Relationships: Partnering Up Consciously – Separating Consciously 2/3

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The more we evolve, the more we will be able to easily trust that our hearts are showing us a true picture when choosing a spouse or life-partner (or even friends or a business partner).

(Link to Part 1,  As We Continue to Evolve All Our Relationships Will Improve found here

We will no longer need to be so wary of our unconscious influences luring us into chaotic situations or have to be so vigilant at continuously examining our emotions, desires, or motives.

Nor will we have to be so cautious of others’ motives. As we will be working at higher vibration capacities, our radars will be well attuned to the vibrations of others and if something is off we will cue into it quickly.

The greater our connection to our True Self the more we feel guided towards partners based on true soul parings where we encourage each other to be the best we can be.

This article is based on  Ch 5, “Relationships” in my book, Your Journey to Peace …  About Book here

And because our strength and self-confidence comes from within, we are not invested in changing our partner or making them acquiesce to our desires.

We also understand that our partner gets his or her strength and guidance from their True Self, and if that guidance is calling them to move on from the relationship we will not be so inclined towards drama, anger, revenge, or the plethora of negative responses breaking up has caused in the past.

As we continue to evolve, choosing our spouses and life-partners consciously will st rt to become the norm.

Separating Consciously Will Also Start to Become the Norm

In our most recent history an intact family provided the foundations we needed to grow emotionally healthy, and when divorce or separations occurred, even if the family life was not perfect, the children felt like the rug was being pulled out from under them.

The sense of security children feel when a family is intact and they are surrounded by at least some love and caring echoes God’s unconditional love for us.

When a family breaks up, the sense of loss is somewhat due to changed circumstances, but much of it is due to the drama and emotions surrounding how most separations and divorces are dealt with – at  least how they have been in the past.

When there is  drama, conflict, blame, revenge and the many negative  attitudes and behaviors that often come about in the midst of divorce or separation, that sense of love and security is eroded. Even when a family is not perfect and there is some conflict, an intact family still offers a sense of security to the children.

As we become more evolved individually and are more closely connected to our True Selves, our separations will occur without the dire effects that has been so common and fueled by hurt, anger, rage, revenge, and blame.

We are already encouraging our children to look into their hearts and trust their inner guidance, and so their connection to their True Self is stronger than in past generations. This gives them an inner-strength that follows them everywhere.

 

As couples are inspired to separate or divorce with integrity, they will honor the promises made and will be able to agree on shared child rearing duties, day-to-day obligations, and fair distribution of finances.

The children will then be much less inclined to internalize the effects of the break-up and succumb to dysfunctional attitudes or behaviors, or pass on the effects of unresolved issues regarding their parents’ separation onto their own children.

This blog post is a continuation of Part 1,  As We Continue to Evolve All Our Relationships Will Improve. Found HERE  

 ~ Rosemary McCarthy© February 11, 2020.

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As We Evolve – ALL Our Relationships Will Improve (1/3)

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Relationships are the vehicle that best allow us work out our issues.

Our pains and fears. Our neediness. Our aggression. Our protective devices. 

Where we most play out our reactionary styles.

This is especially true in our familial relationships – especially our significant others.

 

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Our Couple Relationships

What most of us look for in our intimate relationships is companionship, and for the other to love, help, and support us in life.  In our younger days we may look for the right person to build a family with.  We may also look for a partner to offer us security. And from a human perspective this is all fine.

However, from a higher, spiritual perspective, the purpose of all our relationships is for soul growth: to connect more fully to our True Self and the love and sense of empowerment it holds. In fact, all our interactions with others offer us opportunities to come from that place of love – and to offer the qualities of love to others.  (Qualities of love explained in book).

Our relationships are the best vehicle to work through our unprocessed hurts and pains from our past, because the intimacy required and day-to-day life our differing personalities, ways of approaching life, and the various persons’s protective strategies often clash. Unconscious influences, like neediness, defensiveness, controlling tendencies, etc. then naturally arise.

