Giving and Receiving Unconditional Love

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Deep within us, we hold a distant memory of the unconditional love we once held—a memory from our beginnings, and which we all still long for.

The history of Humanity has been based on conditional love. This has manifested within our families, community support systems, and even in our religions.

Conditional love has created conflicting messages within us because while people may extol the virtues of love, they do not always uphold them.

We tell our children we love them or want what is best for them; however, this is often influenced by our limited perspectives based on our narrow perceptions, or we unconsciously inflict our neediness or Perceived Needs onto them.

This article /blog post is from my book, Why We Are the Way We Are,

This is the 1st book in my new ‘Our Journeys to Peace’ Series)

About this Book (and the next 2 in the series coming out shortly) found  here

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We have been told that God loves us but also that he is vengeful.

Our psyches have thereby become riddled with conflicts about love. Conflicting messages about love keep us confused about love.

Confusion about love—what unconditional love is.

How to give it—How to receive it,

Is why our relationships are so difficult.

When we are being negative in any way or closed off; when we are angry, judgmental, despondent, pessimistic etc.; or when we are needy, we are distanced from universal flow, and by default we are stuck within the restrictions of our human limitations. Our power-base is weak and feelings of unconditional love are almost inaccessible.

Neediness and Expectations Are Sources of Many Relationship Issues

Neediness creates expectations. Unable to tap into the love within us and our sense of empowerment, we expect others to fill the void.  This causes expectations from others – that often go unvoiced. When someone does not provide what we expect or something we had hoped for does not happen, we are disappointed, hurt, depressed, or angry, and we react involuntarily.

It is the same when we give. In our neediness and low sense of self-worth, we often give with expectations of reciprocity and appreciation. Sometimes this is conscious and we expect tit-for-tat, but often we unconsciously expect certain outcomes, but in either case we are hurt when they are not met. Our offer is not coming from a place of strength or love. It is not coming from unconditional love.

When our expectations are not met, we may also feel that we are being taken advantage of, or, we come to believe that life is not fair. Unmet expectations cause us to blame the other person for our frustrations causing conflict in the relationship.

When expectations are not voiced our hurt feelings seem to come out of the blue—with the other person the receiver of an unexpected onslaught of emotions.

We will still feel justified by our reactions—simply because we feel bad, however, we gave with presumptions—presumptions that the other person had no idea about. We live so much in our inner world that it seems alive—obvious. But it is not.

Others do not know what is going on in our minds, what our emotional world holds, and what presumptions and expectations we have, unless we voice them.

Our unvoiced expectations are just below the surface of our conscious mind whirling around in our Emotional Body looking to be satisfied. Based in neediness, low self-esteem, and a disconnect from our True Self, these expectations are attempts to satisfy what we cannot find within our self.

 

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 ~  Rosemary McCarthy©, October 30, 2019

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The Universal Law of Balance – Part 3/3

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In Parts 1 and 2 I discussed how the Law of Balance affects us on the cosmic and human levels, here I continue by discussing how it affects our spiritual life.  

For Part 1 See  here   Part 2 here

(This article on Universal Law (in 3 parts) is from a series of 8 articles on Universal Law. Links to the other 7 are below)

We know know that it is through our heart-connection that we access the spiritual world, so we must ensure we open our hearts and keep them open so that we can develop a strong spiritual connection. (I discuss the Law of Openness in my books – links are below)

The Law of Balance and Our Spiritual World

Our spiritual life needs the appropriate amount of attention for us to function effectively in the world. A healthy spiritual life is vital to us becoming our Best Self, so we have to nurture it.

Spirit speaks softly. It whispers to us through our hearts. To feel its peace and receive its guidance, we have to take some quiet time every day so that we maintain the connection. We cannot align with its peace or easily hear the guidance or messages Spirit sends us if our mind is busy and scattered, and our body tense and stressed.

This article/blog post is based in concepts from my books

“Your Journey to Peace … “ About Book  here 

and “Why We Are the Way We Are”  About Book  here

(Book cover images below)

Prayer, meditation, yoga, chanting, journaling, reading holy books, or any of the various daily spiritual practices keep our connection to Spirit strong. So does getting lost in beautiful music or art, spending time in nature, and doing what brings us joy. A combination of formal practice and doing what we love and brings us joy and a peaceful feeling is the best recipe for keeping the airwaves to Universal flow open.

