It’s Not Me–It’s You. It’s Not You–It’s Me. It’s Both. It’s Neither – Newsletter October 2021

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When we come from a place of It’s Not Me – It’s You, we project our fears and feelings onto the other.

Ultimately, we are all responsible for the feelings that arise in us. Projecting our feelings back at the other is an attempt to deflect owning our feelings. And rather than get angry, defensive, or blame the other – it is more productive to respond calmly. 

When we come from a place of It’s Not You – It’s Me, we internalize how the other made us feel.

We are also responsible for any feelings we internalize, bury, and hide from the other. And rather than allowing our emotions to stew and later erupt or morph into passive-aggressive attitudes or behaviors, it is more productive to speak up calmly – but confidently.

Later, we can look to understand why we allow another to make us feel bad and how we allow them to treat us in the way they do. (Sign-Up  to receive my Free Monthly Newsletter where I cover a variety of subjects related to our personal development).

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Whether we project or internalize, we take personally what the other said, did, didn’t say, didn’t do, or how they reacted or didn’t react. Don’t take things personally is one of the four agreements from … 

 The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz – My Recommended Book of the Month

When People Disagree or One Feels Hurt, or Gets Disappointed or Disillusioned

🔹It’s Both of Us: because when issues arise, both are coming from a place of misalignment from love. One is unaware that they are feeling bad because of their misalignment; the other is unaware that they are behaving in hurtful ways that stem from their misalignment.

And …

🔹It’s Neither of Us: Our true reality is that we are love. However, we are disconnected from that love. So, when issues arise, both are coming from a place of misalignment from that love – unaware that they are simply feeling bad or acting out from that place of misalignment.

With this understanding that It Is Both of Us – and – It Is Neither of Us – and knowing that each is unaware that they are feeling or reacting from this place of misalignment, it is easier to understand and forgive how the other is showing up.

To shift from It’s Not Me–It’s You – or – It’s Not You–It’s Me” – to – “It’s Both – It’s Neither” we must …

🔹 Come from a place of honesty and authenticity within ourselves

🔹 Bring the qualities of love – calmness, compassion, understanding, forgiveness, acceptance, and harmony to the other.

And to get there, it helps to …

🔹 Remember that we are all somewhat misaligned from our true reality – from the love we are at our core

🔹 Recognize that you cannot always feel love and are therefore not always able to come from a place of love

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🔹 Rather than hide or deflect your thoughts and feelings, allow them to arise honestly within yourself. And if need be …

🔹 Express how you feel – honestly and calmly to the other – without blame or judgment

🔹Aim to consciously bring the qualities of love to your dealings with others.

If our default is to blame, judge, or react aggressively or be overly passive (being overly-passive is not loving ourselves), making the shift to being loving to ourselves and others takes time and practice.

A trick I learned when I studied A Course in Miracles that helped me overcome my default and make conscious shifts to come from a place of love was to ask myself: What Would Love Do?

A Course in Miracles is a profound self-study that guides us to see others and life from a place of love. We learn to respond calmly and with fairness, compassion, and acceptance – rather than from the ego’s fear-based thought system with its propensity to blame, judge, and defend. (You can read my associated post, What Would Love Do? by clicking on the above link).

We Are All Somewhat Misaligned from Love – from Our True Reality

 Most of us were not taught that we are misaligned from our essence – from love. It was on my journey of personal development that I learned that it is this misalignment that causes us to act and react in unloving ways – towards ourselves and others.

We are not bad – or wrong. We may act badly, hurt others, or do wrong things,

but we are not bad or wrong at our core. We can repair, but we should never feel ashamed.

We inherited these hurtful and defensive ways of being from eons past.

I learned that once, whether on earth, in another form, or before the big bang, we were “at one with God”– connected to love. At some point, a separation occurred. We became disconnected from that part of ourselves where we were in complete connection to love and automatically expressed love outwards – to everything and everyone.

This disconnect shifted our approach from one of love to one of fear. We went from a me-and-you way of navigating life to one of me-versus-you.

Our connection to love gave us a solid power base that allowed us to express the qualities of love easily – without limitations. We felt empowered.

Fear robbed us of our solid power base. We were disconnected, and we felt disempowered.  As this fear-based way of approaching life played out, fear’s qualities like judgment, blame, anger, shame, greed, competitiveness, protectiveness, defensiveness, small-mindedness, etc.., took hold.

Survival became our main raison d’être, and we pitted ourselves against one another. We were unaware that we were all (perpetrators and victims) influenced by inherited ways from past generations. My quote of the month is from my book, Why We Are the Way We Are

You Cannot Overcome What You Are Unaware of and Unwilling to Look At

Humanity became trapped in these fear-based ways of approaching life, passed on from civilization to civilization. From generation to generation! They became anchored into our DNA – to the point that we were no longer aware that we were living life from an unnatural mindset.

It is Humanity’s evolutionary time to shift out of this mindset and its fear-based ways of being. And it is happening!

