to benefit from being outdoors as much, and so we must ensure our spiritual muscle is extra strong so that we remain in the best frame of mind possible. We can start preparing NOW, so that we get through the confines that will shortly be upon us – without too much emotional upheaval.

When upsets happen, as they inevitably will,

 we must turn to coping mechanisms that uplift us in the long run.

We cannot afford to turn to those that will ultimately deflate us further.

Let’s start practicing good, healthy coping mechanisms NOW. The more we do this, the faster it becomes second nature, allowing us to grow super strong spiritual muscles.

Most of us have found some happiness and contentment in our lives. We know what it feels like. So does our inner being. So, let’s ensure that whatever we are doing we are seeking to tap into that well of good feelings. If it doesn’t arise naturally, it is just below the surface of our awareness, and we can access it by consciously doing or focusing on what will brings it up.

Like little squirrels, let’s prepare for colder weather. Start gathering up your happiness and contentment quotient NOW. If you feel down or are upset for any reason, ensure you turn to what uplifts you – rather than turning to band-aid solutions that may seem satisfying and/or easier, but that ultimately won’t serve you best.

We can prepare and lay a good foundation by,

  • Looking into, or stocking up on, books that will make you smile, laugh, excite you, or simply make you feel good. Or, if your preference is movies or shows, look into those that are uplifting and find out where you can view them.
  • Look into online dance, music, exercise, yoga, comedy, cooking classes, or any other type of group activity that will fulfill you.
  • Listen to soothing music. (There are a few links below).
  • Start a regular spiritual practice if you don’t have one, be it yoga, Tai Chi, drumming, or one of the many guided meditations. (I have listed a few below with links).
  • Up your regular spiritual practice – either by length, quality, or number of times a day. (I have done this throughout this challenging time and it really has helped me stay somewhat sane).
  • Listen to Healing Music, like Tibetan or Crystal Bowl healing. There are many on YouTube. (I have listed a few below).
  • School yourself on online aids like Zoom to help you connect regularly with others.
  • Look into a new hobby you might want to finally embrace.

Newsletter August 2020 - Like Squirrels, Storing Up Our Happiness/Contentment Quotient

We need to gather up all the necessary good vibs into our being so that our spiritual muscles are strong enough to ensure that throughout the winter we embrace coping mechanisms that uplift us – rather than deflate us. We need to keep our happiness and contentment quotient strong to weather the winter, and rise up to any challenge set for us.

My wish is that we all go through these next seasons with ease and grace, feeling contentment, happiness, love, and joy throughout the days, and able to conjure these up whenever they don’t come easily or naturally.

In the meantime, let’s take full advantage of the warm weather and beauty Fall brings with us, and pray we have a nice winter.

With love and warm thoughts,

Rosemary🌷

Rosemary McCarthy© August 20, 2020.

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Links to Relaxing/Healing Music and Meditations:

Healing Music, 3 hours. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=go99WqXWGgk

Spiritual Awakening Music – from Spirit Tribe Awakening 3 hours. (They have many on their site https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cNUVZ230g_0

Soothing Music for Meditation XXX hrs?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-524S-MCR5Q

Melanie Beckler. Here are a few recent meditations I have used:

Blockage Removal: Accessing Light Codes, 17 minutes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G0SvNEWlaEw

 

Emergency Call Meditation 12 minutes. Use for specific concerns, like health, finances, issues with others – whatever we are concerned about or want help with: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VGVLIP7ETf0

Eckhart Tolle

Presence group mediation, 30 minutes (Watch him during video – only close eyes at end when he says to. Seeing him brings an energy I felt it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hyvZ0XRAEcA

Marisa

Chi Gong, 17 minutes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nmmNWj9YtAw

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Appreciating Our Planet: Investing in Our Future – Part 2/3

In part 1, I discussed how Gaia, our Planet, is a living, breathing organism – a conscious, living being, and that she nurtures us, and gives to us freely, asking for nothing in return. I also discussed that most native people still hold the reciprocal relationship with her that their ancestors did.  And by adhering to the concept of enough, they maintain the strong give and take relationships with her – that was always intended how we were to live. 