Keeping a healthy balance between a focus on material and spiritual matters is also vital. If we become overly concerned with material matters, such as attaining, success, or the focus on our bodies, we will be thrown off kilter and lose the full benefits of our spiritual connection.

Over-spiritualizing life is also an easy trap to fall into, and when we do so we will also become unbalanced: we would find life difficult. We came here in bodies to be in the world.

Most of us are meant to simply express our spirituality and serve God through every day dealings with people and the world – by being loving and compassionate with all whom we come in contact with.

Staying Balanced / Allowing for Imbalance

Still, there may be times in our lives that will call for us to tip the scale off balance to one side, like caring for a newborn baby, being an intern training to be a doctor, or doing an extended spiritual retreat.

And some people’s life purpose is to serve Humanity and the world in a spiritual way, like the clergy, rabbis, yogis, or monks, whereby their lives are dedicated to service, prayer, meditation, etc. Their purpose is not only to guide us on our spiritual path, but they also hold the space of spiritual grace open and alive in the world by their consistent connection to Universal flow. We all benefit from this – even though we are unaware of it.

Apart from the special cases mentioned above, most of us are meant to live balanced lives, keeping a healthy balance between our physical, mental, and spiritual worlds so that we can become all we are meant to be, while using all aspects of our God-given gifts.

We can choose to live life as we please because we have been given free will, however, if we live an unbalanced life, we will suffer the consequences of doing so. We will experience the effects of our choices – whether or not they bring us happiness, help or hinder us creating the life we want, allow us to be in harmony with others, or aid us in our spiritual growth.

(This article on the Law of Balance (in 3 parts)  is from a series of 8  on Universal Laws that was first published in the Starlit Path Magazine from March 2018 to December 2019. Here is the link to the magazine). Below are links to the other 7 in the series.

~ Rosemary McCarthy, originally published June, 2019, updated May 2020.

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here for About “Why We Are the Way We Are” (Book 1 of my  ‘Our Journeys to Peace’ Series) – with book 2 ,Becoming Our Best Self released shortly)

here for this blog Page – here for my other blog page (both with articles on various subjects related to our personal, collective, and cosmic journeys to peace.

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Link to posts on the other Universal Laws (some are long, so are broken up into  more than 1 post)

Link to full post on Part 1/8 – An Intro – Understanding Universal Law HERE

Link to Part 2/8 – Universal Law of Openness HERE

Link to Part 3/8 – Law of  Authenticity HERE

Link to Part 4/8 – Law of Attraction HERE

Link to Part 5/8 –  Law of Cause And Effect  HERE

Link to Part 6/8 –  Law of Balance HERE

Link to Part 7/8 –  Law of Expansion HERE

Link to Part 8/8 – Recap of Universal Laws HERE

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The Universal Law of Balance – Part 2/3

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In Part 1 I discussed how the Law of Balance affects us on a cosmic level, here I continue by discussing how it affects us on the human level. 

See here for Part 1   here for Part 3

(This Law of Balance is the 6th in a series of 8 articles on Universal Laws. Links to other 7 are at end).

On the Human Level

To become all that we are meant to be – to become our Best Self, we need to follow the principles of the Law of Balance that pertain to us and ensure we live in a way that promotes a sense of equilibrium in our lives and harmony in our beings.

To do so we must look after our physical, mental/emotional, and spiritual worlds – and keep them in proper balance.

Our Physical World is comprised of looking after our body with our eating and drinking habits, our physical activity, and our energy output.  If we are unbalanced or over indulge in any areas of our everyday life, such as eating/drinking unhealthily or over eating/drinking, over working, over socializing, or being unnecessarily lazy or apathetic, the Law of Balance will bring us back to center – at one point or another.

This may come about as a desire to better our self, an inspiration that leads to a spiritual awakening that shifts our focus, or, if we continue to abuse our self something may happen that brings about an unwanted change, like an illness or a great loss where we have no choice but to shift our focus.