As a society, we didn’t know – or were afraid to face that we were holding onto old, outdated ways of being. Society’s tentacles are complex and have a very long reach. Change is scary! The unknown is scary.

As individuals, we haven’t known – or were afraid to face that we were holding onto old, outdated ways of being. Until recently, we didn’t realize that we should – or could change the ways of being and navigating life that we grew up with.

It is scary to look within to our attitudes, thought processes, and behavior patterns – to open the door to realizing that we may have thought or acted in unhelpful and hurtful ways.

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Our thought processes and default ways of being are nothing to be ashamed of. We now know that we inherited unhelpful and disempowering ways of being from our past. It is not our fault that we internalize our feelings and feel hurt. Or that we project our feelings and act badly towards others.

This knowledge gives us the assurance that we can look at our default ways of being – without fear or shame. so that we can shift from … It’s Not Me–It’s You / It’s Not You–It’s Me – to – It’s Both / It’s Neither …  because …

… when issues arise, both of us are coming from a place of misalignment from love – inherited from our pasts – and unaware that we are simply feeling bad or acting badly from that place of misalignment.

I wish you a beautiful rest of the Fall.  Stay safe, and warm💛🤎🧡

©Rosemary McCarthy, October 25, 2021.

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Staying Calm, Keeping Balanced, Allowing for Reflection

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As we start to get back into the swing of Fall activities (at least those of us in the Northern hemisphere are), let us remember to not get so caught up in all the various commitments and/or responsibilities that come along with this time of the year that we become stressed, and forget how uplifting feeling relaxed and “just being” is

Even though we have been forced to slow down this past year and a half and we may have had more time than usual to be reflective, modern life often leads us to ignore the reflective and feeling parts of ourselves.

To be happy and feel good we need to attend to our body, mind, emotions, and spiritual connection. To the subtler parts of our existence.

Humanity’s history has been based on false realities. Of separate motivations grounded in fear, greed, competition – on me-against-you.

Fighting for our survival became paramount in our existence. We were reactive, rather than responsive.

Although today most of us do not have to fight for our physical survival, we have translated this survival mode to one of business – of getting ahead.

And we have maintained the competitiveness and reactive states of that survival mode.

Rather than responding calmly and only addressing what is currently happening, many of us react to others and situations aggressively – often bringing in past issues or unaddressed emotions from our past.

Our business, competitiveness, focus on getting ahead, and our reactive states have left no room to connect to our subtler and reflective natures.

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When the reflective and feeling parts of ourselves are disregarded, we lead unbalanced lives. We have become disconnected from the subtleties of our True Self.

This can cause us to be discompassionate. Selfish. Unable to see how our attitudes and behaviors affect those around us.

An unbalanced life will derail us from what will ultimately make us happy. It undermines our peace and happiness, and the stress it creates hurts those around us and causes creates conflicts in our relationships. And we are usually in denial that we are behaving in ways that hurt us or those around us.

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One example is workaholics, who spend all their time focusing on success, money, and/or power and leave no time for relaxation, family life, or spiritual growth.

Workaholics are usually unaware or in denial of the consequence of their single-mindedness on themselves and the effects of their pursuits on others.

Or, they may have their eyes wide open and simply not care about anything or anybody else at this point in their lives, which is of course their own choice. They just may have to face the consequences – at one time or another.

Staying Calm, Keeping Balanced, Allowing for Reflection

Another example is people who are caught up in business – either to avoid their problems or emotions or simply because being busy has become a habit.

Either way, it is the unconscious driving forces from Humanity’s and our personal past histories that create a distorted picture of reality causing us to allow for imbalances in our lives.

And with all we have been through lately, we may have defaulted to state – even if we had led more or less balanced lives before.

We are now starting to understand that:

💥Staying balanced within ourselves is a vital part of our mental – and physical health.

This is usually related to health, family life, career, or our happiness and ability to connect to the subtleties in life. To feel joy. To feel peaceful. We need to ask ourselves whether or not our life choices and decisions will bring us peace of mind, contentment, and ultimately make us happy.

Most of us have at least – at one time or another gotten caught up in the business of life and feeling the necessity of being in competition with others.

💥Being compassionate and fair towards others is also part of our mental – and thereby our physical health.

We do not have to be greedy or in competition with others. These bring down our being and cause fractures in our connection to Universal flow.

We now know that there is enough love, success, and material goods to go around – for us and everyone – and that the Universe operates under the principle of abundance.

However, to be open to the universal gifts offered we have to maintain a strong connection to Universal flow. This connection is weakened when we are unbalanced.

When we live unbalanced lives the important things that ultimately fulfill us suffer. 

In his transformative healing sessions, Gerry Clow reminds us that as a society we have tipped the scales way off-center as we have replaced the subtler aspects of life with the harsher ones:

“Most of our lives we are reactive, rather than reflective. We spend our time searching, not sourcing; looking, not listening; finding, but not feeling. We involve ourselves in life, forgetting often how to evolve ourselves in life, not realizing it’s essential – and healthy – to be on both pathways at the same time.” (1)

We inherited these attitudes. But we now know how destructive they are to our personal happiness and spiritual growth.