(This is an article from 2018,which I also posted again in 2019, and am re-posting it now. It seems timely with us all likely spending more time being outdoors and in nature these days, and a reminder for us to love and look after our Planet so that future generations will be able to take advantage of her energizing properties).

(You can read Part 1 here  And here for my blog post The Concept of Enough) 

Embedded in the Indigenous peoples’ histories is the belief that we are all our Planet’s stewards.

We would do well to listen to the Indigenous peoples and their concerns about maintaining fresh air, clean water, and healthy land. To carefully study and reflect on their approaches to nature.

We must do this for them so that they can maintain their connections to the land and cultures, and therefore their sense of empowerment, but we also must do it for all people.

As a collective society, it is the Indigenous people who have maintained the knowledge of how to keep our Planet healthy. Their beliefs about it are our road-map to achieving a good and healthy future for our children and our survival as a whole – just as they intended eons ago.

This article/blog post is based in concepts from my books

Your Journey to Peace … “ and “Why We Are the Way We Are”

(Available in print and e-book, About links and  book cover images are below)

We Disempowered the Indigenous Peoples

Indigenous people all over the world tap into and sustain their empowerment through their connection to the land and cultural traditions.

Wherever we have overtaken their lands and/or forced our ways upon them we disempowered them, to say the least. The effects of centuries of abuse, misuse, control, and marginalization has done extensive damage that echoes through their generations.

We must work acknowledging the accumulative effects of past abuses, with compassion for the plights they now suffer, with fairness in mind, and a goal towards equal rights.

  • We must ensure that future projects for profit (or those in the name of progress we want to promote) no longer infringe on rural, native, or Indigenous peoples’ health, culture, community, or way of life;
  • we must also acknowledge what we are still doing to undermine them, or their healing. Their welfare must be kept at the forefront of any decision-making that impacts the environment as a whole, their health, general welfare, cultural traditions, and their land; Appreciating Our Planet: Investing in Our Future
  • we must do this so that Indigenous peoples can regain and maintain their connection to the land, which is essential to their sense of empowerment. This is what will allow them to thrive again;
  • we need to create partnerships with the Indigenous groups within our countries and work together to create a harmonious future that will benefit us all, and our future generations, on the lands we now share.

Programs and Movements Are Being Created Around the World

We are starting to address Indigenous peoples concerns: for the repercussions Indigenous peoples suffered at our hands, as well as to support their struggles against further encroachment on their heritage lands for greed and profit.

In 2012, a movement called Idle No More, was started in Canada countering a specific bill that would directly affect the First Nations concerns.

It spread to the United States, where it grew into one of the largest protests ever regarding Native American issues, and various other protests arose in solidarity around the world.

Many who were not of Indigenous heritage joined the Idle No More protests – some to show support for the native peoples’ concerns and others because of general environmental issues that affect all of us and our future.

In 2015 Canada set up a commission to bring to light and address the abuse and other ill effects for First Nations children that resulted from the Indian Residential School system that was set up by Government and Church over 150 years ago, with the last school closing only in the mid 1990’s.

These schools were aimed to alienate the First Nations children from their families and undermine their culture. The children who were forced to leave their reserves and attend these schools (where they were also badly treated) were heavily affected.

So were their descendants: the repercussions from alienating these children from their families and culture caused far-reaching negative effects.

In India, and after years of struggle, in 2010 the Dongria Kondh tribe won their battle against a resources company to prevent a planned bauxite mine that would have had a huge impact on their land and way of life.

Appreciating Our Planet: Investing in Our Future

They received support from various sources, one of them being Survival International, who helped create a documentary film “Mine: Story of a Sacred Mountain,” about the tribe’s life and this struggle. Survival brought in well-known British stars Joanna Lumley to narrate the film and Michael Palin help promote their cause. (1)

The film shows that the Dongria Kondh people are autonomous and actually thrive in the area their people have occupied for centuries, contrary to the popular belief that rural tribes and those living isolated from civilization are all characterized by hardship. The proposal to go ahead with the mining project was denied.

