The Indigenous Beliefs, Our Planet, and Our Future

Gaia, our Planet, is a living, breathing organism. She is a conscious, living being. She is our home. She is meant to sustain us. To nurture us. She gives to us freely and asks for nothing in return.

However, most of us in the industrialized world have somehow forgotten the importance of our connection to her.

Both Physical and Emotional Abuses Affect Our Planet

Although some of the changes our Planet is going through are simply part of her evolutionary process, many are because of our greed, ignorance, and modernization – what we have physically done to her by defiling her land, polluting her air and water, damming up her waterways, and raping her natural resources.

Our Planet has also been affected by the emotional abuses we have put upon her. Humanity’s hate, greed, killing, judgment, and control over each other have also affected her energetic body.

Just as mistreatment of our physical and emotional bodies affects all aspects of our well-being, it is the same with our beautiful Planet.

In attempting to rebalance herself, Gaia’s energy flow has shifted and swayed, often causing violent weather patterns.

Humanity once lived in harmony with nature and lived sustainably with the Planet’s natural elements. The further we fell into duality the more we aligned with attitudes of lack and greed.

Our lives became based on acquiring, amassing, and trotting over whomever and whatever to get what we wanted, or thought we needed to survive. Thom Hartmann expresses this beautifully in The Last Hours of the Ancient Sunlight.

Modern civilizations have come to truly

believe that the paths to a better life are 

consumerism and to use our cleverness to

manipulate the “machine of nature”

to our advantage. (1)

For the most part, the Indigenous peoples around the world have maintained a connection with Mother Nature – they still hold a close, reciprocal relationship with her.

Maintaining harmony and a connection to nature was actually a conscious decision Indigenous people made as a group, eons ago, so that when we lost this connection they could show us the way back.

This article/blog post is based on concepts in my book Your Journey to Peace, Bridging the Gap Between Religion, Spirituality, Psychology, and Science. Book Synopsis is found here).

This article/blog post is based on concepts in my book Your Journey to Peace, Bridging the Gap Between Religion, Spirituality, Psychology, and Science. Book Synopsis is found here).

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Indigenous People’s Roadmap to Harmonious Living

The Indigenous peoples’ gentle nature and connection to the earth are linked to the healing of Humanity.

In his article “The Three Seeds,” Charles Eisenstein tells us that thousands of years ago when we chose to play the game of “separation” with nature, the prophets at that time suspected we would lose our way and left “three seeds” to help us find our way back. (2)

The first seed was the “wisdom lineages.” These preserved and protected the essential knowledge, and became the mystical branches of the religions or belief systems: the Zen masters / gurus in the Eastern religions; Hasidism / the Kabbalah in Judaism; Sufism in Islam; the mystical branches of Christianity. The sages and holy men within these spiritual branches upheld the humility and mystical, experiential aspects of their faiths. (3)

The second seed was the “sacred stories: myths, legends, scriptures, fairy tales and folklore.” These tales, crouched in imagery and allegory, transcend the conscious mind, as they are supernatural conduits that convey the hidden knowledge of the ages. They infuse us with awe, wonder, and hope, so that however far we wandered into the “Labyrinth of Separation,” we always had a lifeline to find our way back. (4)

The third seed was the “indigenous tribes” who consciously chose to forgo the journey of separation with Gaia and growth into a technological society that destroyed nature. They instead continued to live close to the land and in harmony with nature so they could eventually provide us with a roadmap back to living in accordance with the “laws of nature.” The various tribes hold different aspects of the knowledge we have lost, such as how to commune reciprocally with nature and the animal kingdoms; read and understand dreams; raise our children; and see beyond our limited third-dimensional idea of time. (5)

Traditional teachings among most native people worldwide reveal their understanding of the concept of enough.

  • Those who live off the land, free of material obsessions, believe the earth will provide them with basic necessities;
  • They understand our deep connection to it;
  • They appreciate that the earth nourishes us with water, air, and food and understand that maintaining the purity of these is crucial;
  • They recognize Mother Earth as a gift from our Creator and that every molecule on it lives and breathes.

(For more information on this notion of enough see here for my article/blog post “The Concept of Enough.”)

The Indigenous Beliefs, Our Planet, and Our Future

Embedded in their histories is the belief that we are all our Planet’s stewards.

We would do well to listen to the Indigenous peoples and their concerns about maintaining fresh air, clean water, and healthy land. To carefully study and reflect on their approaches to nature.

We must do this for them so that they can maintain their connections to the land and cultures, and therefore their sense of empowerment, but we also must do it for all people.

As a collective society, it is the Indigenous people who have maintained the knowledge of how to keep our Planet healthy. Their beliefs about it are our roadmap to achieving a good and healthy future for our children and our survival as a whole – just as they intended eons ago.

We Disempowered Many Indigenous Peoples

Indigenous people all over the world tap into and sustain their empowerment through their connection to the land and cultural traditions.

Wherever we have overtaken their lands and/or forced our ways upon them we disempowered them, to say the least. The effects of centuries of abuse, misuse, control, and marginalization has done extensive damage that echoes through their generations.

It is imperative that we partner with the descendants of the Indigenous peoples throughout the world so their healing from the effects of how we treated them in the past may begin.

We must work acknowledging the accumulative effects of past abuses, with compassion for the plights they now suffer, with fairness in mind, and a goal towards equal rights.

The Indigenous Beliefs, Our Planet, and Our Future

  • We must ensure that future projects for profit (or those in the name of progress we want to promote) no longer infringe on rural, native, or Indigenous peoples’ health, culture, community, or way of life;
  • we must also acknowledge what we are still doing to undermine them, or their healing. Their welfare must be kept at the forefront of any decision-making that impacts the environment as a whole, their health, general welfare, cultural traditions, and their lands
  • we must do this so that Indigenous peoples can regain and maintain their connection to the land, which is essential to their sense of empowerment. This is what will allow them to thrive again;
  • we need to create partnerships with the Indigenous groups within our countries and work together to create a harmonious future that will benefit us all, and our future generations, on the lands we now share.

Programs and Movements Are Being Created Around the World

We are starting to address Indigenous peoples concerns: for the repercussions Indigenous peoples suffered at our hands, as well as to support their struggles against further encroachment on their heritage lands for greed and profit.

In 2012, a movement called Idle No More, was started in Canada countering a specific bill that would directly affect the First Nations concerns.

