Newsletter – July 2018 – The Magic of Summertime

A Warm Welcome to my July Newsletter and its Theme

“Allowing the Magic of Summertime to Realign Us”

Summer is the perfect time to rediscover – or to discover for the first time – what makes us feel really good. To rebalance ourselves if we have become overworked, overstressed, or being overly busy.

Summertime Encourages Us – Out of Doing – and Into Being 

Our busy lives often cause us to lose track of our priorities. Get booged down in work, commitments, and schedules. This often leaves no time for relaxation. To just be. Able to feel joy.  To baskin the contentment of our lives or what we have accomplished. Tofind awe in all the magical things life has to offer. We often become unbalanced. (See below for link to full message)

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Finding Balance: Reconciling Doing and Being

To feel whole, we must love and respect all parts of ourselves, and part of this is finding the balance between doing and being.

When we are doing we are mostly using our mind our intellect, the left side of our brain  the rational, thinking part.

This left side of the brain with its thought processes and rationality is important. It is sort of a task manager. It organizes. Gets things done.

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Archetypes Act As Conduits to Help Us, and to Strengthen Latent Qualities Within UsOur mind / intellect was intended to be a tool that serves the right side of the brain  where creativity and inspiration come from. To follow through on the ideas that come from the right-brain. However, it has taken front stage. Become more important. Society supports this left-brain way of going about life. Of doing.

We usually have no awareness that our doing is coming from our mind. Often, we simply get trapped in business.

Business lures us away from being in the moment. The subtlety of joy cannot be felt. Inspiration doesn’t get through.

  • When we stay focused on the task at hand – get lost in it – whether a work project or an artistic endeavor we are in our heart-space.
  • When we allow ourselves to become scattered and rush around in the business of what we are doing we often get caught up in any chaos that develops. Our emotions may run amuck. We feel like we are running on empty. These are clues that our mind has taken over.

Being in the moment requires us to be in our heart-space. This is the seat of our soul. Where we get our guidance. Where our inspiration comes from. Being in our heart-space allows us to feel joy.

We can be doing while being, but the doing must be done with reverence. Concentrating on the task at hand. Reveling in it. Finding joy in it. This is how we bring reverence into our every-day lives. For example, playing with the soap bubbles when washing the dishes brings a sense of childlike joy to the job. We are in our heart-space.

Finding Balance: Reconciling Doing and Being

When we do not bring full focus or reverence to our tasks, we are more likely to fall into left-brain mind traps. Mind chatter. Loss of concentration. Scattered unfocussed thoughts. We lose the connection to our heart-space.

Our mind / intellect is supposed to be a tool that follows through on what our inner guidance inspires us to do. However, for most of us our mind / intellect has been running the show  ̶  with the right brain and its creative impulses at the beck and call of the mind.

Gaining control over our emotional landscape will help our mind chatter and unfocused thoughts lessen, allowing creativity and what we were meant to bring about in this life to flow through us.

When we experience a temporary imbalance in our lifestyle, find ourselves worn out and scattered, or lose our ability to feel joy, we should examine what is driving us.

  • Are we so mindlessly involved in the tasks of everyday life that we have no time to appreciate what we have?
  • Completely focused on doing, acquiring, getting ahead, or being successful?
  • Could we be fueled by Unconscious Influences* that drive us?

Are we are always doing – with no time for just being or enjoying the fruits of our successes?

Finding Balance While Growing, Shifting, and Changing

Personal growth causes us to shift and change We start to connect to our True Self. We develop towards becoming our Best Self. While welcoming these necessary changes, we must be cognizant of maintaining balance in our life.

As our life changes, we may take on a new and different endeavor that would require more energetic output. Or, we may become way less busy and not know what to do with ourselves.

Either of these scenarios can cause us to feel off-balance. This is usually temporary. Returning to a state of equilibrium is healthy – emotionally, spiritually, and physically. And it is required to becoming our Best Self.

The optimal point of balance will be different for everyone. Some people go through personal growth and its change effortlessly, others find it difficult and may become unbalanced. Some people will always work hard as it energizes them; others need regular relaxation time to stay energized.

Finding Balance: Reconciling Doing and Being

Finding Balance While Being Open

While opening ourselves up to others and being accepting of them and their attitudes is part of personal growth and understanding, we must ensure that our own energetic bodies are not adversely affected by other peoples’ energetic outputs.

As we evolve and raise our vibrations we are also sensitized energetically. Being around people with negative attitudes or different energetic levels than ours can drain or stress us, and we may begin to feel fatigued, agitated, or energetically flattened.

We are all somewhat misaligned from Source and our True Self. Those of us working on personal growth are addressing this. Many are not. And that is ok.

We are all becoming more conscious at our own pace and on our own timeline. Part of being evolved is understanding this. As is not judging others for where they are on their journey. Still, we have to protect our progress.

As we work through the layers of our emotional world and address any misalignments we may have held, the manifestations of others’ misalignments may actually bother us more than before – just like a smoker who has quit is more sensitive to being around smokers.

So, in our desire to help others we must ensure we do not lose ourselves in their dramas or allow their negative energy to affect us.

Taking the time to investigate the real reason for imbalances in our life can help us avert continuing in a direction that will completely deflate us and ultimately not serve our best interests.

We must remember to:

  • Take time to just be – in the nothingness.
  • Being present in whatever we are doing.
  • Staying in our heart-space. Keeping an open heart.
  • Engage in activities that bring us joy.
  • Keep up the practices we chose to help us along this journey to peace.

We must be cognizant of:

  • The openness necessary for personal growth may invite people into our sphere who drain us energetically.
  • And as we open our heart-space intense passions may arise that cause us to lose our equilibrium.
  • We must be mindful of keeping our energetic balance.

Finding Balance: Reconciling Doing and Being

Society still endorses the mind over the heart – that the right brain and its creativity should be at the beck and call of the mind.

This is changing, but there is much resistance to the heart-space being important as it not yet widely recognized that there is more power and knowledge when we tap into our hearts than in our minds.

The energy that creates universes is held within our hearts. And we tap into this more easily the more we practice just being.

*Unconscious Influences: Thoughts, attitudes, beliefs, and ideas based on past emotional impressions that we unconsciously constructed or appropriated from others. or from past situations. These may have come from our familial, generational, cultural, and/or social backgrounds. These misperceptions are held within our Emotional Bodies and create misperceptions about current situations. They cause us to react inappropriately to situations from neediness, past hurts, or unmet expectations.

~ Rosemary McCarthy© July 12, 2018

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Our Life Matrix

Our perceptions and beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world around us stem from our inherent personalities, filtered through past and current influences: familial, generational, cultural, and social.

The perceptions and beliefs we hold can be based on truths, or they can be false and based on Unconscious Influences* we unknowingly hold. *(definition below).

The tendency to allow false perceptions to be created has its roots in Humanity’s past, which we perpetrated without knowing we were doing so.

All of our conscious and Unconscious Influences work together like threads in a patchwork quilt that link the interweaving patterns of how we deal with life—like a matrix that overlays our lives. I call this our Life Matrix.

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  • Our Life Matrix: Is the lens through which we see and navigate the world. Fueled by our heart beliefs, which come from our conscious and Unconscious Influences, our Life Matrix holds all of our underlying perceptions and misperceptions. It supports what we think we need to be and what we think we need to do to be happy, fulfilled, empowered, and to have harmonious relationships. It upholds all of our perceptions—whether they are real or false.