This article/blog post is based in concepts from my books

“Your Journey to Peace … “ About Book  here 

and “Why We Are the Way We Are”  About Book  here

(Book cover images below)

Our Emotional World affects us both physically and spiritually. It is now common knowledge that we are what we think and that if we are fearful or negative, or focus on our issues or on disease (ours, others, real, or imaged) we anchor these in, or invite new ones into our life. If we focus on divisiveness – on our differences with others and emphasize these and ignore the Oneness we all share, we will create conflict with those around us.

All these scenarios bring chaos in our lives and cause us emotional turmoil; however, we have been unaware that underlying influences have been causing us to act in ways that were counter-intuitive to our peace and happiness, and in creating harmony with others.

Unbeknownst to us, Unconscious Influences run our lives – without our consent. How we feel, how we react, and often what we do, or don’t do, are based not only on our past experiences – the positive and negative ones – and the inner-heart beliefs and habitual patterns these created, but also on what we inherited from our ancestry and Humanity’s history – from our familial, generational, cultural, and religious / spiritual backgrounds.

Until recently it was not widely known that it is our emotional world – our wounds and what we focus on that keeps us in negative and habitual thought patterns and in highly reactive or passive states.

Nor did we know that it is these ways of being that invite conflict and unwanted circumstances into our lives. Conflict and unwanted circumstances often lure us into focusing solely on them, creating an imbalance of focus, which invites more negativity into our life. Vicious cycles begin.

Negative and emotionally imbalanced responses create pull-and-push scenarios keeping the vicious cycles going, making it difficult to break out of them.

It is only when we honestly look at and address our feelings, attitudes, and behaviors, aim to understand where other people are coming from, and examine our approach to life and others, that we can start to override our negative unconscious habitual responses.

It is not our fault that we are stuck in these negative and reactive states and patterns. Humanity’s past history lured us into fearful, survival, and negative thinking patterns that caused us to close our hearts and keep our psyches in overdrive.

In the Western world most of us now are no longer in survival mode, however we have retained the habit of an overactive mind, which has been supported by today’s society with its focus on physical needs and achieving.

As such, our minds have become consumed with our physical and mental well-being, with little time or energy to consider our spiritual well-being. Recent society has also touted the importance of mind and money matters over feeling and heart matters, discouraging us from being open-hearted.

We now know that we can and must override our negative, habitual patterns to find peace in our lives, as well as help create a peaceful world.

We have also recently learned that it is through our heart-connection that we access the spiritual world, so we must ensure we open our hearts and keep them open so that we can develop a strong spiritual connection.

(This article on the Law of Balance (in 3 parts)  is from a series of 8  on Universal Laws that was first published in the Starlit Path Magazine from March 2018 to December 2019. Here is the link to the magazine). Below are links to the other 7 in the series.

~ Rosemary McCarthy,  first published June, 2019, updated May 2020.

To access and stay updated on my future posts see here  to Subscribe to my Free Monthly Publication, OR Follow my Facebook page here

See here for About “Journey to Peace… “    here for About “Why We Are the Way We Are”

here for this blog Page – here for my other blog page (both with articles on various subjects related to our personal, collective, and cosmic journeys to peace.

You can share this article as long as you include the full copyright message below. If you share through Facebook (link is also below), the message automatically copies.

Link to posts on the other Universal Laws (some are long, so are broken up into  more than 1 post)

Link to full post on Part 1/8 – An Intro – Understanding Universal Law HERE

Link to Part 2/8 – Universal Law of Openness HERE

Link to Part 3/8 – Law of  Authenticity HERE

Link to Part 4/8 – Law of Attraction HERE

Link to Part 5/8 –  Law of Cause And Effect  HERE

Link to Part 6/8 –  Law of Balance HERE

Link to Part 7/8 –  Law of Expansion HERE

Link to Part 8/8 – Recap of Universal Laws HERE

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Copyright ©Rosemary McCarthy, first published June, 2019, updated May 2020. All rights Reserved. You may only copy, share and distribute this article provided that the content is copied in its entirety, is unaltered, and is distributed freely and for no monetary or personal gain, and that this copyright notice and the link for the article and the website www.yourjourneytopeace.com are included. However, I would appreciate if you would inform me of where or to whom it has been shared, using email rosemary@yourjourneytopeace.com. Blessings, and thank you kindly. Rosemary

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