Self-Forgiveness Is Paramount in becoming Our Best Self

(This article is a companion to Worksheet #18 in the book. Link to this worksheet (and 2 others) is found at: http://yourjourneytopeace.com/3-worksheets-forgiveness-making-small-shifts-judgment-of-self-others/

Forgiving ourselves is vital to becoming our Best Self. No matter what “bad things” we have thought, believed, supported, done, or not done, time we have wasted, money we have squandered, or any addictions we have succumbed to, we can turn our life around and rise above what has held us in negative attitudes or patterns hurting our self or others. But to do so we must embrace the concept of unconditional love for ourselves.

The Universe (God, Spirit, Source, or whatever we call the creative universal power) offers us only unconditional love, and within that premise is complete forgiveness. The understanding is that we only ever hurt our self, others, or act badly because we are disconnected from the love within our True Self, and are thereby misaligned from universal understanding. Even though at our core we are pure love, being distanced from our True Self and disconnected from the unconditional love within it we are not attuned to the nuances of compassion, understanding, and forgiveness it holds – for our self and towards others. Detached from these loving qualities we do not always act in our own best interests. This disconnect from the love within us causes us to see others through a clouded lens, which induces us to act negatively towards them.

We are all somewhat misaligned from our True Self and these show up in the various ways we navigate life. This coupled with our various personalities, habits, preferences, upbringing, sexual identities, and our and racial and cultural backgrounds make us all look, speak, and behave differently. When we have a strong connection to our True Self and the love within it we do not see or focus on the differences – we see beyond them to the core of the other person – to the love within them. When we have a weak connection to our True Self and thereby to the love within us, we see others through the clouded lens of the unconscious influences that run our lives and lie between us and our True Self. These causes us to judge, blame, shame, belittle, criticize, ignore, or act in other impassionate ways towards others.

When we act in disapproving or hurtful ways towards others our True Self knows we are acting from our misalignment and still offers us unconditional love and forgiveness. However, the filter of our unconscious influences does not allow these to get through to us, and our ego jumps on the chance to instill guilt and shame into our psyche. For eons Humanity’s history has been based on blame, judgment, guilt, and shame, and so the premise of unconditional love and forgiveness is long forgotten. Guilt and shame are now so ingrained into our psyches that we unknowingly hold onto them and are unaware of the effects they have on our lives. Our inner-being knows it is not good to hold onto these, or any, buried feelings and aims to dispose of them.

In attempts to rid ourselves of these unwanted buried and confusing feelings of guilt and shame we project them onto others or out into the world. This is actually counterproductive, as in doing so we actually amass more and guilt and shame, and a vicious cycle ensues. This is why self-forgiveness is paramount to  overcoming negative responses, and is what allows us feel empowered and become our Best Self.

Self-forgiveness requires giving up and releasing guilt and the shame that goes along with it. Guilt is the principal thief of emotional happiness, but it is only a trick of the mind and has no substance. The underlying causes of guilt are in the past and should therefore be relinquished. Knowing why we said or did hurtful things makes it easier for our unconscious to exonerate itself from our attitudes or actions that have hurt our self or others.

To release the guilt and dissolve the shame we have to acknowledge and release the emotions of what we have done, or not done. Understanding that we were only projecting our unconscious influences onto others, room is then made in the deepest part of our self to connect to the peace and general feeling of well-being that is our intended state. However, during this process of acknowledgement and release we must remember not to get stuck in the old story of what we have or have not done.

Depending on both our innate personality and what we need to forgive our self for, this can be immediate or take years of work. Even those who have committed crimes and are in jail can tap into universal unconditional love and the forgiveness within it and experience a sense of well-being.

We practice self-forgiveness when we recognize that the thoughts we had, words we uttered, deeds we did, or things we didn’t do that are causing us angst, guilt, shame, discomfort, or caused us to become dysfunctional or even an addict, and then release the associated negative emotions surrounding the issue. Understanding that we only acted because of being misaligned from our True Self allows us to face what we have done – for release – not for self-condemnation. Peace and feelings of well-being are the goals of self-forgiveness. Adding more guilt is not. It is the denial and burying of these shadow parts of ourselves that keep us in emotional bondage, take away our current peace of mind, and cause us to continue to act in ways that hurt ourselves or others.