This denial has set a precedent and now has an international impact for future companies whose intention is to encroach on tribal lands for profit.

The extensive research that was done throughout the tribe’s struggle brought to light the necessity of fully investigating the effects projects of large corporations have on tribal and native peoples and their way of life.

Next, in Part 3 I will continue this theme that the Indigenous people are our road-map back to harmonious living. with my article Our Countries’ Harmonies Are Linked to the Indigenous Peoples’ Healing.

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~ Rosemary McCarthy© originally from 2018, updated August 20, 2020.

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(1)Mine, Story of a Sacred Mountain, narrated by Joanna Lumley, (Survival International) http://www.survivalinternational.org/films/mine

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Universal Laws Govern Us – a Recap (Part 8 of 8)

Universal Laws and principles were set out at the creation of our cosmos. Some, like gravity, affect form, while others govern emotion, intention, relationship – which are all linked to creation.

(Links to parts 1-7 of this series are below)

Because we are still linked to the original Universal creative force we emanated from, some of these laws and principles influence us and govern our relationship to it – and to its creative power.

We all came forth as loving expressions of this God-force, and will eventually realign with it. All its creations – everything and everyone – are linked by a unifying principle. As such, there is a Oneness that connects us to them all.

At the beginning – and before form, all the creations embodied unconditional love and a sense of unity – and a unity of purpose. However, somewhere along the way the connection to these harmonious and co-operative ways of expression were lost.

Universal Laws and principles can help us rekindle the unconditional love

and sense of unity we once held, but lost our connection to.

These laws and principles are simply explanations of how to uphold the required vibrations to align with the Universal forces, so that we can take advantage of what is not only available to us, but what is actually our inheritance.

When we do not adhere to these laws and principles, then by default, our own internal thoughts and ideas – with their limiting fears, worries, judgments, etc. prevail.

This article/blog post is based in concepts from my books

Your Journey to Peace … “ About Book  here 

and “Why We Are the Way We Are”  About Book  here

(Book cover images below)

We once effortlessly brought forth glorious realities merging the powerful Father energy and the creative Mother energy in perfect balance while still maintaining the concept of a unity of consciousness and purpose. We did this within the auspices of free will.

However, somewhere along the way, the thought that I-can-do-it-on-my-own – apart from the original creative force arose. Free will allowed this to occur. We thought we had separated from the Oneness, but we had not, as that bond could never be broken.

In time, our sense of connectedness, unity of purpose, and all that was inherent to the Oneness was forgotten or ignored, leading to duality and polarity – to the pull between love and fear – and all their offshoots that have become part of our default operating system.

We still hold a memory of that Oneness. This is what has created longing within us.

Deep within the recesses of our unconscious we remember the unconditional love,

and sense of unity, shared purpose, and co-operation.

We know it is right. And possible. However, the connection to it is most often just beyond our reach. The holy people and Masters were sent to help us realign with the precepts of unconditional love and unity, but for the most part, we ignored, misperceived, or were so stuck in the darkness we didn’t understand their messages.

Whatever words we use when speaking of that higher power – the Universal creative force, be it God, Creator, Source, Allah, Holy Spirit, or simply the term Universe, the notion that there is an organizing, benevolent principle at play to guide and support us, has always been around. It is, and has been, of great comfort to us.

We just have to look up at the sky in the day and the stars and planets at night to understand that there must be a higher power holding it all together. We cannot deny that something with a magical quality is orchestrating it all.

Then we look at the chaos in our world, and cannot make a connection. Humans inherited this duality and polarity from a time beyond form, and as we played it out, our connection to the love and unity we once embodied grew weaker and weaker.

It is Our Cosmic Time to Override Our Past

We are now at the pinnacle of our evolution, and it is our cosmic time to find our way out. It is our time to override the habitual behaviors that we inherited from the past, but that have become our norm: our operating system.