Our Life Matrix can bring about positive or negative experiences for us. We usually develop a dominant Life Matrix, but since living is an organic ebb and flow of thoughts and emotions, we may vacillate between the positive and negative influences of both forces.

If something causes us to react out of character, our heart beliefs cause us to quickly revert to our normal attitudes.

Our Life Matrix will predispose us to deal with life, others, issues, and situations by denying, procrastinating, responding calmly, or by reacting aggressively or passively.

A Positive Life Matrix

Living under the influence of a positive Life Matrix, we may embody optimism, confidence, and hopefulness. We may feel lucky, be fearless, as well as be accepting of others since a positive outlook and our own self-confidence cause us to be non-judgmental.

Our Life Matrix

We could sometimes succumb to arrogance, impatience, or single-mindedness as our personality dictates, but emotional reactions will generally be composed.

Most of our dealings with others will likely be propelled by responses instead of reactions. And as our general outlook is positive, we will quickly return to positive attitudes should we fall into negative ones.

A positive Life Matrix may temporarily shift to a negative one, but we are usually pulled back as our underlying inner belief system holds a positive approach to life.

The same holds true for a negative Life Matrix. We may have times of positivity, but we generally default to the negative. A negative Life Matrix can be shifted more permanently to the positive, albeit with a sincere and conscious effort.

A Negative Life Matrix

If we are living under the influence of a negative Life Matrix, we are often needy. We may tend to be pessimistic, hesitant, doubtful, and feel disadvantaged.

As these attitudes do not invite in desired results we are often frustrated. We blame others for our failures. We may act with aggression, timidity, or passive-aggressiveness, or, vacillate between these ways of dealing with our frustrations.

When we do evoke positive feelings they are usually undermined, as our negative heart beliefs eventually pull us back under their influence.

We may hold a volatile emotional component and will be overtly reactive—instead of being responsive to situations and taking them at face value and without making it all about us and our neediness and/or emotions.

Or, we may respond with seeming passivity, but are internalizing our angers or frustrations keeping our inner world in turmoil. This becomes a vicious cycle, as inner turmoil invites in more of the same.

Our emotional state is very important because it defines who we are now being, which influences what our future holds.

Our Life Matrix

It has only been in the last century or so that psychologists have been able to connect the dots between our Unconscious Influences. and how we experience life.

We often feel that we do not experience enough love in our lives; however, our capacity to truly feel love and to love others is in direct relationship to what is held in our Life Matrix.

Working to create a positive Life Matrix creates self-love and brings love into our life.

Whether from our conscious or unconscious minds, every thought, word, belief, attitude, and action emit a vibration.

To become the cause of our experiences and the creator of our realities—instead of at the effect of negative Unconscious Influences, we must be cognizant of the vibrations we are emitting.

The conscious and unconscious beliefs and life philosophies within our Life Matrix govern everything we think, say, and do and thereby what we invite into our life.

The lens through which we view others and the world around us is how the world will show up for us. We become what we think we are, and we create based on what is held in our Life Matrix.

  • *Our Unconscious Influences: Our thoughts, attitudes, beliefs, and ideas based on past emotional impressions that we unconsciously constructed or appropriated from others, or from past situations. These may have created true positive perceptions about ourselves, others, situations, or the world around us. Or, they may have created negative false misperceptions that have us see ourselves and others through false lenses of separation and division.

 ~  Rosemary McCarthy©, July 4, 2018

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Self Forgiveness is Paramount to becoming Our Best Selves

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Forgiving ourselves is vital to becoming our Best Self. No matter what “bad things” we have thought, believed, supported, done, or not done, time we have wasted, money we have squandered, or any addictions we have succumbed to, we can turn our life around and rise above what has held us in negative attitudes or patterns hurting our self or others.

To do so we must embrace the concept of unconditional love for ourselves. The Universe (God, Spirit, Source, or whatever we call the creative universal power) offers us only unconditional love, and within that premise is complete forgiveness.

The understanding is that we only ever hurt our self, others, or act badly because we are disconnected from the love within our True Self, and are thereby misaligned from universal understanding.

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Even though at our core we are pure love, being distanced from our True Self and disconnected from the unconditional love within it we are not attuned to the nuances of compassion, understanding, and forgiveness it holds – for our self and towards others.

Detached from these loving qualities we do not always act in our own best interests. This disconnect from the love within us causes us to see others through a clouded lens, which induces us to act negatively towards them.

We are all somewhat misaligned from our True Self and these show up in the various ways we navigate life. This coupled with our various personalities, habits, preferences, upbringing, sexual identities, and our and racial and cultural backgrounds make us all look, speak, and behave differently.

When we have a strong connection to our True Self and the love within it we do not see or focus on the differences – we see beyond them to the core of the other person – to the love within them.

When we have a weak connection to our True Self and thereby to the love within us, we see others through the clouded lens of the unconscious influences that run our lives and lie between us and our True Self. These causes us to judge, blame, shame, belittle, criticize, ignore, or act in other impassionate ways towards others.

When we act in disapproving or hurtful ways towards others our inner being knows we are acting from our misalignment and still offers us unconditional love and forgiveness. However, the filter of our unconscious influences does not allow these to get through to us, and our ego jumps on the chance to instill guilt and shame into our psyche.

For eons Humanity’s history has been based on blame, judgment, guilt, and shame, and so the premise of unconditional love and forgiveness is long forgotten.

Guilt and shame are now so ingrained into our psyches that we unknowingly hold onto them and are unaware of the effects they have on our lives. Our inner-being knows it is not good to hold onto these, or any, buried feelings and aims to dispose of them.

In attempts to rid ourselves of these unwanted buried and confusing feelings of guilt and shame we project them onto others or out into the world. This is actually counterproductive, as in doing so we actually amass more and guilt and shame, and a vicious cycle ensues.

This is why self-forgiveness is paramount to  overcoming negative responses, and is what allows us feel empowered and become our Best Self.

Self Forgiveness is Paramount to becoming Our Best Selves

Self-forgiveness requires giving up and releasing guilt and the shame that goes along with it. Guilt is the principal thief of emotional happiness, but it is only a trick of the mind and has no substance. The underlying causes of guilt are in the past and should therefore be relinquished.

Knowing why we said or did hurtful things makes it easier for our unconscious to exonerate itself from our attitudes or actions that have hurt our self or others.

To release the guilt and dissolve the shame we have to acknowledge and release the emotions of what we have done, or not done. Understanding that we were only projecting our unconscious influences onto others, room is then made in the deepest part of our self to connect to the peace and general feeling of well-being that is our intended state.

However, during this process of acknowledgement and release we must remember not to get stuck in the old story of what we have or have not done.

Depending on both our innate personality and what we need to forgive our self for, this can be immediate or take years of work. Even those who have committed crimes and are in jail can tap into universal unconditional love and the forgiveness within it and experience a sense of well-being.

We practice self-forgiveness when we recognize that the thoughts we had, words we uttered, deeds we did, or things we didn’t do that are causing us angst, guilt, shame, discomfort, or caused us to become dysfunctional or even an addict, and then release the associated negative emotions surrounding the issue.