  • We forgive ourselves for undermining becoming our Best Self by acknowledging and addressing the how’s and wherefores of the attitudes and/or actions that kept us in dysfunctional patterns. Taking time to honestly look at the why’s allows our true thoughts and feelings on the subject to surface. Journalling allows them to flow through us onto paper. Asking our self questions helps to connect the dots to why we acted in ways that ultimately hurt us. What were our triggers? Why did we do what we did, or did not do what we were supposed to or had planned to? Were we sad, lonely, angry, overwhelmed, or did we feel unloved or unappreciated? When we pinpoint the reason we can allow/invite the associated emotions to come to the surface. Crying, addressing our anger or frustrations at our self, or yelling at a perpetrator as if he or she were there dislodges the emotions from our psyche, and so their hold on us disappears. (As well as in my book, there are many techniques that aim to empower us and can be helpful with self-forgiveness like The Sedona Method or Byron Katie’s The Work). This can help us examine areas that might need self-forgiveness. It also covers forgiving others, forgiving situations, and forgiving the world. Forgiving ourselves for hurting others, especially our loved ones, brings up many emotions and we will have to effectively deal with the guilt and shame if we want to overcome the effects.
  • We forgive ourselves for hurting others by acknowledging to ourselves how we may have hurt them, make amends when appropriate and possible, and release the shame and guilt of it all. If we have been the person of authority and acted in ways that hurt, belittled, undermined, or disempowered those under our charge, once we face what we have done, are remorseful, are getting the help we need, and are aiming to change the path we are on, we too can return to wholeness and allow for our Best Self to come forth. Forgiving ourselves for hurting our children or a loved one might be one of our greatest challenges, however it must be done if we are to move forward in life free from unconscious influences and the attitudes and behaviors they engender that create further chaos or conflict in our life. And by us moving past the shame and guilt of hurting others and finding a new and better normal, we demonstrate to others who may not be able to face their guilt and shame and/or move past their regrets.

© Rosemary McCarthy, originally posted October 2016,

revised December 2017

This article is based on and an expansion of the sub-section “Self-Forgiveness Is Paramount in Making the Required Shifts” from the Conclusion.  It is a companion to Worksheet #18 in the book, It (and 2 other worksheets) can be found on linkhttp://yourjourneytopeace.com/3-worksheets-forgiveness-making-small-shifts-judgment-of-self-others/.

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Improving our attitudes helps change the world, as every shift in attitude affects the vibration of the Planet as a whole. (Introduction).

Somewhere deep within the crevices of our mind lies the cellular memories of the original feelings of living within a harmony-ruled paradigm and so, it remains a longing deep within us. (Chapter 1)

Most humans are deeply conflicted because we are born into a society that extols the virtues of love, caring, and honesty, but is biased in carrying out the representations of these virtues. This creates a pull and push within us.  (Chapter 1, Why We Are the Way We Are)

Powerful shifts will occur in us when we acknowledge the truth of who we are, while at the same time reconcile the truth of who we are being. (Chapter 2, Universal Laws / Kingdom Principles)

Our capacity to love others is in direct relationship to how much we love ourselves. (Chapter 3, What We Can Do About It) 

Don’t wallow in what you have or haven’t done—don’t get stuck in the darkness. (Chapter 3)

How we choose to live life “in the meantime” will likely be the deciding factor to our happiness, because most of our life is spent in the meantime. (Chapter 3)

It is usually our intellect that is running the show, making our right brain and its creative impulses at its beck and call. (Chapter 4, Along the Way)

Every contact with another person is an opportunity to offer a notion of unity and Oneness, or one of polarity and separation. (Chapter 5, Relationships)

The real purpose of our relationships is to provide a learning tool for us to unearth and heal our misalignments. (Chapter 5)

Free will is our inheritance. However, we are not exercising true free will if we live under the tutelage of unconscious influences. (Chapter 6, Words, Symbols, Rituals, Concepts, Prayers).