It spread to the United States, where it grew into one of the largest protests ever regarding Native American issues, and various other protests arose in solidarity around the world.

Many who were not of Indigenous heritage joined the Idle No More protests – some to show support for the native peoples’ concerns and others because of general environmental issues that affect all of us and our future.

In 2015 Canada set up a commission to bring to light and address the abuse and other ill effects for First Nations children that resulted from the Indian Residential School system that was set up by Government and Church over 150 years ago, with the last school closing only in the mid 1990’s.

These schools were aimed to alienate the First Nations children from their families and undermine their culture. The children who were forced to leave their reserves and attend these schools (where they were also badly treated) were heavily affected.

So were their descendants: the repercussions from alienating these children from their families and culture caused far-reaching negative effects.

In India, and after years of struggle, in 2010 the Dongria Kondh tribe won their battle against a resources company to prevent a planned bauxite mine that would have had a huge impact on their land and way of life.

They received support from various sources, one of them being Survival International, who helped create a documentary film “Mine: Story of a Sacred Mountain,” about the tribe’s life and this struggle. Survival brought in well-known British stars Joanna Lumley to narrate the film and Michael Palin help promote their cause. (6)

The film shows that the Dongria Kondh people are autonomous and actually thrive in the area their people have occupied for centuries, contrary to the popular belief that rural tribes and those living isolated from civilization are all characterized by hardship. The proposal to go ahead with the mining project was denied.

This denial has set a precedent and now has an international impact for future companies whose intention is to encroach on tribal lands for profit.

The extensive research that was done throughout the tribe’s struggle brought to light the necessity of fully investigating the effects projects of large corporations have on tribal and native peoples and their way life.

Our Countries’ Harmonies Are Linked to Indigenous Peoples’ Healing

In North America, most of us were not taught and therefore have not been aware of the extent and repercussions of the abuses the Indigenous peoples suffered when colonists came from Europe in search of a better life and took over their land.

The settler’s conquests paved the way for comfortable lives for themselves, and now ours. To ensure we create a good and safe future for all of us it is important to acknowledge and address what our ancestors did as they settled.

It is arrogant, even ignorant of us to complain about immigration and how those seeking a better life are changing the cultural landscape while we have not righted the wrongs made when our ancestors not only changed the Indigenous peoples’ cultural landscape, but in many cases eradicated some tribes completely.

If we want a harmonious future with those who are now immigrating into our countries as well as ensuring that our laws and the spirit of them are upheld, we must connect the dots between how we acted in the past towards the Indigenous people we usurped, the karma this was created, and what we want for our future.

Past karma can be overcome – when we choose to hold to positive attitudes around similar concepts and if we address the repercussions of past negative attitudes and their actions.

The Indigenous Beliefs, Our Planet, and Our Future

We Must Be Wise, Hopeful, and Open to Alternatives

Most of us understand that we have to change our ways to protect our environment and we do what we can, but fully embracing sustainable living while at the same time keeping our mouths fed and our houses heated and/or cooled is a complicated issue; it will not happen overnight. In the meantime,

  • we can educate ourselves;
  • we can start making wiser decisions;
  • we can support others in their quests for environmentally safer choices;
  • we also have to believe in the possibility of creating a cleaner and safer world for our children and their children;
  • while at the same time face the fact that some of what is familiar to us may disappear;
  • and we do this by being open to alternatives.

For example, we can exchange our lush green lawns and properties that require much watering to those characterized by various decorative alternatives to grass and plants.

Kelowna, B.C. (a dry, arid area in the Okanagan valley) has some beautiful properties that use a combination of different colored pebbles, small rocks, mulch, and small flowering and cactus-like plants and shrubs to create beautiful gardens. I’m sure other dry arid places have adopted similar practices.

With a little foresight and imagination there are many alternatives we can implement that are better for the Planet and that will also satisfy us – we just have to be a little flexible and open to new ideas.

Ideas and insights like this will start to be birthed in us once we make the decision to do what we can for our home. Gaia wants to survive – to thrive.

The energy of the planetary evolution we are in is inspiring us to reach for viable alternatives.

There is enough of what we need for all of us to go around, we just have to use what our Planet has bequeathed to us wisely – as the Indigenous peoples are asking us to do. (See here for link to article on our Planetary Evolution)

Eisenstein also tells us that the Indigenous mission has not been to change the world, but to act as a signpost showing us the way.

And although many tribes have disappeared, and most of them and many of us are saddened by this, their assignment was only to continue to exist long enough to show us how we as humans can live in reciprocity with nature and Gaia.

He says that as a whole, they have no awareness of this, but they do feel and have felt sorrow and the unfairness of what we have put upon them and the Planet.

As we all should! Not to focus on past mistakes based in ignorance but using newfound knowledge and understanding to look to creating a better future for all of us.

~ Rosemary McCarthy© April, 2018.

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ENDNOTES:

(1)Thom Hartmann, The Last Hours of Ancient Sunlight: Waking Up to Personal and Global Transformation (Northfield, VT: Mythical Books, 1998), 191.

(2)Charles Eisenstein, “The Three Seeds,” Golden Age of Gaia, June 9, 2012, www.the2012scenario.com/2012/06/charles-eisenstein-the-three-seeds.

(3)Ibid.      (4)Ibid.    (5)Ibid.

(6)Mine, Story of a Sacred Mountain, narrated by Joanna Lumley, (Survival International) http://www.survivalinternational.org/films/mine

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What Is Held in Our Minds Is Reflected onto the World Stage

What is held in our minds and the attitudes that stem from this is reflected in society. When our minds are calm and peaceful and our attitudes express love’s qualities as we go about our day we invite more of the same into our lives, and also into our world.

When we come from a place of fear, blame, judgment, revenge or any thoughts or attitudes based in me-against-you instead of me-and-you, we not only invite divisive and disempowering attitudes back to us, we call them forth into our world.

All aspects of the universe exist under universal laws – including us. The well-known Law of Attraction translates our thoughts and attitudes as how we want things to be: it is as if we are promoting these attitudes.

We are actually inviting in more of the same – for us and around us. And so whatever attitudes individuals hold toward situations or one another play out in society. (See below for link to my post on universal laws).

This Is a Time of Huge Evolutionary Change

At this point in our evolution we are encouraged to face ourselves.