Our couple relationships often hold expectations that often cannot be met. Our communication skills are often weak. With presumed, unvoiced, or misunderstood expectations and poor communication we may have hurt feelings or react badly in frustration. Our unconscious, habitual responses rear their ugly head. Instead of coming from a place of love and understanding conflict ensues.

Our relationships are actually set up to trigger our unconscious influences

by the other pushing our buttons.

This is the reason our relationships are so difficult!

In fact, we hold soul contracts with those closest to us to help us work through the conflicts that naturally arise. Our unconscious influences create  barriers to living from a place of connection to our True Self, and the love and the sense of empowerment it offers us.

To connect more fully to our True Self and the love it holds we must overcome these barriers. From our soul’s perspective, our relationships are created to bring our unconscious influences to the surface for healing.

Issues that come out in our relationships are opportunities to work through our unconscious, habitual and defensive responses we erected as denial and protection mechanisms from our past.

These show up as neediness, greed, and/or unloving or aggressive tendencies. Acknowledging, understanding, and working through our habitual responses is always a good thing, as in doing so we remove the barriers to love.

Removing the barriers to love:

  • We can feel love more easily.
  • We can express love more easily.
  • We are more confident.
  • Feel more empowered.

Coming from a place of love we create harmonious relationships.

We can often even heal conflict-ridden ones. 

With a little self-reflection and the courage to look to understand why we feel, react, and act in certain ways around those close to us, we can heal this disconnect to our True Self.

Our habitual responses are ego / fear based. To connect to our True Self we must be heart based. To feel joy, be happy, feel empowered, and create harmonious relationships we must be heart based.

Working towards healing our relationships is most often recommended. Of course, abusive situations are never to be tolerated.

The Chemistry We Feel With Another Can Have Many Purposes

The chemistry we feel with another is a soul calling. It may guide us towards our life-partner, or not. Sometimes the chemistry people feel with each other does not necessarily have to end in a long, or even short-term relationship.

A heart connection with a strong chemical attraction may be a left-over energetic pull from a past-life association. We may not be meant to act on the connection we feel, and the lesson to learn through the energetic pull we feel towards the other is to rise above the chemistry and use discretion in choosing a partner.

We may have an unfinished lesson to learn with the other and we are only to get together for a time (a reason or a season), for a specific purpose or to learn a lesson, and then move on.

We must always ensure that when entering into a relationship that we will feel loved, safe, and be treated kindly and with compassion so to avoid conflict and drama. Taking the time to get to know someone before becoming emotionally entangled helps avoid drama and hurt feelings.

Relationships create emotional entanglements and the unraveling from those based in neediness or left-over energetic pulls that hold drama usually carry much unpleasantness, emotional pain, and confusing pull-push scenarios.

As We Evolve, ALL Our Relationships Improve

As the effects of this Shift of consciousness Humanity is going through continues to encourage us to find joy, lightness in living, compassion and understanding towards others, and the impetus to overcome any unconscious influence we hold that undermine our self and/or create conflict with others, all aspects of all our relationships will improve.

Current relationships will become healthier, as the conflicts that are rooted in neediness, seriousness, agendas, aggression, control, protective mechanisms etc. will begin to dissolve.

As we start to become more mindful, those of us entering into new relationships will choose our partners more consciously. We will feel empowered enough to seek out people whose character, lifestyle, and values complement and align with ours.

These pairings will have many less conflicts than those based in neediness, controlling tendencies, or any other unconscious influence, but when conflicts do arise they will be resolved with calmness and integrity.

Children will benefit greatly from these attitudes. Many young parents today are already parenting consciously and embrace many of the concepts in Shefali Tsabary’s ground-breaking book, The Conscious Parent.

– Rosemary McCarthy© February 3, 2020.

Part 2 Partnering Up Consciously, Separating Consciously is will be posted next week.

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