Many have confused God’s revenge with the karmic Law of Balance playing out in our lives. (Chapter 6)

The seventh dimension (of the twelve noted) is considered the level of Christ consciousness. (Chapter 6)

The Universe will disappear when there is no longer any need for form to play out the duality we embraced eons ago.(Chapter 6)

The electromagnetic fields we create from our heart chakras are at least forty times stronger than those created from our brains. (Chapter 7, Science)

The Universe is holographic. As we move beyond the limitations of the 3rd dimension Humanity has existed under we will be able to take advantage of all it entails. This will allow us to feel empowered, be able to reach our full potentials, and feel connected to one another. (Chapter 7)

 The different races that visited earth inhabit dimensions with varying degrees of spiritual evolution, just as here on earth some of us are more spiritually evolved while others are more technologically advanced. (Chapter 7)

Our planet is a living, breathing organism … and just like us she has to cleanse herself of toxins – the physical and emotional toxins we have put upon her. (Chapter 9, The Planet and Abundance)

 At levels beyond our awareness we chose to be here at this time of “The Shift” to help bring about our and Gais’s Ascensions – a great cosmic event.  (Chapter 10, Ascension)

When we are completely aligned with the Oneness, there is no awareness of duality and all ideas of separation disappear. (Conclusion)

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How Embracing Our Passions Helps the World

We all came here with a higher purpose: to learn, to experience, and to help others in life and through their life lessons. These show up as the passions within us, and they play out in many ways. Our passions always bring us joy, make us feel alive, and keep us feeling empowered. Leaning into our passions creates positive, uplifting vibrations within our being – which extends out into the world as we go about our daily life.

If your passion calls you to work for the betterment of people, animals, the Planet, or the world in general—do it! You will be bringing forth concrete efforts for change;

  • If your passion calls you to teach—become an educator! You are one of the lucky ones, as you will have the honor of guiding the next generation who have come at this time of the Shift fully open and aware of what the world needs;
  • If passion calls you to create a loving family—do it! The children you bring into the world will further our efforts to create a loving and compassionate world;
  • If you feel passionate about cooking, farming, or the food industry in general―embrace it! You will be nourishing people’s bodies, which nourishes their minds and souls;
  • If passion calls you to the business community, technical industry, or any other seemingly everyday job or career path—answer the call! You will be filling the needs of people in their day-to-day lives as well as those whose life purpose is to directly help others;
  • If you feel passionate about art, music, dance, writing, and so on—embrace it! You will be helping people connect to their heart spaces through the vibrations your creations hold.

It doesn’t matter what we do in life. What is important is that

we answer the call of our hearts, make conscious decisions, and

have passion for and bring integrity into all we do.

While embracing our passions helps the world in practical ways as we share our gifts, energy, and knowledge, it also helps raise the vibration of the Planet. As we embrace our passions we connect to the joy within. Joy has a quality of lightness of being.

We are living in a time planetary evolution. It is Humanity’s time to raise itself out of the depths of the denseness and limitation of the lower dimensions that we have occupied for eons where anger, power, greed, control, and divisiveness have reigned. It is time to embrace the lightness and expansiveness of the higher dimensions. It is our cosmic time to awaken.

Humanity is now going through a metamorphosis – the growing pains of that awakening. The conflict and chaos we now see around us and on the world stage are a result of the pushes and pulls of the new, lighter, loving, and inclusive attitudes we are being encouraged towards by universal energies smashing into the old attitudes and beliefs that still have a strong hold on many of us.

Choosing love over hate, compassion over criticism, acceptance over prejudice, harmony over conflict, and embracing what brings us joy helps to anchor in the lightness and expansiveness of the higher dimensions Humanity and the Planet are entering. And we all invited.

We can be dragged along kicking and screaming holding on to fear, blame, prejudice, divisiveness, selfishness, and unfairness, and creating conflict all around us. Or, we can come along gladly embracing the qualities of love, fairness, acceptance, and integrity, and create peace and harmony around us.

Rosemary McCarthy, October 2016,

updated December 2017

This article is based on and an expansion of various concepts in my book, Your Journey to Peace, Bridging the Gap Between Religion, Spirituality, Psychology, and  Science.  The chapter titles are listed in the “Book Synopsis” of this website found at: http://yourjourneytopeace.com/book-synopsis/

See below for some quotes from the book.