Understanding that we only acted because of being misaligned from our True Self allows us to face what we have done – for release – not for self-condemnation. Peace and feelings of well-being are the goals of self-forgiveness. Adding more guilt is not.

It is the denial and burying of these shadow parts of ourselves that keep us in emotional bondage, take away our current peace of mind, and cause us to continue to act in ways that hurt ourselves or others.

We forgive ourselves for undermining becoming our Best Self by

  • acknowledging and addressing the how’s and wherefores of the attitudes and/or actions that kept us in dysfunctional patterns,
  • taking time to honestly look at the why’s allows our true thoughts and feelings on the subject to surface,
  • journalling allows our feelings and thoughts to flow through us onto paper. It helps us connect to our innocent self that only acted out of fear.

 

Self Forgiveness is Paramount to becoming Our Best Selves

  • asking our self questions helps to connect the dots to why we acted in ways that ultimately hurt us. What were our triggers? Why did we do what we did, or did not do what we were supposed to or had planned to? Were we sad, lonely, angry, overwhelmed, or did we feel unloved or unappreciated? When we pinpoint the reason we can allow/invite the associated emotions to come to the surface,
  • crying, addressing our anger or frustrations at our self, or pretend yelling at a perpetrator as if he or she were there dislodges the emotions from our psyche, and so their hold on us disappears.

As well as in my book, there are many techniques that aim to empower us and can be helpful with self-forgiveness like The Sedona Method or Byron Katie’s The Work. These can help us examine areas that might need self-forgiveness, forgiving others, forgiving situations, and forgiving the world.

Forgiving ourselves for hurting others, especially our loved ones, brings up many emotions and we will have to effectively deal with the guilt and shame if we want to overcome the effects.

We forgive ourselves for hurting others by

  • acknowledging to ourselves how we may have hurt them,
  • making amends when appropriate and possible,
  • releasing the shame and guilt of it all,
  • getting help if the guilt and shame are overwhelming or we cannot find our way out of it all alone.

If we have been the person of authority and acted in ways that hurt, belittled, undermined, or disempowered those under our charge, once we face what we have done, are remorseful, are getting the help we need, and are aiming to change the path we are on, we too can return to wholeness and allow for our Best Self to come forth.

Forgiving ourselves for hurting our children or a loved one might be one of our greatest challenges, however it must be done if we are to move forward in life free from unconscious influences and the attitudes and behaviors they engender that create further chaos or conflict in our life.

And by us moving past the shame and guilt of hurting others and finding a new and better normal, we demonstrate to others who may not be able to face their guilt and shame and/or move past their regrets.

© Rosemary McCarthy October 2016, revised June 2018.

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Improving our attitudes helps change the world, as every shift in attitude affects the vibration of the Planet as a whole. (Introduction).

Somewhere deep within the crevices of our mind lies the cellular memories of the original feelings of living within a harmony-ruled paradigm and so, it remains a longing deep within us. (Chapter 1)

Most humans are deeply conflicted because we are born into a society that extols the virtues of love, caring, and honesty, but is biased in carrying out the representations of these virtues. This creates a pull and push within us.  (Chapter 1, Why We Are the Way We Are)

Powerful shifts will occur in us when we acknowledge the truth of who we are, while at the same time reconcile the truth of who we are being. (Chapter 2, Universal Laws / Kingdom Principles)

Our capacity to love others is in direct relationship to how much we love ourselves. (Chapter 3, What We Can Do About It) 

Don’t wallow in what you have or haven’t done—don’t get stuck in the darkness. (Chapter 3)

How we choose to live life “in the meantime” will likely be the deciding factor to our happiness, because most of our life is spent in the meantime. (Chapter 3)

It is usually our intellect that is running the show, making our right brain and its creative impulses at its beck and call. (Chapter 4, Along the Way)

Every contact with another person is an opportunity to offer a notion of unity and Oneness, or one of polarity and separation. (Chapter 5, Relationships)

The real purpose of our relationships is to provide a learning tool for us to unearth and heal our misalignments. (Chapter 5)

Free will is our inheritance. However, we are not exercising true free will if we live under the tutelage of unconscious influences. (Chapter 6, Words, Symbols, Rituals, Concepts, Prayers).

Many have confused God’s revenge with the karmic Law of Balance playing out in our lives. (Chapter 6)

The seventh dimension (of the twelve noted) is considered the level of Christ consciousness. (Chapter 6)

The Universe will disappear when there is no longer any need for form to play out the duality we embraced eons ago.(Chapter 6)

The electromagnetic fields we create from our heart chakras are at least forty times stronger than those created from our brains. (Chapter 7, Science)

The Universe is holographic. As we move beyond the limitations of the 3rd dimension Humanity has existed under we will be able to take advantage of all it entails. This will allow us to feel empowered, be able to reach our full potentials, and feel connected to one another. (Chapter 7)

 The different races that visited earth inhabit dimensions with varying degrees of spiritual evolution, just as here on earth some of us are more spiritually evolved while others are more technologically advanced. (Chapter 7)

Our planet is a living, breathing organism … and just like us she has to cleanse herself of toxins – the physical and emotional toxins we have put upon her. (Chapter 9, The Planet and Abundance)

 At levels beyond our awareness we chose to be here at this time of “The Shift” to help bring about our and Gais’s Ascensions – a great cosmic event.  (Chapter 10, Ascension)

When we are completely aligned with the Oneness, there is no awareness of duality and all ideas of separation disappear. (Conclusion)

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 Copyright © 2016, 2018 by Rosemary McCarthy. All rights Reserved. To copy, share, or distribute this article (or the worksheet) simply ensure the content is copied in its entirety, is unaltered, and is distributed freely and for no monetary or personal gain, and that this copyright notice and the link for the article and the website www.yourjourneytopeace.com are included. You can contact me at: rosemary@yourjourneytopeace.com. Blessings, and thank you kindly.

The Importance of Embracing Our Passions

There are many reasons we manifest on earth.

  • To experience and to express love.
  • To remember, or to learn, the importance of tapping into joy,
  • To help each other through life.
  • To learn to overcome obstacles – our life lessons – that help us grow spiritually and our soul to evolve.
  • To discover our soul/life purpose.

Embracing our heart’s desires, which show up as our longings and develop into our passions helps us achieve what we came here for. Heeding our longings – the yearning in our hearts helps us discover our passions.

Embracing our passions brings us joy. Makes us feel alive. Keeps us feeling empowered.

Leaning into our passions creates positive, uplifting vibrations within our being – which extend out into the world as we go about daily life.

Humanity is going through a metamorphosis – a Shift. The cosmos is showering us with gifts of love, light, and grace that are encouraging us to connect to what brings us joy, embody a lightness of being, discover and embrace our passions and life purpose, and become our best self.

We access these gifts when we are open to universal flow. We are open to universal flow when we are living through our hearts. When we are loving. Accepting. Compassionate. Fair. Generous of spirit in all ways.

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When We Are Closed to Universal Flow

Being unyielding to change, or at the affect of unconscious influences that direct our thoughts, attitudes, or behaviors in negative or divisive ways blocks universal flow. Blocks access to love. To joy. To our passions.

This Shift is encouraging us to become more flexible – more open to new ideas. To replacing old, outdated notions of what makes us happy and contented. Open to the importance of joy. To experiencing joy. More open-hearted.

