Partnering Up Consciously – Separating Consciously (Part 2 of 2)

(This Part 2 expands of last week’s post,

As We Continue to Evolve Our Relationships Will Improve.  (Link is below)

The more we evolve, the more we will be able to easily trust that our hearts are showing us a true picture when choosing a life-partner (or even friends or a business partner).

We will no longer need to be so wary of our unconscious influences luring us into bad situations or have to be so vigilant at continuously examining our emotions, desires, or motives.

Nor will we have to be so cautious of others’ motives. As we will be working at high vibration capacities, our radars will be well attuned to the vibrations of others and if something is off we will cue into it quickly.

The greater our connection to our True Self the more we feel guided towards partners based on true soul parings where we encourage each other to be the best we can be.

And because our strength and self-confidence comes from within, we are not invested in changing our partner or making them acquiesce to our desires.

We also understand that our partner gets his or her strength and guidance from their True Self, and if that guidance is calling them to move on from the relationship we will not be so inclined towards drama, anger, revenge, or the plethora of negative responses breaking up has caused in the past. As well as partnering up consciously, we can also separate consciously.

(This article/blog post is based on concepts in my book Your Journey to Peace, Bridging the Gap Between Religion, Spirituality, Psychology, and Science. Book Synopsis is found here).

Archetypes Act As Conduits to Help Us, and to Strengthen Latent Qualities Within Us

In our most recent history an intact family provided the foundations we needed to grow emotionally healthy, and when divorce or separations occurred, even if the family life was not perfect, the children felt like the rug was pulled out from under them.

This sense of loss is somewhat due to changed circumstances, but much of it is due to the way we separate and divorce. The sense of security children feel when surrounded by unconditional love when growing up is like God’s unconditional love for us.

As we become more evolved individually and are more closely connected to our True Selves, our separations will occur without the dire effects that has been so common and fueled by hurt, anger, rage, revenge, and blame.

We are already encouraging our children to look into their hearts and trust their inner guidance, and so their connection to their True Self is stronger than in past generations. This

gives them an inner-strength that follows them everywhere.

As couples are inspired to separate or divorce with integrity, they will honor the promises made and will be able to agree on shared child rearing duties, day-to-day obligations, and fair distribution of finances. The children will then be much less inclined to internalize the effects of the break-up and succumb to dysfunctional attitudes or behaviors, or pass on the effects of unresolved issues regarding their parents’ separation onto their own children.

This article/blog post is a continuation of my last article,  As We Continue to Evolve All Our Relationships Will Improve (1/2) found here  

~ Rosemary McCarthy©, January 2018, updated Sept 2018.

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As We Continue to Evolve All Our Relationships Will Improve (1/2)


(Part 2, Partnering up Consciously ⁄ Separating Conscious is found on link below).

Relationships are the vehicle that best allow us work out our issues – our pains, fears, reactionary styles, protective devices and all other unconscious influences that keep us from feeling peaceful, living in harmony with others, and becoming our Best Self.

This is especially true in our familial relationships – and in particular with our significant others.

Often we are drawn to one another so that we get together to love, help, support each other in life, to work through our unconscious influences, and/or to play out what our soul contracts dictate.

Issues that come out in our relationships are opportunities to heal them. This is always a good thing and in doing so we grow spiritually. So working towards healing a relationship is most often recommended.

However, sometimes the chemistry people feel with each other does not necessarily have to end in a long or even short-term relationship.

A heart connection with a strong chemical attraction may be a left-over energetic pull from a past-life association. We may have an unfinished lesson to learn with the other and we are only to get together for a time (a reason or a season), a purpose, learn a lesson, and then move on.

It may also be that we are not meant to act on the connection we feel, and the lesson to learn through the energetic pull we feel towards the other is to rise above the chemistry and use discretion in choosing a partner.

This article/blog post is based in concepts from my book “Your Journey to Peace … “

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Archetypes Act As Conduits to Help Us, and to Strengthen Latent Qualities Within Us

Relationships create emotional entanglements and the unraveling from those based in neediness or left-over energetic pulls that hold drama usually carry unpleasantness and emotional pain.

As the effects of this Shift of consciousness Humanity is going through continues to encourage us to find joy, lightness in living, compassion and understanding towards others, and the impetus to overcome any unconscious influence we hold that undermine our self and/or create conflict with others, all aspects of all our relationships will improve.

Current relationships will become healthier, as the conflicts that have their roots in seriousness, neediness, Perceived Needs, Hidden Agendas, and Protective Mechanism will begin to dissolve.

As we start to become more mindful, those of us entering into new relationships will choose our partners more consciously. We will feel empowered enough to seek out people whose character, lifestyle, and values complement and align with ours.

These pairings will have many less conflicts than those based in neediness and unconscious influences, but when conflicts do arise they will be resolved with calmness and integrity.

Children will benefit greatly from these attitudes. Many young parents today are already parenting consciously and embrace many of the concepts in Shefali Tsabary’s ground-breaking book, The Conscious Parent.

– Rosemary McCarthy©  January 2018, updated September 2018

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Worksheet 19:  Small Shifts I Can Start With

(This is a companion blog post to my article “Small Shifts I Can Start With”  See here for link)

Worksheet 19:  Small Shifts I Can Start With (see below for Large Shifts) 

(from my book, Your Journey to Peace … About Book found here

(As recommended with any spiritual or self-healing practice, start with a small, one or two-minute meditation/prayer/attunement. Invite in your Best Self, True Self, higher Self, Spirit, Holy Spirit, Buddha, Jesus, or any other deity to join with you as you aim to clear the pathway to peace).