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Below is a little peak inside “Your Journey to Peace ….”

Improving our attitudes helps change the world, as every shift it attitude affects the vibration of the Planet as a whole. (Introduction)

What Is Held in Our Minds Is Reflected onto the World Stage … The Importance of Embracing Unity Consciousness: (Chapter 3, What We Can Do About It).

Our Relationships Are Pre-set Soul Contracts: The highest purpose of our relationships is to work out our unconscious influences: our fears, neediness, vulnerabilities, misperceptions, and false notions about love. They are set up to bring these misalignments from our True Self to the surface – for healing. This is why we find our close relationships so difficult.  (Chapter 5, Relationships)

Being somewhat enlightened means that we have some awareness of the cause and effect of our thoughts, attitude, and actions, and of our interconnectedness. (Chapter 6, Words, Symbols, Rituals, Concepts, Prayers).

The electromagnetic fields we create from our heart chakras are at least forty times stronger than those created from our brains. (Chapter 8, Health and Healing; Death and Dying).

Our planet is a living, breathing organism … and just like us she has to cleanse herself of toxins – the physical and emotional toxins we have put upon her. (Chapter 9, The Planet and Abundance).

At levels beyond our awareness we chose to be here at this time of ‘The Shift’ to help bring about ur and Gais’s Ascensions.  (Chapter 10, Ascension).

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Abundance: How Being Open, Closed Off, or Creating Static Affect our Desires  

Abundance means different things to different people. Being comfortable in life, having a satisfying career, achieving our personal or monetary goals, or having love in our life and loved ones around us are a few of the common goals we aim towards or yearn for.

We have been taught that we have to work hard, struggle, and use all sorts of “tried and true” methods in attempts to achieve what we want, but we are now becoming aware that our thoughts and attitudes have as much to do with attaining what we want and desire as our efforts – maybe even more.

This is because our thoughts and attitudes engage universal powers, which hold far greater power than our efforts alone. Engaging universal powers give us access to universal abundance, which holds far greater possibilities than we could even imagine. However, to fully engage universal abundance, we must be open to it and abide by the universal laws in operates under. (Chapter 2, Universal Laws / Kingdom Principles outlines the laws that affect us and our everyday lives).

Our connection to universal abundance can be open, closed, or it can hold static whereby we send and/or receive muffled messages. To maintain what we have or attract what we want in life, we have to ensure we are aligning our thoughts, words, and actions with the Abundance Paradigm.

At some point in our lives I’m sure we have all experienced having limited funds and have had to be conservative and judicious to meet our obligations each month, or maybe could not even meet them. It is a really scary place to be. Below are three examples of how our attitudes may affect the outcome of being in a sticky financial situation.

We are open to the universal powers that can supply us what we need and want if we are realistic regarding our finances and have remained positive without being in denial; are grateful for what we have; if our thoughts and remarks anticipate an improvement of our circumstance; and if we maintain or proportionally adjust any donation promises we agreed to. We are then being optimistic and believing in the powers of the Universe to help us. This open channel keeps the possibility of receiving or attracting to us what we want alive.*

We are closed off from the universal powers that can help us with what we want if we have become obsessive about our financial situation and have developed negative thought patterns about it; if our comments are pessimistic about our state of affairs; and if we have become angry, stingy, or blame others for our situation and think life is not fair. These attitudes create blocks to our connection to the Abundance Paradigm and our requests do not get through. This also keeps a viscous circle going. We may then become desperate and think of, or even partake in, underhanded ways of solving our financial problems, which further distances us from universal help.