  • Who we are.
  • How we think.
  • Our attitudes.
  • What we do.
  • To shift expressions not of love to those that are of love.
  • To embrace fairness, acceptance, understanding, compromise, mediation, and to look for win-win situations.
  • We are to seek empowerment for ourselves – and for others. This Shift we are in is allowing what is not of love to rise to the surface – for healing.

(This article/blog post is based on concepts in my book Your Journey to Peace, Bridging the Gap Between Religion, Spirituality, Psychology, and Science. Book Synopsis is found here).

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This Shift’s energy is flushing out all divisive attitudes and actions, and they will be exposed for what they are. If in our approach we judge others and focus on peoples’ differences, we create conflict.

If we do not change our methods there will be fallout, because when we create conflict it always reverberates back to us sooner or later. It also invites more conflict and divisive attitudes into the world.

We may not be able to connect the dots between what we put out there and what is happening in our lives, communities, or in the world, but if we are experiencing conflict in our lives or are upset by what is happening around us or in the world, we need first examine our attitudes. They may need an adjustment.

The issues negative attitudes bring about may not exactly reflect what was put out there, but the themes and impact will be similar. The motives at play influence what negative attitudes bring about and the mechanisms at work reflect them back in comparable ways.

Until individuals drop their propensity to judge, to blame, we relinquish our tendencies toward greed and unfairness, and shift to coming from a place of hope instead of fear, the world will not change.

As more of us drop negative, divisive, and disempowering attitudes and exchange these for expressing love’s qualities out into the world we will all start to reap the benefits.

This Shift Is Guiding Us to be Gentle and Non-combative

This Shift is guiding us to make our points to bring about equality and fairness, but in gentle non-combative ways. When we push too hard to make a point, or push against something, the Universe will push back. There will be repercussions for us individually, and for the world.

We can adopt Mother Teresa’s attitude of marching for peace, not against war – to give energy to what we want, instead of pushing against what we do not want. Although she didn’t name it, Mother Teresa lived by the Law of Attraction. All the peacemakers of the world have – in their own way.

What Is Held in Our Minds Is Reflected onto the World Stage

Having ideals and beliefs to live by can be very valuable. They give us a life framework to live by and support systems to help us. And when promoting them we are doing what we think is helpful or right.

However, sometimes we can be erroneous in our interpretation of them or misguided in our approach. Ideals from the past can also be outdated – in need of an upgrade.

In our sincere efforts to guide others to where we think our world needs to be going, we need to keep our focus on promoting what we believe and the benefits of what we are doing and why – calmly and with integrity, instead of focusing on what we think others are doing wrong or should be doing.

Even when we are sincere, doing so only endorses divisiveness: it does not promote unity or God’s love. It does not create the vibrations needed to bring about the world we all want.

So, even when we feel very passionate about something we must ensure we are presenting our point of view with compassion.

Most of us are contributing in any one of the numerous ways to bring about a fairer and more egalitarian world – some in practical ways that are outwardly visible, but many by just being loving to those around them: they are creating the positive vibrations needed to help bring it about.

Even though most of us won’t be able to make major changes in the world, we can all change our thoughts, shift our attitudes, and make small choices that are better for everyone.

We can learn to connect the dots between our actions and their consequences and thereby affect the quality of life of those around us.

Even small shifts in attitudes affect those around us, and they then affect those around them. This will then affect the generations to come.

~ Rosemary McCarthy©, April 2018.

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Free Will, Our Soul’s Journey, and the Big Picture

Free will is a principle within the universal matrix we exist under and for the most part we get to exercise our free will. For our purposes, this has given us the option to adhere to the qualities of love and unity inherent within the energy of creative force we emerged from, or to not adhere to them.

Our Unconscious Influences Affect True Free Will

Our unconscious influences act upon us without our permission. When under the influence of unconscious influences, we may think and feel we are exercising free will when making choices, decisions, or acting upon an impulse, but we are not truly utilizing the gift of free will,

Unconscious influences can affect our emotions and sensory systems. Neediness may come into play, or unconscious influences such as our default position, protection mechanisms, or perceived needs may override our intentions. This may cause us to act in ways we had not intended. Our good intentions may fall to the wayside.

(This article/blog post is based on concepts in my book Your Journey to Peace, Bridging the Gap Between Religion, Spirituality, Psychology, and Science. Book Synopsis is found here).

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Unconscious Influences Can Derail Conscious Choice

Our good intentions are often overruled by our unconscious influences. For example, we may decide we will be kind and patient to our parent on this visit  ̶  even though the relationship is strained. However, when we get together we blow up or give him or her attitude. Some unconscious influence has overridden our decision to be kind and patient with our parent. Our default position (reactionary state) or a protective mechanism (defensive systems we have built up) may have come into play and our free will and its power for conscious decision is unduly swayed: we were not nice to our parent.

We may decide we want to get healthy, but often succumb to overeating, make unhealthy food choices, or drink too much whenever we feel sad, lonely, angry, or stressed. We may be feeding our neediness or have fallen into poor-me attitudes. This derails us from our desire to get healthy. Unconscious influences or undealt with emotions have hijacked our free will.

Life-lessons, Our Higher Purpose, and Free Will

We all manifested here on earth with lessons to learn this lifetime as part of our soul’s journey. And they are all geared towards us choosing love and its qualities over fear and its qualities. We do have free will to learn  ̶  or not learn  ̶  the lessons put before us at any point in time, however, the specific life-lessons will continue to be presented to us until we do learn them. So, in the long run, we do not have free will regarding the lessons we chose before we incarnated. The details of how they show up in our lives may change, but the general theme remains the same.

For example, if part of our soul’s journey in this lifetime is to learn patience, within our relationships, or at our job, opportunities will come up that will test our patience. We will have free will to choose to exercise patience  ̶  or not to  ̶  within each scenario. However, should we decide not to and leave the relationship or job without learning the lesson, other situations will show up in our life where we are given opportunities to learn patience.

As well as soul lessons, many of us come here with a higher purpose that must be adhered to. And sometimes, certain aspects of our higher purpose cannot be overruled. Its Spirit’s / our higher Self’s job to overlook the process. It gently guides us to fulfill what we came here for.

Free Will, Our Soul’s Journey, and the Big Picture

If what we want or want to do is not congruent to the higher purpose we are to fulfill, we may not get what we want or our attempts to do something counterproductive to it may fail.

For example, our higher purpose may be to do something for society or the Planet and part of our soul’s plan to fulfill this role would be that we would not have children. Our higher Self knows this, and if we are balanced we would not be inclined to want children, However, if something in our upbringing caused us to be needy and this translated into a desperation to have children, it may just not come about.