Staying Calm, Keeping Balanced, Allowing for Reflection

As we continue through hopefully what will be the last stretch of the restrictions put upon us, let’s use any quiet time that could be seen as a negative and turn it into a positive by Staying Calm, Keeping Balanced, and Allowing for Reflection so that we come out of this stronger than when we entered this crazy time.

Companion Post: Expressing Ourselves: to Avoid Depression, Dysfunctions, and Lashing Out at Others. This is the message of my August newsletter (the link to join is below)

Companion Post: Journaling: A Path to Peace, Happiness, and Harmonious Relationships

1) Gerry Clow, RPP, RCST www.handclow2012.com (2014). http://handclow2012.com/transformative-healing/(2018).

© Rosemary McCarthy September 2019, updated September 16, 2021.

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Practices, Relaxing/Healing Music, Meditations, Qi Gong, Etc.

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Practices, Relaxing/Healing Music, Meditations, Qi Gong, etc.

There is much available today to help us shift to feeling happier, more relaxed and peaceful, be more loving, and empowered

in life so that we make good, solid decisions and choices that bring us long-term happiness. Here are a few that have helped me 

PRACTICES

My Breathwork Practice (to help relieve stress, anxiety, fatigue, depression, apathy, etc.).

Daily breathwork helps keeps stress away, and allows us to tap into peaceful feelings more easily. When done regularly our being remembers it, and peaceful feelings return more quickly.

Our in-breaths invite in life. Our out-breaths expel stress/fatigue/depression, etc.

Do for 2 -5 minutes for a quick pick-me up. For 15-20 minutes to overcome a stressful situation.

To begin, always invite in your Best Self, Higher Self, Spirit, or your preferred Deity.

 Breathe in from the bottom of your belly all the way up to the top or your head.

Breathe IN slowly and deeply for 3 seconds.     Breathe OUT slowly and fully for 5 seconds.

Follow the in-and-out-breaths with your mind – or even your hands.

Allow the breaths to calm you … or energize you.

Repeat until you feel calmer, more relaxed, centered, or energized.

This little Practice is from my October 2020 Newsletter message, The Value of Deep Breathing, You can find this one and my past messages HERE – where you can also Sign-up to receive my Newsletter messages.

©Rosemary McCarthy, October 2o, 2020.

MEDITATIONS

From Melanie Beckler

8-Minute Morning Meditation, October 20, 2020 HERE

Embody Your Higher Self: Access your Inner Love and Self-Mastery, 7 minutes, With Archangel Michael,  See HERE  

Blockage Removal: Accessing Light Codes, 17 minutes: HERE

Emergency Call Meditation, 12 minutes. (Use for specific concerns, like health, finances, issues with others – whatever we are concerned about or want help with  HERE

From Eckhart Tolle

Presence group mediation, 30 minutes (Watch him during video – only close eyes at end when he says to. Seeing him brings an energy I felt it: HERE

HEALING/RELAXING MUSIC

Healing Music, 3 hours. HERE  

Spiritual Awakening Music – from Spirit Tribe Awakening. 3 hours. HERE (They have many on their site

Qi Gong,

Marisa’s – 17 minute guided practice HERE:

I hope these are helpful to you.

I will update this list as I find new ones that have been helpful to me.

Blessings and stay safe and well.

Rosemary🙏🌈🧡

Newsletter August 2020 – Like Squirrels, Storing Up Our Happiness/Contentment Quotient

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Habits and practices that keep our emotional and mental bodies healthy and balanced build up our emotional/spiritual muscles. This gives us the inner strength to deal with the ups and downs life throws at us – and in a calm and functional way.

This newsletter theme was inspired by my realization that with the Fall and Winter looming, I will be spending less time outdoors, and unable to reap all the benefits the summer has brought with it. Simply being outdoors breathing in fresh air invigorates us. And this year, the easy breezy feeling summertime brings with it and the many simple things we can do that make us feel good have helped keep our spirits at least somewhat up. Our spiritual muscles have been fed.

However, with the Fall and then the Winter looming we will feel the restrictions more, and so we must ensure that our spiritual muscles – our happiness/contentment quotient remain strong. We must start NOW to further strengthen them so that we can keep our spirits up throughout the next few seasons.

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Our Happiness/Contentment Quotient

When our emotional and mental bodies are healthy and balanced,

our spiritual muscles are strong.

 We are happy, contented, and feel calm and peaceful.

When we have minor upsets that affect our peace and happiness, most of us know what to do to get back to feeling our normal selves, and we usually can do so within a relatively short period of time.

Our emotional and mental bodies have muscle memory – just like with our physical muscles, so as long as we are normally a relatively happy and contented person,  we can usually bounce back quite easily from minor upsets.