Static is created in our connection to the universal powers when our attitudes keep us in-between being completely open and completely blocked to them. This happens because we may still worry or fall prey to negative thinking but still try to remain optimistic and positive, and we may vacillate between positive and negative comments regarding our financial situation. As we have not completely severed our connection we may see somewhat of an improvement in our money problems, but these conflicting attitudes have created confusion in our being and thereby in our request for the improvements we want. The channel to the universal powers is not fully closed, but as there is static in our requests they may be unclear and/or the insights we receive to make what we want happen might be ambiguous or incorrect as they are based on confusing information.*

If we want to change our financial situation we have to align our whole being with the premises in the Abundance Paradigm, including our thoughts, words, and actions, and therefore our vibrations. Creating abundantly is our birthright. However, if we have thoughts like “I’ll never get out of debt or ahead in life,” we anchor that into our Life Matrix; if someone makes a suggestion for an outing and we cannot afford to join in and say something like “I can’t afford it,” “I never spend money on things like that,” or “I’ll never be able to afford that,” we immediately confirm our lack.

Negative declarations confuse any messages we may have already sent to the Universe. On the one hand, we may want something, request it, and even day-dream about it, but then the words we utter contradict the desire as the vibration attached to the pessimistic words throws a negating component into the mix. This also undermines in us the belief that the Universe can deliver what we want, thereby further blocking the energetic pathways to the Abundance Paradigm and the likelihood of these experiences materializing.

Conversely, positive affirmations such as “I’m in debt today, but know it will change soon;” “I would love to join you but can’t afford it right now;” or “That sounds like so much fun, maybe another time” confirms our desire to participate, even if we cannot afford it now. This invites in the likelihood of being able to partake at another time. Because we have started our replies on positive, hopeful notes, our vibrations emit the desire to the Universe, the belief it can happen, and so the potential for it happening is then born. Our energetic pathway to the Abundance Paradigm is open.

It may not feel right or comfortable having to make all these adjustments to our attitudes or thinking patterns. But we must! We actually request only tidbits of what the universe has in store for us, because have been unaware that we are meant to create our own reality, how to do it, and that love, joy, and feeling empowered are our inheritances. We have become caught in norms that Humanity created eons ago, and we unknowingly perpetrated them. We didn’t know how else to navigate life. But it is now our cosmic time to overcome these disempowering ways of living. Whereas our past history was based on fear, lack, greed, control, and unfairness, we are now ready to regain our own empowerment, and extend love, compassion, acceptance, and equality to all others – so they too can find their empowerment. But as these old ways of thinking are deeply ingrained into our psyches, we have to make conscious efforts to overcome them.

(Illustrations 7, 8, and 9 in the book give a visual of these Open, Closed, and Static concepts).

This article is based on the section “Abundance” in chapter 9, The Planet and Abundance in my book, Your Journey to Peace, Bridging the Gap Between Religion, Spirituality, Psychology, and  Science.  Synopsis found at: http://yourjourneytopeace.com/book-synopsis/

© Rosemary McCarthy, December, 2017, updated February 2018

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Below is a little peak inside other parts of the book:

… Our capacity to love others is in direct relationship to how much we love ourselves. (Chapter 3, What We Can Do About It)

… Our Relationships Are Pre-set Soul Contracts: The highest purpose of our relationships is to work out our unconscious influences: our fears, neediness, vulnerabilities, misperceptions, and false notions about love. (Chapter 5, Relationships)

… Being somewhat enlightened means that we have some awareness of the cause and effect of our thoughts, attitude, and actions, and of our interconnectedness. (Chapter 6, Words, Symbols, Rituals, Concepts, Prayers).

… The electromagnetic fields we create from our heart chakras are at least forty times stronger than those created from our brains. (Chapter 8, Health and Healing; Death and Dying).

… Our need to reconcile what we put upon the Indigenous peoples is in direct relationship to our countrys’ successful advancements. (Chapter 9, The Planet and Abundance).

… At levels beyond our awareness we chose to be here at this time of ‘The Shift’ to help bring about Gais’s Ascension.  (Chapter 10, Ascension).

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Copyright © 2016 by Rosemary McCarthy. All rights Reserved. You may copy, share and distribute this article provided that the content is copied in its entirety, is unaltered, and is distributed freely and for no monetary or personal gain, and that this copyright notice and the link for the article and the website www.yourjourneytopeace.com are included. You can reach me at e-mail: rosemary@yourjourneytopeace.com. Blessings and thank you kindly!