Understanding and applying the Universal Laws is part of our guidance to do so. So is understanding our existence as a whole and our connection to the cosmos. (I explain these concepts more fully in chapter 8, “Science” in Your Journey to Peace, Bridging the Gap Between Religion, Spirituality, Psychology, and Science.

The separation we thought we had brought about by doing-it-on-our-own is the first illusion we bought into. which lead us to create illusion upon illusion – until conditional love and separate agendas became the only truths we knew. They actually became our survival tools.

Over time, many, many concepts have been deemed Universal Laws, as with the ancient Hermetic Laws. Other philosophies, like A Course in Miracles, puts forth concepts like Cause and Effect, but do not call them laws. Linda Dillon suggests 13 Universal Laws, some similar to, and others different than mine.

Here is a small recap of the six Universal Laws I write about. The six I chose to focus on were relevant to the self-help, self-understanding parts of my writing. (Links to the posts on the individual Universal Laws I write about are below.

My Six Universal Laws

First, the Law of Openness denotes that we have to be in a state of receptivity to be able to fully access the love, joy, sense of unity and empowerment, and the other gifts available to us from the Universe.

Second, the Law of Authenticity indicates that we need to come from an honest place within ourselves. We must be aware of our intentions, motivations, and default ways of being.

Third, the well-known Law of Attraction confirms that we are vibration and maintains the principles that “like attracts like” and that “we are the creator of our own realities.”

Fourth, the Law of Cause and Effect clarifies that we are the cause of our experiences – not at the effect of the world around us, as until recently we believed we were.

Fifth, the Law of Balance suggests that we should strive to live in a way that promotes a sense of equilibrium in our lives and harmony in our beings. To do so, we have to make peace with all parts of ourselves, as well as the world around us.

And finally, the Law of Expansion comes into play in our lives once the other laws are well integrated into our beings, whereby the exponential function allows us to take a sharp upward turn and expand into all that we can be.

(This 8th and final article is from a series of 8  on Universal Laws that was first published in the Starlit Path Magazine from March 2018 to December 2019. Here is the link to the magazine). Links to other 7 articles below.  

© Rosemary McCarthy, from Dec 2019, updated May 12th, 2020

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Link to posts on Universal Laws (some are long, so are broken up into  more than 1 post)

Link to full post on Part 1/8 – Understanding Universal Law HERE

Link to Part 2/8 – Universal Law of Openness HERE

Link to Part 3/8 – Law of  Authenticity HERE

Link to Part 4/8 – Law of Attraction HERE

Link to Part 5/8 –  Law of Cause And Effect  HERE

Link to Part 6/8 –  Law of Balance HERE

Link to Part 7/8 –  Law of Expansion HERE

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March 2020 Newsletter: Gratitude: In Good and Challenging Times

With all the limitations recently put on us and the uncertainty of what our near – and not so near future holds, I pondered a while to come up with a message this month that was both sensitive and possibly helpful – to hopefully some of my readers.

I believe that assuring we remain grateful for what we do have helps us remain more balanced as we continue to work through all the restrictions put on us and the fears and frustrations many of us are dealing with.

(At the end are links to 2 guided meditations you might find helpful at this time. A recent one by Marianne Williamson to help us weather this challenging time – both physically and emotionally. And one by Louise Hay that focuses on gratitude).

Gratitude: In Good and Challenging Times

A little quote from Rumi, the 13th century Persian poet, expresses the power of gratitude perfectly. Gratitude seeps through any denseness created when we fall prey to low vibration thinking or ways of being and connects us to our heart-space. It bursts through any blocks we inadvertently created – like those caused by worry, fear, blame, anger, etc. that keep us disconnected from our heart-space.

Wear gratitude like a cloak, and it will feed every corner of your life. ~Rumi

Along with joy, freedom, and love, gratitude and appreciation are listed as the highest on Abraham Hicks’s Emotional Guidance Scale (1). And just like love, joy, and all the high-vibration attitudes, appreciation and gratitude send sparks of light, love, and healing to our cells, allowing for mental stability and feelings of physical well-being.