Sometimes we deal with minor physical ailments that require a little attention for a short period of time. However, at other times, like with major diseases or injuries that require a long period of recuperation, we must take extra care of our self and ensure we are devoting enough time to the required treatments and protocols. And when we have a heads-up, like with a scheduled operation, we can prepare our body for what is ahead.

Recently, our emotional and mental bodies have taken a BIG hit.

Therefore, we must ensure that we are devoting enough time to keeping

our happiness and contentment muscles strong,

 so that we can deal with anything that may threaten our sense of balance.

Whenever we feel bad, sad, or stressed, it is normal to seek relief. We all feel better when we are happy and contented, and feel at peace. Thus, we seek out what will bring us relief so that we can return to feeling good.

Sometimes, or for some of us anyway, we seek relief from an upset in ways that elevate us. Talking to or being with a cherished friend or our loved ones, taking in shows, videos, or an activity that uplifts us, doing light exercise or practices like Tai Chi or yoga, or simply spending time in nature all increase our sense of well-being. These are all high-vibration activities that elevate our being. And not only do they make us feel good in the moment, they are keeping our mental and emotional bodies strong.

Newsletter August 2020 - Like Squirrels, Storing Up Our Happiness/Contentment Quotient

Turning to Solution that Uplift Us

At other times, and only for some of us, in our attempt to get relief from an upset we may turn to what is basically a band-aid solution. Frantically rushing around in avoidance, turning to food or drink and overindulging, or binging on dramatic shows or videos for hours all may bring us immediate relief. However, as these are all low-vibration activities they bring our being down. Later, we may suffer from physical or mental sluggishness or even exhaustion, so we feel bad again.  Also, these types of coping mechanisms weaken our spiritual muscles.

I believe most of you receiving this newsletter are in the northern hemisphere and have been enjoying being outside throughout the summer in the fresh air and have usually been able to find quiet spots void of crowds. When outdoors its pretty easy to social distance, and so this has been our savior as most of our usual social activities have been curtailed.

The fall approaches, and then winter follows. We will no longer be able to benefit from being outdoors as much, and so we must ensure our spiritual muscle is extra strong so that we remain in the best frame of mind possible. We can start preparing NOW, so that we get through the confines that will shortly be upon us – without too much emotional upheaval.

When upsets happen, as they inevitably will,

 we must turn to coping mechanisms that uplift us in the long run.

We cannot afford to turn to those that will ultimately deflate us further.

Let’s start practicing good, healthy coping mechanisms NOW. The more we do this, the faster it becomes second nature, allowing us to grow super strong spiritual muscles.

Most of us have found some happiness and contentment in our lives. We know what it feels like. So does our inner being. So, let’s ensure that whatever we are doing we are seeking to tap into that well of good feelings. If it doesn’t arise naturally, it is just below the surface of our awareness, and we can access it by consciously doing or focusing on what will brings it up.

Like little squirrels, let’s prepare for colder weather. Start gathering up your happiness and contentment quotient NOW. If you feel down or are upset for any reason, ensure you turn to what uplifts you – rather than turning to band-aid solutions that may seem satisfying and/or easier, but that ultimately won’t serve you best.

We can prepare and lay a good foundation by,

  • Looking into, or stocking up on, books that will make you smile, laugh, excite you, or simply make you feel good. Or, if your preference is movies or shows, look into those that are uplifting and find out where you can view them.
  • Look into online dance, music, exercise, yoga, comedy, cooking classes, or any other type of group activity that will fulfill you.
  • Listen to soothing music. (There are a few links below).
  • Start a regular spiritual practice if you don’t have one, be it yoga, Tai Chi, drumming, or one of the many guided meditations. (I have listed a few below with links).
  • Up your regular spiritual practice – either by length, quality, or number of times a day. (I have done this throughout this challenging time and it really has helped me stay somewhat sane).
  • Listen to Healing Music, like Tibetan or Crystal Bowl healing. There are many on YouTube. (I have listed a few below).
  • School yourself on online aids like Zoom to help you connect regularly with others.
  • Look into a new hobby you might want to finally embrace.

Newsletter August 2020 - Like Squirrels, Storing Up Our Happiness/Contentment Quotient

We need to gather up all the necessary good vibs into our being so that our spiritual muscles are strong enough to ensure that throughout the winter we embrace coping mechanisms that uplift us – rather than deflate us. We need to keep our happiness and contentment quotient strong to weather the winter, and rise up to any challenge set for us.

My wish is that we all go through these next seasons with ease and grace, feeling contentment, happiness, love, and joy throughout the days, and able to conjure these up whenever they don’t come easily or naturally.

In the meantime, let’s take full advantage of the warm weather and beauty Fall brings with us, and pray we have a nice winter.

With love and warm thoughts,

Rosemary🌷

Rosemary McCarthy© August 20, 2020.