The Importance of Cultivating Joy and Being Appreciative

Being able to tap into pure joy and being appreciative of what we have are spiritual tenets. The more we cultivate joy, the easier it is to tap into, and the more we are appreciative of what we have, more of the same will come into our sphere.

Modern society has become so caught up in wanting more, and most of the time we are running around so busy that we have lost our ability to feel joy and to appreciate the things that we have. However, this Shift is bringing with it impulses to cultivate joy and be appreciative, and so many of us are now realizing the importance of being joyful and appreciative and are turning away from drama, negativity, and continuous activity and becoming more thankful for the little things in life. Appreciation, joy, and gladness are even biblical premises.

I once read something a little girl wrote about joy and being “glad” that stayed with me. Her father had died and her mother remarried a pastor. Her stepfather treated her and her mother lovingly, and she recalled him saying that the word glad was in the Bible about nine hundred times. So this is what he had based his life and ministry on—being and living the tenets of gladness. He believed that God wants us to be glad and happy. We can live in gladness when we feel appreciative and express joy and happiness and all other attitudes that align with these precepts. Being grateful for opportunities and the small and large gifts God or the Universe has bestowed upon us is what embracing the Abundance Paradigm is all about.

We can be glad that something has transpired and appreciate being healthy and happy and having a family. We can appreciate living in a safe environment, be glad we have a job, and feel delighted to have healthy children. If we have lost our job, we can appreciate that we can relax for a while or see it as an opportunity to find a more suitable position, or maybe find one with less stress.

Although overcoming situations like these above examples would seem a big stretch for anyone who has experienced any life-altering situation or recently lost a job, as it certainly would be for me, it is always important to attempt to reach for some sort of appreciation, despite our circumstances. We can give thanks that we are still healthy so that when a job does turn up, we can accept it. We can also be glad that we have a working car or live near transportation that could take us to any job. Being appreciative, happy, or joyful (all aspects of glad) anchors in our appreciation of that vibration and keeps happiness and abundance directed toward us.

© Rosemary McCarthy, October 2016

This article is based on and an extension to the sub-section “Joy, Appreciation, and Abundance” which is part of the “Abundance” section of chapter 9, The Planet and Abundance.

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Below is a peek into a few other concepts in the book:

Improving our attitudes helps change the world, as every shift it attitude affects the vibration of the Planet as a whole. (Introduction)

Our capacity to love others is in direct relationship to how much we love ourselves. (Chapter 3, What We Can Do About It)

Our Relationships are Pre-set Soul Contracts: The highest purpose of our relationships is to work out our unconscious influences: our fears, neediness, vulnerabilities, misperceptions, and false notions about love. (Chapter 5, Relationships)

We are not exercising true free will if we live under the tutelage of unconscious influences. (Chapter 6, Words, Symbols, Rituals, Concepts, Prayers).

We can reconcile our apparent relationship with extra-terrestrials with our belief systems. (Chapter 7, Science).

The electromagnetic fields we create from our heart chakras are at least forty times stronger than those created from our brains. (Chapter 8, Health and Healing; Death and Dying).

Our need to reconcile what we put upon the Indigenous peoples is in direct relationship to our countrys’ successful advancements. (Chapter 9, The Planet and Abundance)

This Shift and Ascension is bringing with it the impetus for sharing and equality for all―including the distribution of the earth’s resources so that all may live in comfort. (Chapter 9, The Planet and Abundance).

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Copyright © 2016 by Rosemary McCarthy. All rights Reserved. To copy, share, or distribute this article simply ensure the content is copied in its entirety, is unaltered, and is distributed freely and for no monetary or personal gain, and that this copyright notice and the link for the article and the website www.yourjourneytopeace.com are included. You can contact me at: rosemary@yourjourneytopeace.com. Blessings, and thank you kindly!

Six Steps that Guide Us to Being our Best Self

You can read more about the book this is based on by clicking on “Book Synopsis” above.

There are six steps that help us remove the blocks to our inner peace and harmony and to the truth of who we are. They play an important role in pointing us toward our more-positive Best Self by uncovering unconscious influences, false perceptions, and misinterpretations that engender ideas of who we need to be and what we need to do to be happy and feel peaceful and empowered in life.