Small Shifts in Attitudes and Behaviors I Can Make

Replacing Judgment with Acceptance:

  • I can replace judgment with acceptance regarding …

Replacing Blame with Understanding:

  • I can replace blame with understanding regarding …

Replacing Anger with Self-Control:

  • I can replace anger with self-control regarding …

Replacing Indifference with Empathy:

  • I can replace indifference with empathy toward …

Replacing That Which Causes Discord with That Which Embraces Harmony:

  • I can replace my words, attitudes, or actions toward …

Standing up for Myself:

  • I will speak up for myself with ….    or about ….
  • I will ensure I am heard when interacting with xxx  / in xxx circumstances

Large Shifts in Attitudes or Behaviors I Can Make

 ~ Rosemary McCarthy© (2016, updated Sept 7, 2018)

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Starting with the Little Things

(This is a companion post to “Worksheet 19: Small Attitude Shifts I Can Start With”  See here for link)

Our unconscious doesn’t distinguish between small and large issues. So, when wanting to improve our life any small shift in any negative attitudes, habits, or behaviors is helpful for our overall future.

We can start by noticing the little things in life we do or attitudes we hold that keep us disempowered and/or distanced from others. What makes us feel bad, annoys or angers us, steers us into losing our peace, or reinforces our passivity.

The first principle of A Course in Miracles is that there is no hierarchy of illusions. We are either aligned with our True Self (Source), or we are misaligned from it. We either experience the love it holds, or we do not. We either feel empowered, or we do not. We are either able to extend love’s qualities, or we are not able to.

While it may appear that making peace with (forgiving) small issues say, like the guy cutting us off in traffic, can’t do much to change our thought process and positively impact our default attitudes and behaviors, they do. Small shifts start the ball rolling!

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Our higher self is on board with us wanting to be happier, more peaceful, and feeling empowered. And consistently making small attitude shifts has a huge impact on our psyches. Our thought processes and behaviors will automatically start to shift when we continue to consciously choose positive ones.

When we make the effort to shift our propensity to react negatively to even minor upsets and reap the benefits of feeling more peaceful, we are encouraged to continue with more peaceful responses.  Our trajectory starts to change.

For those of us who tend to be passive, taking small steps like speaking up with regard to minor matters builds confidence. In continuing to speak up we will feel more empowered. We will become more confident around bullying, controlling, or manipulative people. This is an immeasurable self-esteem booster!

Starting with the Little Things

Once we recognize how much better we feel when we exchange calm responses for aggressive reactions, or how confident we start to feel when we speak up for our self instead of burying our thoughts, ideas, or feelings, we are ready to tackle larger issues.

Here are a few better attitude suggestions:

  • We can replace judgment with acceptance!
  • We can replace blame with understanding!
  • We can replace anger with self-control!
  • We can replace indifference with empathy!
  • We can aim to replace that which causes discord with that which embraces harmony!
  • We can speak up for our self!
  • Ensure we are heard!

(Companion post “Worksheet 19: Small Attitude Shifts I Can Start With” helps us investigate small attitude shifts we can make. See here for link).

To get the ball rolling all we need is a little awareness and willingness. Awareness of who we are being. And willingness to make any necessary attitude shifts.

And once we are comfortable with forgiving the little things, we are then better equipped to deal with any larger or more sensitive issues that may be holding us from our Best Self.

Starting with the Little Things

When we understand that we have all been unconsciously influenced by Humanity’s past and are only starting to become aware of how to overcome the negative programing we have all inherited, it is easier to – forgive another who has not yet made that connection and is still under the influence of his or her unconscious influences. We all have our own timeline to undo this programing.

And as we begin addressing the small areas where we are not aligned with loving thoughts, attitudes, words, or actions, it is easier to understand others who are still misaligned.

We may have been told – and believe with our mind that we are unconditionally loved and forgiven for all our errs in perception and that there is no hierarchy of illusions regarding forgiveness from God, (Spirit, Source, or whatever we call the universal creative force) for what we have or have not done. However, our unconscious does not believe this.

In reality we exist in a holographic universe. What we see, hear, and feel from our 3D perspective is only a limited view of reality. Just like we now know we use only 10% of our brain’s potential, we are becoming aware that our perceptual awareness of reality is also very limited. That time is an illusion. That our separateness is an illusion. That we are all connected. That our higher selves work together.

Starting with the Little Things

So, when we choose to not react negatively to say, the guy who cuts us off, not only do we feel more peaceful, raise our vibration, and become more aligned with our True Self, from this higher perspective of our connectedness we also affect the other person. They will not feel the forgiveness for their err of perception of who they or we are on a conscious level, but their unconscious does.

And by forgiving, I mean making peace with what another has or has not done – in our mind. It is an attitude shift. A shift in consciousness. Actions can follow, but making peace in our mind with others or situations it engages our higher self. It raises our consciousness.

Forgiving our self – and others – for the smaller and larger errs we and they have made have made heals us and heals them. The more we do this and the more of us do this the more we raise the vibration of the world. It helps raise Humanity’s consciousness. And this raises the Planet’s consciousness.

Humanity is experiencing a huge shift in consciousness. And we are all contributing. We are all on an upward trajectory.

At first it may not feel natural to consciously choose better attitudes and actions. It takes time and practice to override inherited attitudes. And we will forget. Still, we must focus on and be proud of any small and inconsequential progress we make.

Starting with the Little Things

And until it comes naturally to feel positive and loving, to be loving towards others, and to forgive even small affronts against us we can help ourselves along by pretending: we can fake itOur unconscious doesn’t know the difference and Spirit understands what we are trying to do – and supports our efforts.

Stay tuned for next week’s article: Faking it Until it Feels Natural. To access this article and my other blog posts join my newsletter list or follow my Facebook page (links below).

~Rosemary McCarthy©  September 7, 2018.

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