We never know God’s full plan for our lives. From our limited perspective we may feel we want something that will not ultimately serve us or our higher perspective life-plan, and Spirit may step in.

Even when we attempt to stick to the path of our soul’s journey or life purpose and we start with good intentions, we may still get caught up in situations that derail us. At some point, Spirit may intervene and create situations that put us back on the path.

Depending on the circumstances, and how often and how far we have gotten off-track from the lessons we chose to learn or from our life purpose, unfortunate mishaps, relationship breakups, loss of a job, and even illnesses may be our soul’s way of urging us onto a path we are not adhering to, but that we chose before coming into the world.

Rosemary McCarthy©, March 2018

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The World Needs Our Gentlte Touch

The World Needs Our Gentle Touch

Offering gentleness to those around us, people we come in contact with, the animals that inhabit the planet, and to our home, Mother Earth, will help create the world we all want – where everyone is happy, feels fulfilled and empowered, and has all they need to survive and thrive –mentally, physically, and spiritually. Gentleness is one of the main qualities of love.

People Need a Rekindling of the Love Within that Is Inherent in All of Us

Most of us have, or have had, a weak connection to the love we all hold within our hearts, and therefore have been unable to experience the full benefit of this connection – or to express it fully out into the world. Some of us have worked to strengthen it and are reaping the benefits, but many of us have not been able to.

We all emerged from love, and at our core we are all still connected to that love. However, over time, as Humanity’s history played out, our connection to the love weakened, and we became unable to experience pure love and the peace, joy, and gentleness it holds. Whereas once we naturally felt our connection to one another and were able to share in and express love’s qualities, throughout Humanity’s decline we also lost our ability to extend it to others, and our sense of Oneness faded from our consciousness.

Our past history shows that gentleness, as well as many of the other qualities of love, was not valued by those who held the power – nor was it rewarded. Power, control, and wealth were what was valued, and these require might. Gentleness and might are not congruent. People struggled to live, and the effects on our psyches of not living under the umbrella of unconditional love was brought forth through the generations.

Attempting to rid ourselves of the emotional and spiritual pain of being unfairly and/or cruelly treated, we projected our hurts and frustrations onto others in unloving, selfish, impatient, judgmental, and even cruel ways. This created emotional wounds to those around us – and the cycle continued. These unloving ways that were directed at us caused us to contract emotionally and we put up barriers to our hearts. The subtler part of ourselves became overshadowed by the harsher realities, and our connection to the love within further weakened, as did our sense of Oneness with others.

When we are distanced from the love within, we are unable to fully accept love from others or express unconditional love out into the world. When our ability to feel and extend love has been snuffed out, we need help rekindling it. Offering kindness, compassion, understanding, and consideration to others comes through as gentle love. And these expressions of love can overlap depending on the situation, as they are not mutually exclusive. Offering some form of gentleness to everyone we come in contact with will help strengthen the connection to the love within for some people; it may even give enough of a flicker to start to rekindle it in others whose connection is virtually non-existent.

We offer gentle love by our approach as much as by our actions. Here are a few examples of expressing it, as well as the benefits to the receiver:

  • Being kind to all who cross our path; this reminds people there is still love and kindness in the world – even if they don’t feel it within themselves. It may even encourage them to extend it to others;
  • Being helpful and considerate towards people who are in pain, sick, depressed, are in any kind of distress, or are experiencing any type of difficult circumstances; this makes them feel loved and cared about. This is much needed in our busy world today where health care is strained, and family and friends are often far away and/or busy with their own responsibilities to give loved ones the help or attention they need;
  • Being compassionate towards people who have an addiction, or have made bad choices, and are experiencing the repercussions or find themselves in difficult circumstances because of it; this makes them feel loved despite their dysfunctional behavior, and can open the door to them for self-forgiveness – the first step to inner-healing;
  • Speaking kindly to others – those we have similarities with – and those we do not; this helps people feel valued for who they are;
  • Speaking kindly about others, or groups of people being discussed – those we have similarities with – and those we do not; this sends positivity out into the world in general, and helps create a positive vibration around the particular group being discussed – who may badly need uplifting reinforcement;
  • Being accepting to all – no matter how and in what way they are different than we are; this encourages people to be authentic and express who they are – without trepidation or fear;
  • Making peace within our self regarding what others have done to us, or for what we expected of them or they promised to do and did not; letting go of our anger allows us to connect more fully to the love within our self – for our benefit, but this also benefits the world as we are then able to extend love more easily to others;
  • Forgiving others for what they have or have not done; this builds or rebuilds bridges with people we have had conflicts with and opens the door for harmonious relationships; it also gives them more of an impetus to forgive themselves;
  • Offering a helping hand or sharing what we have – just because we can, and with humility; this uplifts people as it allows them to not feel alone in their struggles, and helps them to trust that their needs will be provided for;
  • Giving the other our full attention when in a one-on-one situation/discussion; this helps the person feel valued;
  • Really listening when another is expressing him or her self – with patience, and without interrupting, giving our opinion, or trying to fix things, unless asked; this gives the other the time to fully express him or her self and allows for their feelings to be validated;

We have all come from the same history of what Humanity perpetuated, but were unaware we were carrying forward baggage that created attitudes and behaviors that either hurt our self or others. Most of us have experienced hurts, pains, or unwelcome repercussions or circumstances – either from generational or cultural influences, our own bad choices, or at the hands of others. And many of us have been the perpetrators and hurt others. So, we need to forgive ourselves for what we have done, or not done – to ourselves and to others. And we need to be generous to each other and extend true and authentic forgiveness to those who have acted badly towards us, others, or the world. We need to offer the gentle hand of reconciliation – an olive branch – whenever possible. Being the recipient of a gentle gesture can open our hearts so that we too can forgive.

When we are offered gentleness, it helps us to heal the wounds of hurts or unwanted circumstance that caused us to be disconnected to the love within. The more we offer gentleness and other qualities of love to others, the faster we will all be able to reconnect to the love within and embrace its benefits for ourselves. The more of us who extend love out into the world, the faster we will be able to create the world we all want. As well as offering gentleness to people, we also have to offer it to the animals on our planet.

The Animals Who Share the Planet With Us

Animals share the planet with us to help us, to feed us, to offer us love, and help us grow spiritually. But just like with us, many have been victims of cruelty – for sport, for food, for greed, and even simply because of ignorance and meanness.