It is also guiding us to recognize and overcome any unconscious influences that are keeping us distanced from our true selves and distanced from others. To become aware of how our thoughts, attitudes, and actions are affecting ourselves, those around us, and the world as a whole.

Guiding us to face what has kept us from accessing joy, being able to connect to our passions, discover our life purpose, and become our best self.  We are asked to forgive what we have – and have not done that is not of love regarding ourselves, and regarding others. To become more conscious. More accepting and open-hearted towards others.

To become more open-hearted and open to universal flow we can,

  • Engage in light-hearted activities;
  • Socialize with happy, positive people;
  • Spend time around animals;
  • Immerse our self in nature;
  • Listen to music attuned to the higher vibrations in the universe.

These all help our energetic beings stay in balance and in tune with universal flow amidst the onslaught of the stressors of modern day living.

The Importance of Embracing Our Passions

Many Possible Passions / Many Possible Callings

If your passion calls you to create – do it! You will be uplifting others by bringing beauty into the world. If it calls you to work for the betterment of people, animals, the Planet, or the world in general – do it! You will be bringing forth concrete efforts for change.

  • If your passion calls you to teach—become an educator! You are one of the lucky ones, as you will have the honor of guiding the next generation who have come at this time of the Shift fully open and aware of what the world needs;
  • If passion calls you to create a loving family—do it! The children you bring into the world will further our efforts to create a loving and compassionate world;
  • If you feel passionate about cooking, farming, or the food industry in general―embrace it! You will be nourishing people’s bodies, which nourishes their minds and souls;
  • If passion calls you to the business community, technical industry, or any other seemingly everyday job or career path—answer the call! You will be filling the needs of people in their day-to-day lives as well as those whose life purpose is to directly help others;
  • If you feel passionate about art, music, dance, writing, and so on—embrace it! You will be helping people connect to their heart spaces through the vibrations your creations hold.

It doesn’t matter what we do in life. What is important is that

we answer the call of our hearts, make conscious decisions, and

have passion for and bring integrity into all we do.

We must answer our calls to passion. It is what makes us happy – feel alive. And sometimes we have to go looking for it, even in non-traditional ways.

Robin McGraw is a true believer in the need to go looking for what makes us happy. In her book, Inside My Heart: Choosing to Live with Passion and Purpose, she explains that this was the driving thought behind her wanting to lead a Brownie troop when she was newly married but had no children yet. This satisfied her passion to nurture children.

If you cannot tap into your passions, allow the Universe to guide you. You can,

  • Set your intention and allow your thoughts and words to flow on paper;
  • Sit quietly in prayer or meditations and ask Spirit, (God, the Universe) to guide you;
  • Make lists of what you like to do or have wanted to try or do. Notice how each makes you feel. Consider exploring those that generate good feelings.

The Importance of Embracing Our Passions

Our passions must make us feel excited. While embracing our passions helps us feel joy, it also helps the world in practical ways as we share our gifts, energy, and knowledge. Doing so also raises the vibration of the Planet. As we embrace our passions we connect to the joy within. Joy has a quality of lightness of being. Lightness of being raises the vibration of the Planet.

We are living in a time of planetary evolution. It is our cosmic time to embrace the lightness and expansiveness of the next stage of Humanity’s evolution. To live open-hearted. Tap into joy. Our passions. Become our best self. Loving. Fair. Accepting of all others.

It is our time to leave behind the heaviness of our past and its harsh ways of being and bring lightness into our lives, to those around us, and to the world.

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Our Love Languages and our Relationships

We all have diverse personalities. Different ways of navigating life. Varying emotional needs. Many of us are sensitive to how others treat and appreciate us and our efforts, and this is especially true in our intimate relationships.

None of us are completely free of unconscious influences from our past. These affect how we perceive life. They can make us extra sensitive. This shows up as our vulnerabilities and affects how we perceive what our partner is saying or doing, and how we respond to him or her.

We may even seem overly needy to our partner if he or she doesn’t understand our vulnerabilities, or if they choose to minimize or brush them off a silly.

This is why trust, communication, and creating a “safe haven” for each in the partnership to show the other their fears, emotional barometer, and vulnerabilities is vital. So is being sensitive to our partner’s needs – even if we don’t understand them.

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Many of us are somewhat needy for love, as we were never taught to connect to the love within – to our true self. Nor were we exposed to unconditional love. We therefore look to get our love needs satisfied from externals. To feel love from those close to us.

We all have different ways we express our love to our partner, but we also have different ways we interpret love from our partner. What makes one feel loved, may feel like an empty gesture to another.

This is because we all have our own internal way of feeling loved. A major part of showing our love to our partner in the way he or she most easily feels loved is understanding and acting upon what Gary Chapman calls our “love languages.”(1)

If we were completely connected to our true self 100% of the time – and to the love it holds – we would not need any specific expression of our partner’s (or anyone else’s) love for us.

However, as we are not all fully aligned with our true self and are just doing our best to deal with our inner worlds and unconscious influences, we feel most loved when those close to us – especially our spouse expresses their love to us in the way we feel it.

In Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages, he tells us that learning our partner’s love language is paramount to understanding how to show them our love so that they feel it as much as we are attempting to show it. Listed below are Chapman’s Five Love Languages. (1)

Love Language 1: Words of Affirmation: We are not often taught to use encouraging, kind, and humble words, so as adults we do not tend to use positive affirmations of love. Complimenting and showing appreciation to a partner who needs to hear love and appreciation voiced is fundamental in communicating our love to them. Receiving positive reinforcements makes our loved one much more willing and motivated to fulfill our desires.

Love Language 2: Quality Time: For many, togetherness and quality time is vital to them feeling loved. Having quality conversations and heartfelt sharing encourages intimacy for them. And listening attentively when he or she speaks from their heart is paramount.

Our Love Languages and our Relationships

Love Language 3: Receiving Gifts: Gifts are important in relationships because they are tactile and visual symbols of love, particularly if our partner requires physical manifestations as a sign of our love. So, bringing our spouse gifts, especially for no reason at all, makes them feel loved. So does knowing what they like to receive as a gifts.

Love Language 4: Acts of Service: The act of being served is how some people feel loved. Both small and large gestures will please a partner who feels loved by being served. Small gestures like making him or her supper for no reason, keeping their car fueled up and washed, or offering to babysit so the other can get away with the guys or gals keeps him or her feeling loved and appreciated. He or she will then be able to respond more lovingly.

Love Language 5: Physical Touch: Any act of physical touch is felt as an expression of our love to someone who requires touch as an indicator of love. A simple brush as you walk by, a hug or kiss as you leave or come home, or a massage for no particular reason will keep the necessary physical communication open that the other needs. A healthy sex life is paramount to the partner whose love language is touch. (1)

At the same time, we must show appreciation to our partner for any attempt or gesture he or she makes to show their love and appreciation – no matter how feeble their attempt seems to us and even when it is in ways that do not fulfill our particular love needs.

When living at our highest potentials we would instinctively know how to express our love to our partner so they feel it. Interestingly, if they too were living at their highest potential they wouldn’t need any specific outward signs of our love.

However, since most of us are not there yet and have been programmed to get our love cues from the external world, expressing our love in the way our partner feels it strengthens the relationship.