This helps us override as gratitude connects us to our heart-space, we are propelled into higher levels of consciousness. This helps us to override any habitual, negative / unhelpful thought, attitudinal, and behavioral patterns. Worry, fear, anger, blame etc. dissipate, and we see life with more clarity and from a more hopeful – and helpful perspective.

With clarity of vision, what we really need to do not only becomes clearer, it also somehow happens more easily. The cobwebs of worry, fear, anger, blame, and what if’s simply fade away. Clarity of vision is not a small thing – especially in these confusing and challenging times.

Gratitude does not come that easily to many of us, but there is much we can do to help bring feelings of gratitude and appreciation into our every-day life.

Cultivating Gratitude

To read the full message see here

Meditations

Louise Hay’s Gratitude Meditation is useful any time of the day. See Here

Marianne Williamson’s recent meditation aims to help us physically and emotionally in these challenging days by 1) infusing our bodies with protective and healing light; 2) waylay any fears we may hold about all that is happening regarding the corona virus. See Here 

 ~  Rosemary McCarthy©,  April  16, 2020.

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Relationships: Expectations and Conditional Love 3/3

Deep within us, we hold a distant memory of the unconditional love we once held—a memory from our beginnings, which we all still long for.

For Part 1 see here           Part 2   here

Most of Humanity’s history has been based on conditional love. And because of the limitations conditional love put on our hearts and psyches, conditional love became the norm – to such an extent that we have very little recollection of unconditional love.

As conditional love perpetrated throughout the ages and generations, it has manifested within our families, community support systems, and even in our religions.

Conditional love has also created conflicting messages within us because while people often extol the virtues of love, they do not always uphold them.

We tell our children we love them or want what is best for them; however, this is often influenced by our limited perspectives based on our narrow perceptions, or we unconsciously inflict our neediness or Perceived Needs onto them.

This article/blog post is based on concepts in my books,

Your Journey to Peace ... and my upcoming  Relationships in an Evolving World.

About Journey … Here    About RelationshipsHere )

And we have been told that God loves us but also that he is vengeful. So, our psyches have thereby become riddled with conflicts about love. And conflicting messages about love keep us confused about love.

Confusion about love—what unconditional love is;

How to give it—How to receive it,

Is why our relationships are so difficult.

When we are being negative in any way or closed off; when we are angry, judgmental, despondent, pessimistic etc.; or when we are needy, we are distanced from universal flow, and by default we are stuck within the restrictions of our human limitations. Our power-base is weak and feelings of unconditional love are almost inaccessible.

Unvoiced or Misunderstood Expectation Create many of Our Conflicts with Others

Neediness is one of the main sources of relationship issues. Neediness creates expectations. When someone does not provide what we expect or something we had hoped for does not happen, we are disappointed, hurt, depressed, or angry, and we react involuntarily.

We often give with expectations of reciprocity and appreciation. Sometimes this is conscious and we expect tit-for-tat, but often we unconsciously expect certain outcomes, but in either case we are hurt when they are not met. We are not coming from a place of unconditional love.

When our expectations are not met, we may feel that we are being taken advantage of, or, we come to believe that life is not fair.

We might blame the other person for our frustrations causing conflict in the relationship as most often we have not even voiced our expectations, so our hurt feelings seem to come out of the blue with the other the receiver of an unexpected onslaught of emotions.

We will still feel justified by our reactions—purely because we feel bad, however, we gave with presumptions—presumptions that the other person had no idea about. We live so much in our inner world that it seems alive—obvious. But it is not.

Others do not know what is going on in our minds, what our emotional world holds, and what presumptions and expectations we have, unless we voice them.

And often we do not voice them—simply because they are not even obvious to us. They are just below the surface of our conscious mind whirling around in our Emotional Body looking to be satisfied.

 ~  Rosemary McCarthy©,  March 16, 2020.

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