Animals have always helped us with our crops and for getting around. And so long as we treat them with kindness, ensure they are given what they need to be warm, safe, and healthy, and train them firmly, but gently, we are using them as intended. Properly and kindly trained animals that are well looked after and not overworked will reward us with good work. They will have served their purpose. We must ensure that as a society we value the importance of respecting the animals that help us.

Humans have hunted for eons. In the past, it was for our survival – for food, clothing, and shelter. And it was a normal practice to use the animals fully, and we often made offerings to the gods of our tribes as gratitude. In our more recent history, we have hunted for sport, rather than necessity. Sometimes this was done with integrity towards the animal and we used the meat and the skins, but at other time we were cruel and disrespected them. We are moving away from hunting for sport for the sake of killing, but we have to continue to support efforts to overturn this practice.

The commercialization of our meat and dairy products along with the proliferation of our demands for a variety of foodstuffs at our fingertips brought about huge industries and this created immense competition. This, along with the greed of some of the producers, created the need to cut corners, and cost efficient but sometimes cruel and inhumane practices toward the animals were created. Since as a society we will still continue to eat meat – for at least a while longer, we must ensure we find our way back to respectful and humane ways of rearing and slaughtering the animals for our tables.

Our domestic animals offer us much needed unconditional love. Our pets fill our homes with fun, love, and laughter. However, many domestic animals are mistreated, while many others are abandoned. We must ensure we continue to educate people on the responsibilities of owning a pet, of the necessity of having them spayed unless we have definite plans for their offspring, and continue to monitor those who profit from looking after our domestic animals.

Although visiting zoos and aquariums offers families a fun outing and is a wonderful learning experience for children, we have become aware of the unfairness of caging animals for our pleasure. We must ensure that those already in captivity are well looked after – in all ways, and continue to question practices that once seemed acceptable, but no longer are.

Some animals and mammals are also known to be spiritually advanced. People who have swan with the dolphins often say they get a feeling they are not the wisest in the water. Our scientists tell us that whales may be the most intelligent mammals on the planet. And most who own a horse say that a special bond is created between the rider and the animal. Just spending time with these advanced beings can open pathways to our heart. We must ensure we keep these brilliant mammals safe and flourishing.

We must be gentle with the animals, mammals, birds and all other life forms that share the planet with us. We must understand the importance of giving voice to and supporting efforts against the cruelty to all of them – whether for profit, pleasure, or sport, or to research that only benefits us. There are many more animals, mammals, and small creatures than those I have mentioned that we treat badly – for many reasons, and we need to continue to uncover and find ways to alleviate any cruel ways we treat all those we share the planet with.

Our Home; Mother Earth

Our planet, Gaia, is a living breathing organism. The Indigenous peoples know this. And just like with each other and with the animals who walk the earth, we have abused her. She too needs our gentleness. In past times, we held a reciprocal relationship with Gaia. She gave to us through her bounty. We took and shared  her gifts – with gratitude, and we looked after her. The Indigenous peoples still adhere to this concept of reciprocity, and still believe in the premise of “enough.”

Our planet has suffered physically through industrialization and our greed. We have been inconsiderate of her air, water, land, forests, and resources. We are now seeing the repercussions of many of the decisions made decades ago. Some of these we made unaware of the long-term consequences; others, we knew there would be consequences and either ignored or buried the research. We have gotten used to the many luxuries that we now consider our right – many of them attained at her expense. We have gone beyond the concept of “enough.”

Our planet has also suffered from the emotional abuses we have put upon her. All the unfairness, judgments, prejudices, hate, injustices, and cruelty we have directed towards each other, groups of people, like through genocides and wars, or even towards the animals have affected her. Because she is a living, breathing organism and it all happened within her boundaries, she too has suffered when those living upon her suffered.

Gaia, Mother Earth, our beautiful planet has had to shrug off all of these physical and emotional abuses. And even though she is still in an evolutionary stage and some upheavals are normal, many of the recent turbulent weather patterns are because of her releasing this negative energy we have put upon her. She too requires our gentleness to help her overcome what she has suffered. It is urgent that we now not only consider her air, water, land, forests, and resources when making our current decisions, but also aim to repair damage already done to her.

We Are All Doing Our Little Parts – One Way Or Another

We have to work on two different levels to bring about the world we all want where love, peace, compassion, kindness, gentleness, fairness, and equality reign, and where we look after everyone and care for everything on the planet, including Gaia herself. We need to work on both the practical and spiritual levels.

There is enough in world to go around, and we have the know-how to ensure everyone on the planet has what they need to be healthy and thrive. Society needs to address the many practical issues that are hindering us bringing this about. We must ensure people are and feel safe, have enough food and clean water to become and stay healthy, and continue to work on everyone having access to sanitary plumbing systems. Working towards solving these issues is paramount to making the necessary changes, but we also have to create the atmosphere to inspire people to do so.

We do this by raising the awareness about the issues, while at the same time raising the consciousness of the planet – raising its vibration, which we do through every positive and uplifting thought, word, and deed. This will help us rekindle the feelings of love within and connectedness to each other – to the Oneness we are all a part of, and inspire us to work towards the good of all.

There is a lot of need in the world – individually and collectively, and nobody can answer it all: we can only do our little bit. And we must be careful not to judge what people are, or don’t seem to be doing to bring it about. Most of us are doing something to help Humanity and the planet – in one way or another.

Some efforts have a large visible impact; most do not. From monks and yogis spending their days in prayer and meditation, to everyday people doing their best to live their lives with joy, passion, compassion, kindness, acceptance, and/or integrity, to people working for animal and human rights, to those working in associations and governments for the betterment of us all, to those who rally others into action – all of this positive energy is working in tandem to get things done directly, and/or raise the vibration of the planet so that we continue to feel inspired to move us all forward.

© Rosemary McCarthy, June 2017, updated November 2017

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All of Humanity’s issues arise from the false belief of our separateness from Source. (Introduction)

Humanity’s history has been based on conditional love. This has created conflicting messages within us, because we extol the virtues of love, but do not uphold them. (Chapter 1)

Feeling peace and being happy and empowered requires that we believe in our hearts that we deserve to feel peaceful, and be happy and empowered. (Chapter 3)

Our capacity to love others is in direct relationship to how much we love ourselves. (Chapter 3, What We Can Do About It).