Endnote

(1) Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate (Chicago: Northfield Publishing, 1992), 37–121.

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We Are Always Praying

In a way, we are always praying or making requests for what we want. Our thoughts and attitudes give off vibrations and Spirit, God, the universe (or whatever term we use for the conscious creative universal force) interpret our vibrations as what we like and returns more of the same to us.

It is always important to be aware of our thoughts and attitudes – for us, those around us, and for how we want the world to progress, but it is vital regarding what we want in life. If they are not congruent with what we want, we undermine the process.

Whether we are formally praying, requesting something in a meditation or from Spirit, or simply dreaming of what we want, we are answered in accordance with the quality of our general vibrations, as well as those we have around our desire.

All our thoughts, attitudes, words, and actions create vibrations. Our prayers, requests, and heartfelt desires are affected by our vibrations. Our vibrations change when we adjust our thoughts and attitudes. They are organic.

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We Can Influence If, and to What Degree, Our Prayers Are Answered

What we have asked for and desire is not only affected by our vibrations at the time of our request, but also if our vibrations surrounding it change. To get the results we want, we must:

  • ensure that our vibrations are generally positive when praying;
  • believe that we are deserving of what we are requesting;
  • have faith that it can come about;
  • keep our thoughts and words around our desire or request positive;
  • ensure we do not undermine our original request;
  • be positive around the general theme of what we are desiring or asking for;

We must feel confident and deserving of what we are asking for. For example, if we applying for a new job, but think we will not get it or lie about our qualifications we are showing a lack of confidence in our self and our abilities.

If we second guess our request because we believe that what we request cannot come about, we lack faith in Spirit to deliver what we want.

We must keep our thoughts about what we have requested positive, but also talk only positively about it.

For example, if we have requested a loving life-partner, but talk negatively about that sex in general or about how we have been treated badly in the past, we are not setting ourselves up to attract someone loving and positive in our life. We can’t talk negatively about what we want and expect it to show up in a positive way.

Worrying about the outcome, being impatient and wanting it now, becoming obsessive about it, or conniving or manipulative to help bring about what we have prayed for shows a lack of faith that the universe is working on our request and can deliver.

Having negative attitudes about or being jealous of others who have what we want creates negative vibrations around our request.

For example, if we want to be successful in our career but are jealous or critical of others who are successful and wealthy, our vibrations about success are muddled. This affects the clarity of our request.

Any negative, faithless thoughts, attitudes, or even words undermine our request. They are inconsistent with what we are asking for, which creates vibrations that affect the outcome we desire.

They confuse Spirit as to what we want. Our desire may not be answered how we wish. Vibrations inconsistent with our original request can even have the effect of canceling it out completely.

Science and Religious Teachings are Looking to Each Other Again

Although talk of praying and vibrations may seem counterintuitive to the teachings of traditional religion whereby we pray to God for what we want and expect it to be delivered to us without any self-examination of how we may be blocking it, many within the religious communities are integrating scientific explanations with spiritual theories – as the ancients did.

We Are Always Praying

In his talk “Miraculous Probabilities: The Science of Faith,” theologian Dr. Jim Richards tells us that “electromagnetic fields” are created around our prayers and requests. That it is our faith, confidence, and the clarity of our requests that allow them to be answered.

Others within the religious communities are also now teaching that we must have a positive mental atmosphere that is congruent with our request to help bring it about. (1)

We must fully believe that we are deserving of what we want, confident that it is possible, and be clear in our message.

Wishy-washy requests, second guessing ourselves, or having negative and/or limiting attitudes around the theme affect our vibrations and the electromagnetic fields we create that dictate if, and when, it comes about.

Our Requests Are Usually Granted – in Time

If our vibrations are positive and remain mostly consistent regarding our requests and it is within the realm of possibilities, our prayers are usually answered – at least in time.

I say usually, because sometimes we pray for things that are way off base from our soul’s journey, and they may not come to pass.

Still, most of our requests can be answered because our soul’s plan does not include the minor details, just general guidelines, such as dealing with our controlling tendencies.

However, some soul lessons that we came here to fulfill cannot be overruled, and if a certain request is not congruent with that, it will not happen.

We never know God’s full plan for our lives, and from our limited perspective we may feel we want something that will not ultimately serve us or that plan.

And patience is always vital when waiting for our prayers or requests to come about or our desires answered. The timing of elements surrounding what we want may include other people getting prepared or events or conditions falling in line.

Spirit works on many levels to make our requests happen, however the universe does not work in a vacuum. Things and circumstances must be lined up.

We Are Always Praying

Pray in our Joy; Pray for Qualities; Give Appreciation.

As well as praying for things we want or what we want to happen, it is also beneficial to ask for qualities that will help us manage life’s difficult circumstances, become our best self, and grow spiritually: like patience, courage, guidance, wisdom, and discernment.

As Khalil Gibran suggests in his well-loved book, The Prophet, we should also pray when we are happy and satisfied in life.

You pray in your distress and in your need;

would that you might pray also in the fullness of your joy

and in your days of abundance. —Khalil Gibran (2)

Thanking God, Spirit, the universe for what we have – being appreciative for all that has been bestowed upon us puts us in a receiving mode.

And in our prayers and requests the concept of “make me” instead of “give me” goes much further for our long-term happiness, contentment, and spiritual growth than asking for things.

~ Rosemary McCarthy© May, 2018.

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(1) Jim Richards, “Miraculous Probabilities: The Science of Faith,” New Day, Vision TV, August 2012, http://www.mynewday.tv/shows/miraculous-probabilities-the-science-of-faith/.

(2) Khalil Gibran, The Prophet (New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 2008), 67.

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The Secret of Enough

Even though there is still much need and poverty in the world, there is enough for all of us – to survive, to live with dignity, and even to thrive. We just have to use what our Planet has bequeathed to us wisely.

Our ancient societies lived balanced lives. Our physical, emotional, and spiritual lives were in balance. And we understood the concept of enough.

Most native people worldwide today still understand this concept of enough. Those who live off the land, free of material obsessions, believe the earth will provide them with basic necessities. They take only what they really need.

They love and revere the Planet and understand our deep connection to it. They appreciate that it nourishes us with water, air, and food: it supports us, and they understand that maintaining the purity of these is crucial.

The Indigenous people around the world recognize the Planet as a gift from our Creator and that every molecule on it lives and breathes. Embedded in their histories is the belief that we are all its stewards.

Throughout the world, most native peoples understand and maintain a reciprocal connection with Gaia. This connection is their spirituality.

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Today, much of Western society is focused on acquiring far more than what we really need. This focus causes us to rarely move beyond physical concerns into the emotional or spiritual needs, which are necessary to keep us balanced.

Appreciating what we have ensures its continuation. If we could appreciate all that Mother Earth offers us – clean water, fresh air, and bountiful land we would make wise decisions so that they continue to support us.

Communing more often with nature we would be less inclined to focus on the material aspects of life. Her energy connects us to our hearts and true self. It holds a healing quality that helps us settle our emotional worlds. When are emotional worlds are settled and we are connected to our true self we are less inclined to focus on unnecessarily acquiring. We are more inclined to embrace the concept of enough.

What is enough? Enough is different for everyone. Most of us in the Western world do want some luxuries and modern commodities and some of it can be supported by Mother Nature (if we are wise about it), but many of us have gone overboard.