1)Recognizing: At any point in life we may look at ourselves and realize I’m not happy; I don’t like myself; or I don’t like the direction my life is taking. The recognition that something is off may come about slowly, as small awareness creep into consciousness, or in the wake of a pivotal or life-changing event. Somehow we recognize that the way we are going about life is not working, or that our expectations are based on false premises.

2) Acknowledging: Once we recognize that something is off in our life, the next step is to look honestly at our expectations and our reactions, and to acknowledge that at least some of our life situations and frustrations may have more to do with how we navigate life rather than others’ around us or bad luck. This acknowledgement puts us onto the path toward healing and wholeness.

3)Understanding: As we allow these acknowledgements to surface, slowly we will be given insights so that we can start to connect the dots between our misperceptions and false beliefs and how we experience life. Once we get in touch with our feelings and connect the dots, we begin to understand how our false beliefs or perceptions and/or past hurts influenced our attitudes and that many of the frustrations we blamed on others or on life actually came from our own feelings and their respective reactions.

While this realization may come with mixed emotions, such as anger or embarrassment, this understanding will enable us to make peace with our past and how it influenced us, so that we can eventually move past its affect on us. This will have a huge impact on how we now feel. This understanding also brings with it the knowledge that we can affect the direction our life takes by making some attitude or life changes.

This is a good time to take up journaling, as putting words to our thoughts and feelings can help us understand and pinpoint issues we cannot easily access, and make connections to long-buried emotions. It also helps to talk things out with another person, be that a close friend, minister, professional, or a healing and sharing workshop that deals with our inner workings. At some point an internal shift begins to take place and with it an understanding of what is not working for us and why, and how to move in the direction of peace and happiness.

4) Forgiving: Self-forgiveness, forgiving others, situations, and the world is paramount in moving past what is keeping us from becoming our Best Self. We have all only ever acted from misperceiving who we are, as most of us have not been taught to connect to our True Self, and therefore have not acted from pure love.

Self-forgiveness:  No matter what “bad things” we have thought, believed, supported, done, or not done, we can turn our lives around and rise above what has held us in negative attitudes, what has hurt us or others, and what has kept us from being our Best Self. Self-forgiveness requires giving up and releasing guilt and shame, or any form of self-condemnation. These are only tricks of the mind which have no form or substance, as their underlying causes are in the past and should therefore be relinquished. However, to fully move away from self-condemnation we must shift our mental image to also see all others as forgiven and innocent. This aligns with the biblical phrase that “as you see others, so you shall see yourself.”

Forgiving Others: With the understanding that we are all just playing out the misperception of who we are through different forms of negativity and are thereby all innocent at our core, we are able to forgive those who wrong us. If we do not forgive, condemnation remains alive in our Life Matrix (definition below) and our unconscious will not fully allow for our internal forgiveness. Remnants of guilt and shame will continue to play out in our life in negative ways creating conflicts and/or more negative situations for us.

Forgiving Situations: This is also paramount to our inner peace, because when we make peace with our life situations, however they came about or by whom, we are creating peace in our Life Matrix and thereby inviting better or more peaceful situations into our life.

Forgiving the World: With the understanding that all of Humanity has lived under the misperceptions created by living under the shadow of duality created from our beginnings, we must forgive the world―individually and collectively for all that has happened and is still happening. This does not mean condoning the wrongdoings that have and still occur in the world, but to fully anchor in the connection to Our Truth, we have to make peace with all aspects of ourselves and others regarding all current and past world situations. It is still appropriate to act in ways to make the world a better place, but we have to leave judgment, blame, vengeance, and any divisive attitudes aside. Otherwise we will simply attract judgment, blame, and vengeance back into our spheres to be played out again and again within ourselves, our communities, and on the world stage. Any divisive attitude we hold onto like, we-are-better-than-them, will add to keeping the world, and its people, divided with separate, conflicting agendas.