Our Relationships Are Pre-set Soul Contracts: The highest purpose of our relationships is to work out our unconscious influences: our fears, neediness, vulnerabilities, misperceptions, and false notions about love. They are set up to bring these misalignments from our True Self to the surface – for healing. This is why we find our close relationships so difficult.  (Chapter 5, Relationships)

Being somewhat enlightened means that we have some awareness of the cause and effect of our thoughts, attitude, and actions, and of our interconnectedness. (Chapter 6, Words, Symbols, Rituals, Concepts, Prayers).

Our need to reconcile what we put upon the Indigenous peoples is in direct relationship to our countrys’ successful advancements. (Chapter 9, The Planet and Abundance)

At levels beyond our awareness we chose to be here at this time of ‘The Shift’ to help bring about our and Gais’s Ascensions. (Chapter 10, Ascension).

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Although We Yearn for Harmony, Greed, Judgement, Prejudice, and Hate are often Insidious and Hard to Override

Living at peace within ourselves and in harmony with others is what will make us happy: it is what we all yearn for. However, as many of us do not have a strong connection to our True Self, inner-peace often eludes us.

We unconsciously sense this lack of connection within our being causing inner frustration. In attempts to address this inner frustration, we may adopt attitudes that create disharmony around us.

Although Humanity has evolved spiritually considerably since – say the middle ages, many of the unfair and disempowering attitudes are still anchored within society.

For most of us, any negative or disempowering attitude we hold only causes conflict within our own sphere. However, we still see much blatant greed, biases, prejudice, inequality, and all aspects of hatred expressed in the world every day.

We are often appalled at how some people are treated – simply because of their size, sex, status, race, the color of their skin; for the way they dress, their beliefs, or their sexual orientation.

Witnessing unjust attitudes towards others may cause us to examine ours and may even encourage us to change them. It may inspire us to work to help a branch of society who is unfairly treated or disenfranchised. However, not all greed, judgement, prejudice, hate, and other disempowering attitudes about or towards others are so obvious and above-board.

Most of us are usually not greedy, judgmental, prejudiced, or harbor hate towards others. However, many of us do hold some subtle nuances of these attitudes buried within us – and sometimes they sneak out in covert, or even in overt ways.

Our personal and generational histories often held and even promoted negative attitudes towards others or groups of people – either through blame, revenge, judgement, prejudice, greed, hate, and even cruelty. And even if it did not, our collective history has.

We may not be overtly greedy, judgmental, or prejudice, but we still hold some cellular memory within us from Humanity’s past history of divisive and disempowering attitudes towards others. These may come out in subtle ways through our unconscious influences, which act upon us without our consent.

Society has evolved from say 200 years ago, and more recently we have become more conscious of the need to improve our attitudes and actions toward individuals and the disenfranchised. However, the influence of our past history is insidious and its effects are hard to shake.

Greed, prejudices, and injustice towards others are often deceptively crouched in ideals, social and religious beliefs, and even in helping others. These may be outwardly visible, or they may sneak out from time to time in subtle ways.

Most of us believe we are fair and accepting of all people,

And most of us are – most of the time.

However, sometimes we think we are being fair and accepting towards others but are unaware of how subtle the attitudes that promote negativity or unfairness can be. And some of us have become trapped in mind-sets that hold, support, and perpetuate biases, prejudices, and injustices.

We may uphold ideals, beliefs, or principles from past influences, adopt new ones, or get inspired to promote causes we believe are important. Most of the time we are able to do this without affronting others because of what they believe or support.

However, sometimes without realizing it in discussing our beliefs or endorsing or promoting our causes subtle judgments sneak in. And some of us believe we are justified in calling out others and criticizing their beliefs to promote ours.

Critical and attacking modes are left-over attitudes from our past history that we must work to overcome – individually and as a collective. They perpetuate disharmony, as the vibrations they give off invite more conflict into our life and the world.

Most of us are now realizing the value of extending respect to others, no matter how much we disagree with them. On a practical level, we can resolve differences more effectively with respectful communication and/or mediation. On an esoteric level, the vibrations this gives off creates an atmosphere for more resolution to take place in the world.

Many of us who have learned, been inspired by, or who have adopted new approaches to mental, physical, or spiritual health are anxious to share these findings with others. And most people do so with great insight and humility.

However, sometimes in our desire to share or to be helpful our passion turns into pushiness, and the other feels judged and in the wrong. Conveying newfound knowledge can make us feel important, and this can affect how we communicate it.

Our past has not trained us on the subtleties of judgement, biases, and prejudices. To ensure we are coming across as we intend, we must be aware of how others are receiving our messages.

Without realizing it, underlying threads of me-better-than-you, us-better-than-them, or a holier than though attitude can weave its way into our communications with others.

No matter what is going on around us, to create more harmony in our life and to help bring about a fairer, more accepting, and harmonious world, we can ensure that our communications with and about others are open and compassionate, and accepting of them – no matter how and in what way they are different from us. This helps people feel accepted and validated.

The more a person feels validated and accepted the less he or she is inclined to aggressive or defensive tendencies. They create more harmony around them, which helps diffuse disharmony with people they come in contact with who are not inclined to be fair or respectful.

Each open, compassionate, and accepting response we make creates a snowball effect. To ensure we are communicating in a way that builds up others we must:

Choose Our Words Carefully. Ensure Our Tone Is Gentle.

And Our Body Language Is Open.

We Must Not Fall into the Trappings of Greed – Even if It Is All Around Us

For eons, greed has been the mainstay of those in and with power and has been perpetrated upon the masses. Kings and rulers lorded over their people to such an extent that individuals starved while they lived in luxury.

This caused people who may not have otherwise been greedy to hide, hoard, and steal – just to survive. They were suspicious of those in power – and for good reason. They got stuck in a mind-set of lack – of there not being enough to go around, and a mind-set of disempowerment set in – of not having control over their circumstances.

Although today, at least in most parts of the world, our leaders are not greedy to the point that people are dying on the streets, but they still make the rules – often to suit themselves.

The wealthy still hold power over people’s lives as they get to hire, fire, buy-out indiscriminately, and make back-room deals to support their projects with often no concern for others involved, or for the public.

We now know that corruption is rampant among government, business, and the wealthy. We too have reason to be suspicious. And we are angry.

This may cause us to think that the government cheats me, so why shouldn’t I cheat on my taxes? However, doing so only perpetuates the problem, as cheating is buying into the belief that the Universe cannot provide for us.