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Links to Relaxing/Healing Music and Meditations:

Healing Music, 3 hours. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=go99WqXWGgk

Spiritual Awakening Music – from Spirit Tribe Awakening 3 hours. (They have many on their site https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cNUVZ230g_0

Soothing Music for Meditation XXX hrs?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-524S-MCR5Q

Melanie Beckler. Here are a few recent meditations I have used:

Blockage Removal: Accessing Light Codes, 17 minutes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G0SvNEWlaEw

 

Emergency Call Meditation 12 minutes. Use for specific concerns, like health, finances, issues with others – whatever we are concerned about or want help with: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VGVLIP7ETf0

Eckhart Tolle

Presence group mediation, 30 minutes (Watch him during video – only close eyes at end when he says to. Seeing him brings an energy I felt it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hyvZ0XRAEcA

Marisa

Chi Gong, 17 minutes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nmmNWj9YtAw

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

June 2020 Newsletter: We Can Always Dig Deeper

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We Can Always Dig Deeper 

We are now all digging deeper than we thought we ever could

as we deal with, and come to terms with, what is happening to our lives.

This is a lesson that we should remember.

(This is the theme of my June 2020 newsletter message. Sign-up information is at end of post)

I am sure we are all looking forward to the day when we can be spontaneous and spread our wings again without fear – like we used to. But for now, our wings have been clipped because of the many limitations put upon us – just so that we can be safe. It’s unnatural, unsettling, and has created much upheaval in our lives.

If asked a year ago if we thought we would be able to handle the various challenges, disappointments, and the changes now thrust upon us it, we probably would have said NO, NOT AT ALL.  But we are – at least to some degree – and as best we can.

We may hate it all, want it all to be over, sometimes get angry, and/or are fearful about the future, but still, we are dealing with it – and all of us in our own ways, simply because we have no choice.

,All my writings are based in concepts from my books

“Your Journey to Peace … “ About Book  here 

and “Why We Are the Way We Are”  About Book  here

(Book cover images below)

A few cute posts went around Facebook recently that went something like, “when asked in 2015 where you think you would be in 5 years from now, NO ONE would have gotten it right about what we are experiencing;” another one I saw said something like, “I KNOW I didn’t pray for, make a request to the Universe, or consciously manifest this.”

However, this has happened, and we are dealing with it – in different ways, to various degrees, and some days probably better than other days.

We have all had to dig in our heels and dig deeper for compassion, understanding – and patience, again, simply because we have no choice: it is our best option.

Digging deeper than we thought we ever could,

and dealing with, and coming to terms with, what is happening,

is a lesson that we should remember.

 Most of us would likely never have thought that we could manage the loss of spontaneity. With the isolation. Of not being able to regularly see, or hug, our loved ones. That we would be willing to adhere to social distancing. Get along without social functions. Of having to line up for groceries and necessities. With having to constantly disinfect everything. To wear, or see most others, with masks on. When looking down from above, it might look like a war zone or sci-fi movie here. It kind of is. And it is hard.

But we will get through it all. And hopefully for most of us, only mildly scathed. And for many of us, we will have a newfound appreciation for the small things in life, like spending quality time with friends and our loved ones in the simplest of ways. Eventually we will find a new normal in our lives, and we will be able to be spontaneous and spread our wings again without fear.

Our ability to dig deeper is a lesson we should remember and

bring forward with us when we are through all of this

to use in the future when any kind of disruption in our life occurs, or

fear about what is happening, or may happen, arises.

Because, We Now Know that We Can Always Dig Deeper!

©Rosemary McCarthy, June 24, 2020.

Stay safe, stay well, enjoy the beautiful weather, and I wish you as much joy and ease of life as possible while still staying safe and well. 🙏🌞🌈

Rosemary ❤️

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March 2020 Newsletter: Gratitude: In Good and Challenging Times

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With all the limitations recently put on us and the uncertainty of what our near – and not so near future holds, I pondered a while to come up with a message this month that was both sensitive and possibly helpful – to hopefully some of my readers.

I believe that assuring we remain grateful for what we do have helps us remain more balanced as we continue to work through all the restrictions put on us and the fears and frustrations many of us are dealing with.

(At the end are links to 2 guided meditations you might find helpful at this time. A recent one by Marianne Williamson to help us weather this challenging time – both physically and emotionally. And one by Louise Hay that focuses on gratitude).

Gratitude: In Good and Challenging Times

A little quote from Rumi, the 13th century Persian poet, expresses the power of gratitude perfectly. Gratitude seeps through any denseness created when we fall prey to low vibration thinking or ways of being and connects us to our heart-space. It bursts through any blocks we inadvertently created – like those caused by worry, fear, blame, anger, etc. that keep us disconnected from our heart-space.

Wear gratitude like a cloak, and it will feed every corner of your life. ~Rumi

Along with joy, freedom, and love, gratitude and appreciation are listed as the highest on Abraham Hicks’s Emotional Guidance Scale (1). And just like love, joy, and all the high-vibration attitudes, appreciation and gratitude send sparks of light, love, and healing to our cells, allowing for mental stability and feelings of physical well-being.