In The Last Hours of Ancient Sunlight Thom Hartmann reminds us that our current society lives under the myth that “some stuff will make you happy, then twice as much stuff will make you twice as happy, and ten times as much will make you ten times as happy, and so on, into infinity.” (1)

And although greed has been around for eons, it has only recently extended to such abusive actions towards our Planet as to threaten her (and thereby our) very survival. Where did this current greed come from?

In his essay, “The World of Wonder” in Spiritual Ecology, Thomas Berry explains that in North America this attitude of acquiring grew as a result of our lack of embracing or understanding the concept of “Earth-based spirituality” when we first came here from Europe.

He reminds us that not only did the Indigenous people understand the relationship between heaven, earth, and its people, evidenced by their rituals and ceremonies to evoke the powers of the Universe, most ancient cultures did as well. He tells us that the pillars in India, China, Greece, Egypt and Rome “were established to delineate a sacred center which provided a point of reference for human affairs and bound Heaven and Earth together.” (2)

The Secret of Enough

Barry explains that we came to America from Europe believing we were religious, educated, scientifically advanced, and able to create our own political organizations. We “saw ourselves as a divine blessing on this continent. In reality we were a predator people on an innocent continent.”

We saw a land that could allow us to break away from the “monarchical governments … and their world of royalty and subservience,” but rather than be in awe of the grandness and beauty of this land, we saw it as a “continent available for exploitation.” Although we were searching for new values, our attitudes of greed and control did not really change; nor did they reflect the values of the native people already here. (3)

In large part, except for the few who have rejected commercialism, such as the Mennonites, Indigenous peoples, and certain rural tribes, having lost the connection to the concept of enough and respect for our Planet, most societies have fallen under the spell of acquiring and greed.

Our Planet is meant to support us. If we return to a reciprocal relationship with Mother Earth we will all have access to its life-affirming energy: we will all have enough. Returning to the wisdom of nature at this juncture in our evolution and with our growing population is vital!

As I was exploring various subjects when researching for my book Your Journey to Peace …, (whose concepts this article is based on) a notion was growing in me that the Indigenous peoples’ gentle nature and connection to the earth were somehow connected to the healing of Humanity. I was directed to various answers.

More of what I discovered is further explored in my next article/ blog post, “The Indigenous Beliefs and Our Planet’s Healing.” I will explain how eons ago the Indigenous peoples around the world actually made a conscious decision to forego industrialization so that they could show us the roadmap back when we had lost our way – when we had forgotten about the secret of enough and the importance of our connection to Mother Earth and of our reciprocal relationship with her.

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Notations

(1) Thom Hartmann, The Last Hours of Ancient Sunlight: Waking Up to Personal and Global Transformation (Northfield, VT: Mythical Books, 1998), 235.

(2) Thomas Berry, “The World of Wonder” in Spiritual Ecology, The Cry of the Earth, a collection of essays edited by Llewellyn Vaughan-Lee, (Pointe Reyes, CA: The Golden Sufi Center), 15-17.

(3)  Ibid.

~ Rosemary McCarthy© April, 2018, updated May 2018

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What Is Held in Our Minds Is Reflected onto the World Stage

What is held in our minds and the attitudes that stem from this is reflected in society. When our minds are calm and peaceful and our attitudes express love’s qualities as we go about our day we invite more of the same into our lives, and also into our world.

When we come from a place of fear, blame, judgment, revenge or any thoughts or attitudes based in me-against-you instead of me-and-you, we not only invite divisive and disempowering attitudes back to us, we call them forth into our world.

All aspects of the universe exist under universal laws – including us. The well-known Law of Attraction translates our thoughts and attitudes as how we want things to be: it is as if we are promoting these attitudes.

We are actually inviting in more of the same – for us and around us. And so whatever attitudes individuals hold toward situations or one another play out in society. (See below for link to my post on universal laws).

This Is a Time of Huge Evolutionary Change

At this point in our evolution we are encouraged to face ourselves.

  • Who we are.
  • How we think.
  • Our attitudes.
  • What we do.
  • To shift expressions not of love to those that are of love.
  • To embrace fairness, acceptance, understanding, compromise, mediation, and to look for win-win situations.
  • We are to seek empowerment for ourselves – and for others. This Shift we are in is allowing what is not of love to rise to the surface – for healing.

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This Shift’s energy is flushing out all divisive attitudes and actions, and they will be exposed for what they are. If in our approach we judge others and focus on peoples’ differences, we create conflict.

If we do not change our methods there will be fallout, because when we create conflict it always reverberates back to us sooner or later. It also invites more conflict and divisive attitudes into the world.

We may not be able to connect the dots between what we put out there and what is happening in our lives, communities, or in the world, but if we are experiencing conflict in our lives or are upset by what is happening around us or in the world, we need first examine our attitudes. They may need an adjustment.

The issues negative attitudes bring about may not exactly reflect what was put out there, but the themes and impact will be similar. The motives at play influence what negative attitudes bring about and the mechanisms at work reflect them back in comparable ways.

Until individuals drop their propensity to judge, to blame, we relinquish our tendencies toward greed and unfairness, and shift to coming from a place of hope instead of fear, the world will not change.

As more of us drop negative, divisive, and disempowering attitudes and exchange these for expressing love’s qualities out into the world we will all start to reap the benefits.

This Shift Is Guiding Us to be Gentle and Non-combative

This Shift is guiding us to make our points to bring about equality and fairness, but in gentle non-combative ways. When we push too hard to make a point, or push against something, the Universe will push back. There will be repercussions for us individually, and for the world.

We can adopt Mother Teresa’s attitude of marching for peace, not against war – to give energy to what we want, instead of pushing against what we do not want. Although she didn’t name it, Mother Teresa lived by the Law of Attraction. All the peacemakers of the world have – in their own way.

What Is Held in Our Minds Is Reflected onto the World Stage

Having ideals and beliefs to live by can be very valuable. They give us a life framework to live by and support systems to help us. And when promoting them we are doing what we think is helpful or right.

However, sometimes we can be erroneous in our interpretation of them or misguided in our approach. Ideals from the past can also be outdated – in need of an upgrade.

In our sincere efforts to guide others to where we think our world needs to be going, we need to keep our focus on promoting what we believe and the benefits of what we are doing and why – calmly and with integrity, instead of focusing on what we think others are doing wrong or should be doing.

Even when we are sincere, doing so only endorses divisiveness: it does not promote unity or God’s love. It does not create the vibrations needed to bring about the world we all want.

So, even when we feel very passionate about something we must ensure we are presenting our point of view with compassion.

Most of us are contributing in any one of the numerous ways to bring about a fairer and more egalitarian world – some in practical ways that are outwardly visible, but many by just being loving to those around them: they are creating the positive vibrations needed to help bring it about.

Even though most of us won’t be able to make major changes in the world, we can all change our thoughts, shift our attitudes, and make small choices that are better for everyone.

We can learn to connect the dots between our actions and their consequences and thereby affect the quality of life of those around us.

Even small shifts in attitudes affect those around us, and they then affect those around them. This will then affect the generations to come.

~ Rosemary McCarthy©, April 2018.

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The Importance of Balancing Our Male and Female Energies

Over the past century the lines between how males and females behave have been challenged. This is part of our evolutionary growth, but it has caused what have been our traditional roles to become somewhat blurred.