We have inherited the mind-sets of lack and disempowerment from our ancestors. And we have been witness to, or even had experience of, the greed of those with power making decisions that benefit themselves to the detriment of others.

It is understandable that this might cause us to want to be stingy, greedy, to hoard, or to be concerned only about ourselves and our families. We do have to be practical with our finances regarding our futures, however, being concerned with only our own welfare perpetuates this old belief of lack in the world.

To help bring about an egalitarian world where everyone has everything they need and the opportunity to reach their potentials, we have to believe it can be so.

And we have to act on that belief by ensuring we are not being selfish or greedy with our finances, our goods, and our time – even if others are.

Our belief in abundance and the hope it encompasses creates the vibration to invite abundance and good things into our life. It also helps to create the atmosphere for abundance to flourish around the world so that everyone can live in comfort and feel empowered.

 

This article is based on and an expansion of various concepts in my book, Your Journey to Peace, Bridging the Gap Between Religion, Spirituality, Psychology, and Science. The chapter titles are listed in the Book Synopsis found at: http://yourjourneytopeace.com/book-synopsis/

 Rosemary McCarthy© May 2017,

updated February 2018

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Our personal and collective attitudes have shaped our past, affect our present, and create a blueprint for our future. (Introduction)

All Humanity’s issues arise from the false belief of our separateness from Source. (Introduction)

Humanity’s history has been based on conditional love. This has created conflicting messages within us, because we extol the virtues of love, but do not uphold them. (Chapter 1)

Somewhere deep within the crevices of our mind lies the cellular memories of the original feelings of living within a harmony-ruled paradigm, and so it remains a longing deep within us. (Chapter 1)

Feeling peace and being happy and empowered requires that we believe in our hearts that we deserve to feel peaceful, and be happy and empowered. (Chapter 3)

We have been detached from and unaware of the unconditional love that is at the core of our being. (Chapter 4)

Don’t wallow in what you have or haven’t done—don’t get stuck in the darkness! (Chapter 4)

It is usually our intellect that is running the show, and our right brain and its creative impulses is usually at its beck and call. (Chapter 4)

Couples are usually just smashing into each other trying to get their needs met. (Chapter 5)

We yearn for intimacy in our relationships, but the playing out of our unconscious influences drives wedges between us. (Chapter 5)

An understanding of past-lives and our past and current soul’s journey can explain why some children in a family may have an issue with say, addiction, while another does not. (Chapter 6)

All form we perceive is an illusion and is of a dualistic nature. Everything within this duality, including us, the Masters, the extra-terrestrials, the light-beings, the Archangels, Spirit, and even the Universe is an illusion. (Chapter 6)

The Universe is holographic. As we move beyond the limitations of the 3rd dimension Humanity has existed under we will be able to take advantage of all it entails. This will allow us to feel empowered, be able to reach our full potentials, and feel more connected to one another. (Chapter 7)

As we continue to uncover all about who the gods of old really were, we must be careful not to allow defensiveness about our beliefs to overshadow the true intentions of the Masters and the intrinsic value of the belief systems that blossomed in their wake. (Chapter 7)

Some of the changes Gaia is going through are simply part of her evolutionary process, but many are because of the abuse we have put upon her through greed, ignorance, and modernization. Both the physical and emotional abuses we have put upon our Planet has affected her, and she has had to shrug them off. (Chapter 9)

At one point in history Humanity lived in harmony with nature and lsustainably with the Planet’s natural elements. The further we fell into duality, lack, greed, and getting what we wanted and needed to survive became our motivation. This grew to such an extent that we now even manipulate nature to those ends. One of the Indigenous peoples’ main purposes was to maintain their connection to the Planet so that when we strayed, they would be able to show us the way back. We must heed their advice! (Chapter 9)

Keeping a vision of the highest ideal of our purpose at the forefront of our consciousness will help keep the pitfalls that monetary abundance and the power it brings with it at bay.  (Chapter 9)

The Ascension of Gaia is a cosmic event of huge proportions! At levels beyond our awareness we chose to be here on earth at this time of the Shift and Gaia’s Ascension for this personal and cosmic journey. (Chapter 10)

We don’t have to understand or even believe all the talk about the Shift or Ascension; we just have to embody or embrace the qualities of love inherent in the higher dimensions. (Chapter 10)

Just as we have the power to become all that we can be, we also have the power to create a beautiful, clean, safe world where everybody thrives. However, it will take collective optimistic vibrations to bring the world we want into our sphere of possibilities and overrule the lack paradigm that remains firmly entrenched in our unconscious minds. (Chapter 11)

The availability of free energy is in the realm of possibilities. However, we must believe in this potential; this will help Gaia align herself to the higher dimension from which we can more easily bring it forth. (Chapter 11)

We all have to find the balance between working within the realities of our lives and our world and aiming to create new and better realities wherever possible. (Conclusion)

Every contact with another person is an opportunity to offer notions of unity and Oneness, or those of polarity and separation. (Conclusion)

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I Choose Me; I Choose You

Choosing me means that we are choosing that which endorses our own Best Self to flourish. Choosing you means that we are encouraging your Best Self to come forth.

Choosing Me

I am choosing me when I stand up for myself, speak up for myself, and make myself heard. I am choosing me when I embrace what brings me joy. I am choosing me when I hang around positive, and light-hearted people. I am choosing me when I engage in activities that are uplifting. I am choosing me when I disengage from drama and negativity, and avoid bullies and controllers. However, sometimes there is a fine line between choosing me for our higher good and overindulging our self.

We often think we are choosing me when we get our way or indulge our self. Sometimes this is true, but sometimes it is not. Aggressively pushing our way through life is not really choosing me, as it is not allowing life to flow through us. And it often brings with it consequences.

Choosing to regularly indulge in over eating, over drinking, etc. may feel like we are choosing me, but we are not. Staying up or out too late on a regular basis, or hanging around with “fun” friends but who steer us in wrong directions is not choosing me. These are all quick fixes to help us feel good now, but they do not help us become our Best Self.

Being empowered to ask for or go after what we want in life is part of becoming our Best Self. It is supporting our True Self. Indulging our self to embrace our passions, to celebrate life events or an achievement, or when we have suffered a loss, is also part of becoming or maintaining our Best Self.