This helps us override as gratitude connects us to our heart-space, we are propelled into higher levels of consciousness. This helps us to override any habitual, negative / unhelpful thought, attitudinal, and behavioral patterns. Worry, fear, anger, blame etc. dissipate, and we see life with more clarity and from a more hopeful – and helpful perspective.

With clarity of vision, what we really need to do not only becomes clearer, it also somehow happens more easily. The cobwebs of worry, fear, anger, blame, and what if’s simply fade away. Clarity of vision is not a small thing – especially in these confusing and challenging times.

Gratitude does not come that easily to many of us, but there is much we can do to help bring feelings of gratitude and appreciation into our every-day life.

Cultivating Gratitude

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Meditations

Louise Hay’s Gratitude Meditation is useful any time of the day. See Here

Marianne Williamson’s recent meditation aims to help us physically and emotionally in these challenging days by 1) infusing our bodies with protective and healing light; 2) waylay any fears we may hold about all that is happening regarding the corona virus. See Here 

 ~  Rosemary McCarthy©,  April  16, 2020.

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Newsletter February 2020 “Putting Heart and Love into All We Do”

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❤️Putting Heart and Love into All We Do

Bringing heart and love to all we do
and to all our interactions
increases the love vibe in our heart –
even if the task is menial or the other is unloving.

This article and the above quote came about as the old idea of the “mother lovingly cooking supper for her family” recently came across my awareness. I had always brushed this idea off as silly or inconsequential, but as the thought entered my mind this time so did the connection it had to what we are all now encouraged to do – to bring heart and love into all we do. Of course, today, we would modernize that idea to include all who cook (or do any tasks) for their loved ones: father, aunt, brother, sister, etc.

It seems that many of the sayings of our parents and grandparents, like “don’t waste,” “don’t abuse or misuse,” and “don’t be greedy” were wise words to live by – although at the time we weren’t (or at least I wasn’t) given reasons of why we should follow these guidelines. These were wise principles to live by, as we now see the repercussions of the waste, misuse, greediness, and abuse modern society has fallen prey to.

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With our newfound understanding of energy, vibration, and the Universal Laws of Attraction and Cause and Effect, we now realize that all our thoughts, intentions, and actions – and the energy we bring to whatever we say or do impacts how we feel, how life plays out for us, and how it affects others.

Energy and vibration are not tangible – not in a way that we can see, but in a feeling way they do affect everything. We cannot see love. We cannot see hate. But we can feel them. We can feel others’ energy outputs.

When we walk into a room where people are having fun and being light-hearted, we feel the light-hearted energy. And when we walk into a room where people are serious or arguing, we can feel the energy of that too.

So, as we go about our daily life, let’s bring heart, love, and light-heartedness to all we do. Even when doing tasks that require the brain and concentration, like surgery, accounting, driving, etc., we can still start these with a heart-felt intention – to bring the best to the task at hand.

The Value in Bringing Loving Feelings to All We Do

When we bring loving attention to any task our heart expands.

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With heartfelt love, and blessings I wish you all many expressions of love throughout the rest of February

Rosemary ❤️

©Rosemary McCarthy, February 22, 2020.

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Relationships: Partnering Up Consciously – Separating Consciously 2/3

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The more we evolve, the more we will be able to easily trust that our hearts are showing us a true picture when choosing a spouse or life-partner (or even friends or a business partner).

(Link to Part 1,  As We Continue to Evolve All Our Relationships Will Improve found here

We will no longer need to be so wary of our unconscious influences luring us into chaotic situations or have to be so vigilant at continuously examining our emotions, desires, or motives.

Nor will we have to be so cautious of others’ motives. As we will be working at higher vibration capacities, our radars will be well attuned to the vibrations of others and if something is off we will cue into it quickly.

The greater our connection to our True Self the more we feel guided towards partners based on true soul parings where we encourage each other to be the best we can be.

This article is based on  Ch 5, “Relationships” in my book, Your Journey to Peace …  About Book here

And because our strength and self-confidence comes from within, we are not invested in changing our partner or making them acquiesce to our desires.

We also understand that our partner gets his or her strength and guidance from their True Self, and if that guidance is calling them to move on from the relationship we will not be so inclined towards drama, anger, revenge, or the plethora of negative responses breaking up has caused in the past.

As we continue to evolve, choosing our spouses and life-partners consciously will st rt to become the norm.

Separating Consciously Will Also Start to Become the Norm

In our most recent history an intact family provided the foundations we needed to grow emotionally healthy, and when divorce or separations occurred, even if the family life was not perfect, the children felt like the rug was being pulled out from under them.

The sense of security children feel when a family is intact and they are surrounded by at least some love and caring echoes God’s unconditional love for us.

When a family breaks up, the sense of loss is somewhat due to changed circumstances, but much of it is due to the drama and emotions surrounding how most separations and divorces are dealt with – at  least how they have been in the past.