Part of the reason for much of the confusion and conflicts between males and females has been, and still is, the misunderstanding of our male and female energies, the understanding of their interrelationship, and how to use them as they were intended.

The male and female energies are the epitome of the duality that underlies all aspects of the Universe. The concept of Yin/Yang in the Chinese philosophies suggests that this duality is made up of opposing forces – which at the same time are complementary – and that these contradictory forces need to be in balance, otherwise chaos ensues.

We all hold both male (doer, builder, protector) and female (passive, nurturer, communicator) energies within our beings, however, this has nothing to do with being in a male or female body. They are energetic vibrations – and neither is more important than the other.

Even though we all do hold both of these energies within us, we usually have an overriding male or female energetic slant. The degree to which the standard male and female qualities manifest within us is influenced by our individual personalities, as well as by our sexual orientation – no matter which body we are in.

Many in male bodies hold the dominant male energy, while others hold the dominant female energy. Similarly, many in female bodies hold the dominant female energy, while others hold the dominant male energy. Within both sexes, those who have held the opposite dominant energy to what society has deemed appropriate have been shunned, or worse, when they expressed their sexuality authentically.

Our dominant energy is intended to be our main way of being in the world, with the secondary one – the less prevalent energy, supporting it. When we are emotionally balanced and being true to our self the positive features of the overriding energy lead the way, with the secondary one influencing it. It keeps it in check.

Although diametrically opposed, these male and female energies both hold the same value: they are intended to complement and support each other. Those holding the dominant male energy are intended to boldly create, while still maintaining a compassionate approach.

Those with the gentler female energy are to bring nurturing to the world, while remaining empowered. Taking into account the strength of the overriding energy, both of these energies are required to maintain somewhat of a balance between doing and being. Properly allowed, the secondary energy ensures this balance.

The male and female energies are both necessary for balance because although they are separate, they are part of each other, as illustrated in the Yin/Yang symbol. In The Soul of the Messenger, G. W. Hesketh explains:

“The Yin/Yang symbol [image removed, shown below] contains an element of its opposing force within each half by depicting a white dot in the black half of the symbol, and a black dot in the white half. The element of each within the other conveys that dual natures are not separate from each other; rather they are inclusive, and represent extremities of the same thing.” (1)

The Importance of Balancing Our Male and Female EnergiesThese two energies are a part of each other and are vital to each other – as they are to all aspects of our existence. Ensuring that they shine forth in us individually as our personalities and life purposes dictate will help bring balance to our world.

We need to ensure that whichever dominant energy people hold that they are validated for who they are. People who are doers and achievers need to be given respect for all that they are and encouragement in all that they do, or attempt to do.

Gentle nurturing people need to be given respect for all that they are, the space to voice their thoughts and ideas – and be listened to, and appreciated for the more-subtle aspects they bring to their relationships, and to the world.

Until this is all fully reintegrated within us as individuals, we still have to deal with the ripple effects of how society has expected us to behave regarding our gender roles and sexual orientations.

Our attitudes and how it should bes’ are so entrenched in who we are it will take time for many of us to find the appropriate balance of allowing our male and female energies to guide us, for our dominant energy to shine forth in positive ways, and for society and our laws to catch up in allowing and supporting people to express their true natures without repercussions.

Whether we are in male or female body, whichever dominant energy we hold, and however our sexuality wants to express itself, many of us have had to suppress the parts of our true nature that did not align with what society accepted in an effort to fit in and/or to protect ourselves. This is left-over from our past history.

(This article/blog post is based on concepts in my book Your Journey to Peace, Bridging the Gap Between Religion, Spirituality, Psychology, and Science. Book Synopsis is found here).

Archetypes Act As Conduits to Help Us, and to Strengthen Latent Qualities Within Us

This Imbalance Is a Left-over from Our Past

The world we have grown up in has focused on, been built upon, and promoted males – men who held the alpha, doer, protection-oriented energy. It denounced males with a dominant female energy and females with a dominant male energy. This created pushes-and-pulls between the sexes. Conflicts and inequalities arose. Imbalances followed. This perpetuated itself.

We are all gods and goddesses. And when we access the fullness of our true natures we express our godliness out into the world – with confidence and integrity. When part of our true nature is suppressed, our dominant energy can become corrupted and negatively affect our attitudes and behaviors.

As those with the dominant male alpha energy suppressed the female energy within them, the power it held often morphed into aggression, control, and cruelty. They became power-hungry.

Those with the dominant female energy not only had to suppress the male energy within themselves, they were often the target of the controllers and aggressors. Their passive nurturing qualities often transformed into neediness, deviousness, passive-aggressiveness, and victim mentalities. They lost their sense of empowerment.

Many of both genders suppressed the parts of themselves that did not line up with societal norms. Some overrode their dominant energy and embraced the traditional male and female roles in an effort to protect themselves. Others ignored the supportive energy and fell prey to the negative aspects of the dominant energy. They weren’t embracing the fullness of their true natures.

In not accessing these complementary parts of ourselves our divine natures became subdued: we forgot about nurturing the gods and goddesses within us. And as power and control became the mainstay of society, little importance was placed on the subtler aspects of living.

The feminine energy was ignored in those who held it as a supportive energy and muffled in those who held it as a dominant energy. We became hardened. Life became hard and harsh. (Below is a link to a YouTube video to help us embrace our feminine energies).

This has been our history and we hold remnants of the reasons we choose to suppress within our cellular memory. This is why power, control, greed, unfairness, inequality etc. are so hard to overcome. However, we all hold a distant memory of our beginnings within us – of when we had this balance and could wholly express ourselves.

Our soul remembers! This imbalance we now hold has caused inner-conflicts within our unconscious. Inner-conflicts have to be expressed – one way or another – either through self-sabotage and/or projection onto others. These flawed ways of expressing ourselves created a fertile ground for the negative aspects of both the male and female energies to flourish.

The Importance of Balancing Our Male and Female Energies

If society had been more evolved and individuals balanced emotionally and spiritually we would not have been in danger because of the way we expressed our sexuality. Gender roles would not have been so fixed, and whichever roles people took on would not have created problems for them.

The differences between the traditional male and female energies would have been recognized as complementing each other, and all qualities, however overt or covert, appreciated for their value – whether the person expressing them was in a male or female body.

Up until recently the negative aspects of both our male and female energies have continued to prevail over the positive ones. This is starting to change, but it has affected individuals, groups of people, and the collective.

It is time for us to acknowledge and address the unfairness and inequalities this imbalance of our male and female energies has created. It is time to move into our next evolutionary phase.

Rebalancing Our Male and Female Energies is a Win / Win Undertaking

We are now at the pinnacle of our evolution and we are moving into a phase where we are to discover and embrace our true natures. To find balance within all areas of our life. This is part of the cosmic plan. (Below is a link to my article/post: “We Are at the Pinnacle of Our Evolution”).

The light and love now surrounding our Planet is encouraging us, individually and collectively, to reach for what represents love: authenticity, self-love, and empowerment for ourselves; and compassion, fairness, equality, and acceptance for all others. It is time for us to overcome the negative attitudes and behaviors that have plagued Humanity for so long.