5) Letting go: Releasing Emotions / Shifting Attitudes: Letting go entails releasing buried emotions. It creates a lightness in our being because it lifts emotional burdens allowing for more peace and joy to come through. Releasing negativities we unknowingly allowed in our Emotional Bodies rids us of their hold on us, which in turn shifts our attitudes, improves our reactions, and wards off our propensity towards neediness. Past issues not dealt with properly have a tendency to be dragged into the present through our unconscious influences and played out through our negative Default Position. These are reflected in our attitudes and behaviors and often show up as neediness. They also affect our thoughts of the future. (There are releasing techniques in the book to help get this process going as well as worksheets that aim to bring awareness to the misperceptions, inner beliefs, and attitudes we unknowingly created that are keeping us from being our Best Self).

6) Uncluttering the Inner and the Outer: External clearing out of unnecessary possessions is a beneficial adjunct to internal clearing of emotions and excess internal baggage. It also uncomplicates our lives which helps us to further align with our True Self. Hanging on to old stuff clogs our energetic field with the past and can keep us from fully moving forward in life. The lighter our past emotional attachments, the more room there is for the new us to come forth. The less complicated our lives, the less we have to navigate through to the peace within ourselves, and the less complicated our internal world. We were not meant to lead complicated lives as this leaves no room for joy and thereby distances us from our True Self.

 

Once we start to shift to a more-positive Default Position and our unconscious influences diminish, we will see improvements in every area of our lives. We will first notice this in the little things, such as being less reactive. For example, if someone cuts us off in traffic, we may still react, but will start to recognize that it is more our reaction that disturbs our peace not the event itself, and we will be less inclined to react negatively in the future. The more we practice this, the more we realize it works, and the more often we will react positively to situations. Our Default Position starts to shift.

Feeling less needy, we may start to notice that we no longer get angry or bury emotions from things that used to hurt our feelings, like when a friend cancels on us at the last minute. Life-altering situations like missing that great job opportunity or not getting the house of our dreams may still disappoint us, but we will not stay upset for as long as we used to, as our connection to our True Self has grown, instilling in us more contentment, confidence in life, and faith in the future.

As the small shifts develop within us, we will not be so inclined to dwell on current or past problems, thereby making room for more-positive outcomes. We will also notice that we feel more loving, or at least more understanding of people in our lives even though they have not changed or are still under the influence of the negative. We may also feel better able to express ourselves confidently, without anger, revenge, or fear of belittlement, and be able to walk away from situations that no longer serve our purposes, without regret or shame over why we stayed so long.

As we eliminate activities that stress us or those we are no longer enthusiastic about we become more energized and aligned with our True Self. Our habits will begin to change, and the Law of Attraction will reward the new vibrations this creates by allowing more life-affirming experiences into our spheres. If we finally find the courage to make necessary life-altering changes, we become more confident and fulfilled, as making changes for the better and taking control of our lives is empowering.

Life Matrix: Is the lens through which we see and navigate the world. It holds all our underlying perceptions or misperceptions and all our unconscious influences. It supports what we think we need to be, as well as what we think we need to do to uphold our perceptions, whether real or false. (chapter 1)

Rosemary McCarthy, October 2016

This article is an expansion of the section “Six Steps to Unravel What Is in the Way of Accessing Our Truth” from chapter 3, What We Can Do About It.

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Below is a peek into a few other concepts in the book:

Improving our attitudes helps change the world, as every shift in attitude affects the vibration of the Planet as a whole. (Introduction).

Our capacity to love others is in direct relationship to how much we love ourselves. (Chapter 3, What We Can Do About It).

The highest purpose of our relationships is to work out our unconscious influences: our fears, neediness, vulnerabilities, misperceptions, and false notions about love. (Chapter 5, Relationships)

Being somewhat enlightened means that we have some awareness of the cause and effect of our thoughts, attitude, and actions, and of our interconnectedness. (Chapter 6, Words, Symbols, Rituals, Concepts, Prayers).

We can reconcile our apparent relationship with extra-terrestrials with our belief systems. (Chapter 7, Science).

Our need to reconcile what we put upon the Indigenous peoples is in direct relationship to our countrys’ successful advancements. (Chapter 9, The Planet and Abundance)

At levels beyond our awareness we chose to be here at this time of ‘The Shift’ to help bring about our and Gais’s Ascensions. (Chapter 10, Ascension).

The Importance of Embracing Unity Consciousness (Conclusion).

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