When there is  drama, conflict, blame, revenge and the many negative  attitudes and behaviors that often come about in the midst of divorce or separation, that sense of love and security is eroded. Even when a family is not perfect and there is some conflict, an intact family still offers a sense of security to the children.

As we become more evolved individually and are more closely connected to our True Selves, our separations will occur without the dire effects that has been so common and fueled by hurt, anger, rage, revenge, and blame.

We are already encouraging our children to look into their hearts and trust their inner guidance, and so their connection to their True Self is stronger than in past generations. This gives them an inner-strength that follows them everywhere.

 

As couples are inspired to separate or divorce with integrity, they will honor the promises made and will be able to agree on shared child rearing duties, day-to-day obligations, and fair distribution of finances.

The children will then be much less inclined to internalize the effects of the break-up and succumb to dysfunctional attitudes or behaviors, or pass on the effects of unresolved issues regarding their parents’ separation onto their own children.

This blog post is a continuation of Part 1,  As We Continue to Evolve All Our Relationships Will Improve. Found HERE  

 ~ Rosemary McCarthy© February 11, 2020.

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As We Evolve – ALL Our Relationships Will Improve (1/3)

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Relationships are the vehicle that best allow us work out our issues.

Our pains and fears. Our neediness. Our aggression. Our protective devices. 

Where we most play out our reactionary styles.

This is especially true in our familial relationships – especially our significant others.

 

This is a quote from Your Journey to Peace … About Book HERE

Our Couple Relationships

What most of us look for in our intimate relationships is companionship, and for the other to love, help, and support us in life.  In our younger days we may look for the right person to build a family with.  We may also look for a partner to offer us security. And from a human perspective this is all fine.

However, from a higher, spiritual perspective, the purpose of all our relationships is for soul growth: to connect more fully to our True Self and the love and sense of empowerment it holds. In fact, all our interactions with others offer us opportunities to come from that place of love – and to offer the qualities of love to others.  (Qualities of love explained in book).

Our relationships are the best vehicle to work through our unprocessed hurts and pains from our past, because the intimacy required and day-to-day life our differing personalities, ways of approaching life, and the various persons’s protective strategies often clash. Unconscious influences, like neediness, defensiveness, controlling tendencies, etc. then naturally arise.

Our couple relationships often hold expectations that often cannot be met. Our communication skills are often weak. With presumed, unvoiced, or misunderstood expectations and poor communication we may have hurt feelings or react badly in frustration. Our unconscious, habitual responses rear their ugly head. Instead of coming from a place of love and understanding conflict ensues.

Our relationships are actually set up to trigger our unconscious influences

by the other pushing our buttons.

This is the reason our relationships are so difficult!

In fact, we hold soul contracts with those closest to us to help us work through the conflicts that naturally arise. Our unconscious influences create  barriers to living from a place of connection to our True Self, and the love and the sense of empowerment it offers us.

To connect more fully to our True Self and the love it holds we must overcome these barriers. From our soul’s perspective, our relationships are created to bring our unconscious influences to the surface for healing.

Issues that come out in our relationships are opportunities to work through our unconscious, habitual and defensive responses we erected as denial and protection mechanisms from our past.

These show up as neediness, greed, and/or unloving or aggressive tendencies. Acknowledging, understanding, and working through our habitual responses is always a good thing, as in doing so we remove the barriers to love.

Removing the barriers to love:

  • We can feel love more easily.
  • We can express love more easily.
  • We are more confident.
  • Feel more empowered.

Coming from a place of love we create harmonious relationships.

We can often even heal conflict-ridden ones. 

With a little self-reflection and the courage to look to understand why we feel, react, and act in certain ways around those close to us, we can heal this disconnect to our True Self.

Our habitual responses are ego / fear based. To connect to our True Self we must be heart based. To feel joy, be happy, feel empowered, and create harmonious relationships we must be heart based.

Working towards healing our relationships is most often recommended. Of course, abusive situations are never to be tolerated.

The Chemistry We Feel With Another Can Have Many Purposes

The chemistry we feel with another is a soul calling. It may guide us towards our life-partner, or not. Sometimes the chemistry people feel with each other does not necessarily have to end in a long, or even short-term relationship.

A heart connection with a strong chemical attraction may be a left-over energetic pull from a past-life association. We may not be meant to act on the connection we feel, and the lesson to learn through the energetic pull we feel towards the other is to rise above the chemistry and use discretion in choosing a partner.

We may have an unfinished lesson to learn with the other and we are only to get together for a time (a reason or a season), for a specific purpose or to learn a lesson, and then move on.

We must always ensure that when entering into a relationship that we will feel loved, safe, and be treated kindly and with compassion so to avoid conflict and drama. Taking the time to get to know someone before becoming emotionally entangled helps avoid drama and hurt feelings.

Relationships create emotional entanglements and the unraveling from those based in neediness or left-over energetic pulls that hold drama usually carry much unpleasantness, emotional pain, and confusing pull-push scenarios.