However, we must ask for or go after what we want with integrity and not step on others, otherwise we are acting from neediness, being greedy and self-serving, and/or feeding impulses that come from unconscious influences. Acting in these ways does not come from our higher or True Self – they are disempowering attitudes that come from a disconnect with it and a lack of faith in our real worth.

They do not ultimately bring about us becoming the best we can be and aligning with our life purpose, which is where we will find contentment and feel our true worth. This is because one way or another – whether now, soon, or even in the distant future, actions based on greed, aggression or neediness backfire on us.

We are choosing me when we embrace our passions, as we are answering the call of our soul. This is where we will find peace within our self and joy in living. Celebrating life events and our achievements is life-affirming. This encourages us in life.

When we have suffered a major loss in life we have to take the time to mother our self. Loss affects us on many levels. It can zap our joy and our zest for life. It can affect our self-confidence and our faith in the future. Indulging our self until we feel a spark for life return and start to feel empowered again is choosing me.

While going for what we want, embracing our passions, or celebrating life events and our achievements are life-affirming, we must be careful that in our enthusiasm we not to step on others or overindulge our self to the point of narcissism.

When taking time for our self after a loss we must be wary of not getting stuck in the over-indulging mode, as this could be a way of avoiding dealing with our new circumstances. And whenever we are indulging our self we must ensure we are not acting from neediness, feeding the “poor me” and/or playing the victim. All these forms of over-indulgences are disempowering. They are not moving us towards wholeness.

Choosing You (the Other)

I am choosing you when I allow you to speak your mind, without trying to sway you to my ideas or way of thinking.  I am choosing you when I take the time to listen to you, without interrupting. I am choosing you when I support you in your endeavors, without throwing negativity your way. I am choosing you when I encourage you to follow your dreams, without my fear of being left out overshadowing you attaining them.

Really listening and allowing you to express yourself or speak your mind is choosing you. However, if we are in a social situation and someone is being arrogant, aggressive, or contrary, rather than engage with them it is better to extricate our self from the conversation. They are working from unconscious influences and will not likely change their tone. They will deal with what is driving them to negative disempowering attitudes when they are ready.

Engaging with those close to us, especially our spouse or other family members, offers special challenges. When our lives are intertwined with another it is almost second nature to self-reference what they say and what they do. Without realizing it, we often react from concerns such as “How will this affect me?” “How will this affect us”? “Why are you doing this to me”?

We can’t really avoid engaging with family members, so our best option is to try and understand them, where they are coming from, and it things turn nasty calmly tell the person and disengage.

Whatever our relationship, we must trust that the other is simply stating how he or she is feeling or thinking at the moment, or doing what they need to do to be happy, feel fulfilled, or become empowered in their life.

If the other is simply expressing themself, they need to communicate how they feel for their self-preservation. If they are voicing an opinion or idea, they need to be given the space to express it – without interruption or any negative reaction. And since much of the time people cannot articulate perfectly what they are trying to say, we must be patient with them. We must allow the other to fully express themselves – whatever the subject matter.

If they are discussing the possibility of a new endeavor, they may only need a sounding board to help them figure it out. Some people’s way of working out ideas that are not completely formulated is to voice the scattered thoughts. This helps them work out the details, and so we must be patient with them when they are attempting to articulate their ideas.

Other people throw all kinds of ideas around. Some may seem impractical, unrealistic, or even detrimental to the relationship. Again, we must be careful not to self-reference and become fearful or angry, as this is just their way to work through all the possibilities. They will likely throw out those that may cause difficulty to the relationship. If not, that can be addressed later when the details are clearer.

When someone close to us embarks on a new endeavor or picks up a new hobby that is important to their peace, happiness, or professional life, it is important to encourage them. Just as we must follow our dreams and passions and choose me, we have to allow those close to us to follow what is calling to them and be supportive. We must not allow our fears or any jealousy to mar their moving forward. We must come from the place of choosing you.

At the same time when it seems that a choice someone close to us is making will affect the relationship, it is important to express our concerns, but in a way that uplifts the relationship rather than degrades the other.

Let’s say our spouse takes on extra responsibilities at work that will be helpful financially and to his or her career, but will take time away from the family. We can say something like, “I’m so proud of you for getting that promotion, but we will have to make an effort to carve out extra family time.”

If our young adult child moves across the country for school or work, we can say something like, “I’m so proud and pleased you got into the school (or got the job), but I will miss you, so we will have to visit each other often.” In both cases, we have voiced our concerns, and offered a solution, while at the same time being supportive of the other’s new endeavor. We have promoted choosing me and choosing you.

This article is based on and an expansion of concepts in my book, Your Journey to Peace, Bridging the Gap Between Religion, Spirituality, Psychology, and Science. (See “Book Synopsis” at top of page).

© Rosemary McCarthy, April 2017.

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Improving our attitudes helps change the world, as every shift in attitude affects the vibration of the Planet as a whole. (Introduction).

Somewhere deep within the crevices of our mind lies the cellular memories of the original feelings of living within a harmony-ruled paradigm and so, it remains a longing deep within us. (Chapter 1)

Most humans are deeply conflicted because we are born into a society that extols the virtues of love, caring, and honesty, but is biased in carrying out the representations of these virtues. This creates a pull and push within us.  (Chapter 1, Why We Are the Way We Are)

Powerful shifts will occur in us when we acknowledge the truth of who we are, while at the same time reconcile the truth of who we are being. (Chapter 2, Universal Laws / Kingdom Principles)

Our capacity to love others is in direct relationship to how much we love ourselves. (Chapter 3, What We Can Do About It)

Our Relationships are Pre-set Soul Contracts: The highest purpose of our relationships is to work out our unconscious influences: our fears, neediness, vulnerabilities, misperceptions, and false notions about love. (Chapter 5, Relationships)

We are not exercising true free will if we live under the tutelage of unconscious influences. (Chapter 6, Words, Symbols, Rituals, Concepts, Prayers).

We can reconcile our apparent relationship with extra-terrestrials with our belief systems. (Chapter 7, Science).

The electromagnetic fields we create from our heart chakras are at least forty times stronger than those created from our brains. (Chapter 8, Health and Healing; Death and Dying).

Our need to reconcile what we put upon the Indigenous peoples is in direct relationship to our country’s successful advancements. (Chapter 9, The Planet and Abundance)

At levels beyond our awareness we chose to be here at this time of ‘The Shift’ to help bring about our and Gais’s Ascensions. (Chapter 10, Ascension).

The Importance of Embracing Unity Consciousness (Conclusion).

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