Although it may seem that prejudice, unfairness, inequality, and mental, physical, and sexual abuse are more rampant than ever, this is because these are being brought to the surface – for healing. We cannot address what is hidden.

The unearthing of all of these negative attitudes and behaviors is what will cause the dictates of society to change. And we are demanding changes.

In all areas of society, equality for all, a voice for people to speak out, and empowerment for those who have been mistreated or disenfranchised is being supported by mainstream. Imbalances of our norms and in our laws that affect individuals and groups of people are being challenged.

Part of this rebalancing and rediscovering of our true natures is the understanding of and allowing for both the male and female energies within us to be acknowledged, recognized for their full value, and allowed to emerge – without negative repercussions. We have to encourage this rebalancing.

  • We have to allow for the less dominant of the male and female energies within people to come forth. This will start to alleviate the negative attitudes and behaviors of the unconscious inner-conflicts the suppression of these triggered.
  • We have to allow for peoples’ sexuality to be expressed whichever way feels natural and authentic. We have to allow for our true natures to come forth.

With this rebalancing those who hold a predominant powerful, male energy will be inclined towards its positive aspects, as allowing for the secondary female energy’s influence will soften the edges of their attitudes, behaviors, and decisions.

Those holding a predominant gentle, nurturing female energy will confidently allow the positive aspects of their nature to shine forth, while allowing the secondary male energy within them to ensure they remain empowered.

Those in female bodies will be able to tap into the builder, protector part of themselves if they wish to, but without needing to employ aggressive tendencies. Those in male bodies will be able to tap into the communicator, nurturer parts of themselves without being needy, demanding, or falling prey to victimization.

The Importance of Balancing Our Male and Female Energies

These shifts will create win / win situations for individuals and Humanity as a whole. Those who suppressed feminine energy and start to access it will feel calmer and less pressured. And we will all benefit from reduced aggressive, controlling, and power-hungry tendencies. Those who suppressed male energy and now start to access it will feel more confident and empowered. These individual shifts will have ripple effects and cause less pressure on society.

To create the space for this to happen we have to let go of beliefs and ideals that are outdated – especially those that were born from within eras or societies where control, aggression, and unfairness were rampant.

We have to understand that the patriarchal society we inherited no longer works. We have to let go of judgement: of what we don’t agree with or understand.

We want to become a fully functioning society. And to do that we have to become balanced mentally, physically, and spiritually. Finding the balance between our male and female energies will help us balance our physical and spiritual realities.

In The Soul of the Messenger, Hesketh makes the comparison between the balance of our male and female energies to “the compatibility of body with spirit.” He suggests that when body and spirit are out of balance “either body dominates spirit to the point of outright denial of anything non-physical, or that spirit cannot reconcile an existence in a material world leading to unfulfilled purpose and disconnection with life – a stranger in a strange land.” (2)

Making Space for the Negative Aspects of the Male Energy to Heal

We all know that the victims of this patriarchal society we were born into need a safe space to heal. But so do the aggressors!

Our history has shown that those with the dominant male energy used its power and unleashed aggressive tendencies to control, marginalize, and abuse women – and other males with the female energy – emotionally, physically, and sexually.

Many movements in the last century aimed to dislodge the inequalities our patriarchal society brought about, such as a women’s right to vote early in the 20th century and the feminist movement of the 1960’s.

Great roadways were made. However, the problem was always seen, perceived, and discussed as a women’s issue. As if the victims are the problem. Not on the perpetrators – who are the problem. This is changing.

As we move into this next phase of our evolution we will continue to address the issues these controlling and abusive behaviours brought about for both women and men (and any other minority who has been marginalized or abused) and work together to support their healing and movement towards equality.

But we will now also be addressing the real cause. The misuse of the male energy. Recent events have brought male aggression to the surface.

The recent focus of the rampant misuse of power and sexual misconduct have given us all cause to examine our pasts. Many women are discussing their experiences, however subtle, among themselves.

Some are probing their pasts to see if they were ever treated unfairly – because of their gender, sexual orientation, or of another having power over them – and how and why this was allowed to happen. Many men who have been sexually mistreated or abused are also breaking their silence.

And there is support from all levels of society for those who are stepping forward. Women and men who have been manipulated, sexually maligned, or even sexually abused are eager to find their voice and step into their empowerment. Be allowed to recover their sacred selves.

Some courageous men are also examining their conscience to determine if they have held or have acted upon any of the negative aspects of the patriarchal attitudes our society is based on. Most must be afraid to look. Our society is built on judgment and blame, not on understanding why we do what we do, so their fear is justified.

Just like we have to create the space for women to heal, we also have to create the space for men to heal – in safety. But before healing comes acknowledgement. We can only acknowledge something when we know there is safety in the knowing.

When we understand that all our negative and disempowering attitudes and actions are a left-over affect of our past history, recognize that we can change them, and believe that we will be supported in our efforts, safe havens will be created to examine and deal with disempowering attitudes and behaviors towards others.

Most men’s attitudes and behaviors towards women are fair. In light of recent events, some men may be examining their attitudes, motives, or behaviors and decide to make minor shifts. And of course, any manipulative or outright abusive behavior, or any kind or criminal actions need to be treated appropriately.

The Importance of Balancing Our Male and Female Energies

We don’t manifest here on earth to be abusive, controlling, or power-hungry. However, we were all born into a society that endorsed and promoted it – and still does to a certain degree.

Men too are eager to step into their sacred masculinity – to learn to use their power wisely and as was intended. It may not be at the forefront of their awareness, but many are feeling rumblings within their beings that something is off. And a new wave of pioneers are stepping up to guide us.

Today some brave and enlightened souls (see links below for Katz and Eisenstein) are stepping forward to address the negative attitudes of our patriarchal society head-on.

They are attempting to unravel it all. To explain how to recognize any subtle attitudes men may hold that undermine others that they are not aware of.  To encourage them to address and make amends – if necessary – for any negative and/or disempowering attitudes or patterns of behaviour they may hold or have held regarding women, or men with the dominant female energy.

We are all being guided towards understanding why we do what we do, to question our motives, and to take responsibility for how our attitudes and behaviors affect others.

It is a wonderful time to be alive – and a bit scary too – to witness and/or partake in this evolutionary stage we are in. In most areas of the world equality will blossom this century. It is our cosmic time to do so.

We just have to look at the young souls here on earth now – listen to how the youth of today think – and hopefully heed their advice and follow their lead. They have shown up on the planet at this time in our evolution – demanding fairness, equality, acceptance, and safety for all – so that they can help us all more clearly navigate our way to a brighter future.

We must always remember that extending love, fairness, and empowerment to others brings love, fairness, and empowerment into our lives.

Let’s allow for and support everyone in being authentic;

Of expressing their true natures – the fullness of their beings –

without fear of repercussions;

So that we too can express the fullness of our beings and become all that we can be.

Notation:

(1) G.W. Hesketh, The Soul of the Messenger (Nine Hawks Books; 2015). 62.

(2) Hesketh, 64.

~ Rosemary McCarthy©, March 2018.

See here for Drew Tracy’s video “Releasing Feminine Energy,”

See here for my Blog Post “We Are at the Pinnacle of Our Evolution.”

See here  for one of Dr. Jackson Katz’s many videos on violence against women being a man’s issue.

See here: For Charles Eisenstein’s article on healing the masculine.

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