As We Evolve, ALL Our Relationships Improve

As the effects of this Shift of consciousness Humanity is going through continues to encourage us to find joy, lightness in living, compassion and understanding towards others, and the impetus to overcome any unconscious influence we hold that undermine our self and/or create conflict with others, all aspects of all our relationships will improve.

Current relationships will become healthier, as the conflicts that are rooted in neediness, seriousness, agendas, aggression, control, protective mechanisms etc. will begin to dissolve.

As we start to become more mindful, those of us entering into new relationships will choose our partners more consciously. We will feel empowered enough to seek out people whose character, lifestyle, and values complement and align with ours.

These pairings will have many less conflicts than those based in neediness, controlling tendencies, or any other unconscious influence, but when conflicts do arise they will be resolved with calmness and integrity.

Children will benefit greatly from these attitudes. Many young parents today are already parenting consciously and embrace many of the concepts in Shefali Tsabary’s ground-breaking book, The Conscious Parent.

– Rosemary McCarthy© February 3, 2020.

Part 2 Partnering Up Consciously, Separating Consciously is will be posted next week.

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The Universal Law of Expansion – Part 2/2

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When we evolve to the point that we evoke the Universal Law of Expansion, it not only affects our individual lives, it also affects the collective.

For Part 1 see HERE 

(This is the 7th article in a series of 8 on Universal Laws. More info at end).

Everything that is emitted from us – positive or negative affects the collective. Every thought, intention, word, response, and behavior, holds a vibration. Vibration is fluid. It cannot be contained. It expands out from us. 

When we raise our vibration we raise our consciousness. And when we raise our consciousness to the point that we engage the Law of Expansion, all of the positive vibrations have gone out into the world. So do all the long-term positive effects of our expanded, more loving, and inclusive consciousness.

However, both our individual and collective growths have starts, stops, spurts of growth, spurts of inertia, and the seemingly two-steps-forward and one-step-backward movement. We see this in the world today – and it can be confusing.

This article is based on my writings.

See below for more information on this and my other books – all aimed to better ourselves.

The Law of Expansion and the Collective

There are many stories and legends in ancient history that show how Humanity tried, and failed, in its efforts to overcome the auspices of duality’s hate, greed, control, brutality, etc. Inevitably, the many steps forward were repeatedly followed by more steps back.

Enlightened periods, like the Renaissance and the 1960’s, shone through.  Since the world wars it has seemed that we have been on a positive trajectory with more steps forward than backward. Or, so it seemed until recently.

It may seem that even the Western world is in more chaos than ever with all the hatred aimed at groups of people. The inequality, biases, and abuse of power towards women, minorities, the gay community, the poor and underprivileged etc., may seem more blatant than ever.

However, it was always there, but hidden, and is actually all coming up for healing. Just like with individuals, we can only heal what we are aware of.

We are actually at a pinnacle of our evolution.

It is our cosmic time to wake up – individually and collectively.

To wake up from the false paradigm Humanity fell into eons ago,

which was based on the aspects of fear, instead of the qualities of love.

We unknowingly perpetrated this fear, blaming, controlling, divisive, power-based me-against-you way of being to such an extent that it became our default position – that until very recently, we bought into.

We are now addressing the issues of injustice and inequality this controlling, power-based system that now runs all aspects of society created, and are attempting to move towards healing the various aspects of it and ways that it manifests in the world.

Everywhere we turn people are calling for fairness, justice, and equality for all, especially for the marginalized, for transparency from those in power positions, and reconcilliatory measures for individuals or groups of people whom we allowed, or caused, to become disenfranchised.

It has been a long road to get from the brutality of the past towards the masses to this forward momentum of compassion and fairness for all. Recognizing that Humanity is approaching the sharp turn upward can encourage us when we see or hear of unfairness, inequality, cruelty, or chaos still manifesting in our world.

The Universal Law of Expansion

One day, our individual and collective futures will hold only steps forward!

With every attitude shift away from those based in fear, judgment, and hatred to those based in love, acceptance, and compassion we move in the direction of the exponential function, until finally, we find we expand into the fearless, limitless beings we were meant to be.

(This is the 7th article from a series of 8  on Universal Laws that was first published in the Starlit Path Magazine from March 2018 to December 2019. Here is the link to the magazine). Links to individual articles below).

©Rosemary McCarthy, first published Sept 2019, updated May 2020..

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Links to posts on the other Universal Laws

Link to full post on Part 1/8 – An Intro – Understanding Universal Law HERE

Link to Part 2/8 – Universal Law of Openness HERE

Link to Part 3/8 – Law of  Authenticity HERE

Link to Part 4/8 – Law of Attraction HERE

Link to Part 5/8 –  Law of Cause And Effect  HERE

Link to Part 6/8 –  Law of Balance HERE

Link to Part 7/8 –  Law of Expansion HERE

Link to Part 8/8 – Recap of Universal Laws HERE

 

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